Speaking of kids.. How old where you when you had your first??

[cabmom]

1st one at 28, 2nd at 30, third at 32...who knows could be another one, I'm 36 now.

 

[DMickey28]

I am probally looking at 33 or 34 for the first and then a few (three at most) years apart for one or two more...

Seems to be "old" for me (please don't take that the wrong way) but also seems to be the smarter way for us (not for everyone, just for us!!!). we want the best of both worlds... we would have our first next year if we could justify it, however we have debt, don't own a house and DFiance is just ramping up in his career... waiting woudl probally allow for a better lifestyle for all of us....

Can you tell my clock is ticking already? I always wanted to be a cool, young hip mom.... I am getting past that already...

 

[tc]

Married at 18, had my first at 19. Second when I was 21, then I was done. And, yes, I am also still happily married. It'll be 25 years next May!!!

 

[KristiKelly]

I was 26 with 1st (DH 30), I had just turned 29 with the 2nd. We found out I was pregnant the first time on our 2nd anniversary.

I'm not saying this applies to everyone, but we have friends that waited 7 years to have a baby. They became VERY set in their ways in those 7 years & parenthood has seemed rather difficult for them both. They are both used to doing their own thing, when they want to & now they do alot of "it's your turn" type things. They once argued over whose turn it was to change the diaper. I got ready to say "give me the @*%# diaper & I'll change him" Geez, what's the big deal. With Dh & me, it was whoever was holding the baby at the time that changed the diaper.

Edited to add:
I don't know if my friends waited too long & were too set in their ways and if that's made the adjustment hard or if they are both just selfish & spoiled (this is highly possible).

 

[froglady]

We were married 7 years before having our first. I was 32, he was 37. We had our next 10 years later. That was a bigger adjustment than the first, because the eldest was set in her ways.

 

[dsnylvr]

Married at 18, 1st at 20, 2nd at 23, 3rd at 24, fourth at 29. Hit out 18th anv. last thursday.

 

[caitycaity]

my parents had their first child when they were both 31.

i don't have kids yet, but i just wanted to tell you, dh and i are facing the same dilemma. i got married a few weeks before my 23rd birthday. i'm currently in grad school and plan to be in school for about 6 more years (i'm in a MA program now and plan on doing a Ph.D. as well). i want to be