Spending money...

[declansdad]

thank you thats exactly what i choose to do... the reason everyone got all reved up on is cuz they all thought i wanted the mother to give them all their spending money...which was not true and i corrected it on post #2...

thanks again for nice comforting honest answer...

If that is why you think people got "reved up" you really need to re-read the thread..

 

[mjkacmom]

thank you thats exactly what i choose to do... the reason everyone got all reved up on is cuz they all thought i wanted the mother to give them all their spending money...which was not true and i corrected it on post #2...

thanks again for nice comforting honest answer...

I think you missed the point that most don't think mom should send them with any spending money, since they can get some from their dad. I'm sure their mom gives them spending money when she takes them on vacation.

 

[Magic Mom]

thank you thats exactly what i choose to do... the reason everyone got all reved up on is cuz they all thought i wanted the mother to give them all their spending money...which was not true and i corrected it on post #2...

thanks again for nice comforting honest answer...

That's not the reason.

 

[Magic Mom]

This post says everything I need to know.

 

[STAYC18]

I think you missed the point that most don't think mom should send them with any spending money, since they can get some from their dad. I'm sure their mom gives them spending money when she takes them on vacation.

Ok well i guess i was just looking for a:

yes, I would give my children some money to pick a thoughtful gift for me, my husband and their siblings for which they live with...

no, I would not give them some money to pick out a thoughtful gift for me, my husband and their silbings for which they live with... their father should buy those souvenirs for their mother, step dad and siblings...

thats all it had to be a yes or no...

 

[crashbb]

Ok well i guess i was just looking for a:

yes, I would give my children some money to pick a thoughtful gift for me, my husband and their siblings for which they live with...

no, I would not give them some money to pick out a thoughtful gift for me, my husband and their silbings for which they live with... their father should buy those souvenirs for their mother, step dad and siblings...

thats all it had to be a yes or no...

Or (the answer that many of us gave) - I would not expect a gift (nor would my husband or their siblings).

You actually got many of these answers - you just, apparently, didn't like them (or agree with them).

 

[STAYC18]

Or (the answer that many of us gave) - I would not expect a gift (nor would my husband or their siblings).

You actually got many of these answers - you just, apparently, didn't like them (or agree with them).

nope that's a fine answer.... but i just don't see a mother not wanting their children to bring something for their siblings and seeing there face light up because their sister's bought them the coolest Buzz light year spinny light toy.or the prettest princess dress up dolly...thats all...

 

[STAYC18]

i guess i just feel bad for the two other siblings that aren't or never will get to go... so in that aspect i will by them something...

 

[Nancyg56]

we are providing them with spending money...

Then what on Earth is the problem? If you are giving them money why worry about what their mother does?

 

[Lionqueen2]

Blended marriages are difficult and hardest for the children who are in the center. Things work best when people can be considerate of each other and you are fortunate to be going on a nice vacation with your DS and DSD.

If I were in your place, I would make sure each child had a certain amount to spend on souvenirs for him/herself. In addition to that, I would help and pay for some reasonably priced souvies that your SDS could bring back to their siblings, mom, and step-dad. One thing for each person should suffice and possibly something like a box of candy could be a joint gift for mom and stepdad. It's a small price to pay to make two children happy and they won't feel as if they are getting less than your son. The souvies don't have to be pricey, but just a little remembrance. Of course, if mom sends money, then just let them use the money she sent to get mom, step-dad and other sibs presents. I wouldn't necessarily add more if that is the case as long as the money was sufficient.

Being an example of kindness and consideration to your DSD, DS, and DH can only come back to you in abundance.

Wishing your family a wonderful trip.

 

[STAYC18]

Blended marriages are difficult and hardest for the children who are in the center. Things work best when people can be considerate of each other and you are fortunate to be going on a nice vacation with your DS and DSD.

If I were in your place, I would make sure each child had a certain amount to spend on souvenirs for him/herself. In addition to that, I would help and pay for some reasonably priced souvies that your SDS could bring back to their siblings, mom, and step-dad. One thing for each person should suffice and possibly something like a box of candy could be a joint gift for mom and stepdad. It's a small price to pay to make two children happy and they won't feel as if they are getting less than your son. The souvies don't have to be pricey, but just a little remembrance. Of course, if mom sends money, then just let them use the money she sent to get mom, step-dad and other sibs presents. I wouldn't necessarily add more if that is the case as long as the money was sufficient.

Being an example of kindness and consideration to your DSD, DS, and DH can only come back to you in abundance.

Wishing your family a wonderful trip.

i agree...

 

[disneyjunkie]

i guess i just feel bad for the two other siblings that aren't or never will get to go... so in that aspect i will by them something...

.

How do you know they will never go?

 

[tyzzle]

Ok well i guess i was just looking for a:

yes, I would give my children some money to pick a thoughtful gift for me, my husband and their siblings for which they live with...

no, I would not give them some money to pick out a thoughtful gift for me, my husband and their silbings for which they live with... their father should buy those souvenirs for their mother, step dad and siblings...

thats all it had to be a yes or no...

Then next time make a poll

 

[STAYC18]

QUOTE=disneyjunkie;44759121].

How do you know they will never go?[/QUOTE]

i don't, but I do know that their mother never takes them on vacations... and if they do go...guess what.... I'm gonna give them some money so they can bring back their dad, me and brother something...

 

[STAYC18]

Then next time make a poll

great thanks for the idea

 

[YankeePrincess]

This really sounds like a Cinderella type story. The step mothers kids get everything, poor Cinderella gets nothing and is treated like a second class citizen. Thankfully Cinderella comes out as the winner!

 

[cm8]

This really sounds like a Cinderella type story. The step mothers kids get everything, poor Cinderella gets nothing and is treated like a second class citizen. Thankfully Cinderella comes out as the winner!

, I think Cindy had it better


OP, I would still send MY CHILD with money if they went with anyone else besides my husband or myself. Since one parent is on the trip, I would rely on that parent filling in the gap as needed to help with what ever expenses may arise while on vacation. I hope you all have a wonderful trip

 

[Sgt Mickey]

OP I found your new avitar

I am kidding BTW

I WOULD give my kids money if I was the mom. Just so they would have some extra money to have fun with. BUT I wouldn't expect them to spend it on me. BUT I was shuffled between many people in my family when my parents divorced and my parents NEVER gave me any money and I was often a burden to other relatives I know different situation not accusing here just saying why I would BUT I just wouldn't rely on her doing it.

 

[Nancyg56]

I WOULD give my kids money if I was the mom. Just so they would have some extra money to have fun with. BUT I wouldn't expect them to spend it on me. BUT I was shuffled between many people in my family when my parents divorced and my parents NEVER gave me any money and I was often a burden to other relatives I know different situation not accusing here just saying why I would BUT I just wouldn't rely on her doing it.

In my family, my sister and I never got much money when we were kids so once our children were growing up we tended to give our own and each other's kids spending money when they traveled. My DH slipped cash to the girls until just a year or two ago as did my DBIL. It was a little thing but now my DD does the same thing so it must have meant a great deal back when she was younger

 

[ForAandA]

geeze....sorry...i just would never send my son somewhere with no money no matter who he was with...

i've been going to Disney for years now, way before I meet and married my husband...and all i ever wanted was to be able to take my own child and now I can but that now also includes my husband and his 2 children from a previous relationship...my husband could careless about going his idea of vacation is staying home...sorry not my idea of vacation...so in order for me to go and doing the right thing i have to take the whole family..right? or not go at all..right?...all i asked if the other parent should give the two girls a little bit of money in order to buy the mom and siblings a souvenir...thats all...thank you all and i should have learned my lesson on here by now, don't ever bring up step children, i don't know what is up with you people but you take something and turn it into somthing it is so not...but whatever thanks again

Are you not the one who quoted numerous times in a sarcastic tone? Talk about turning it into something its not. Just saying.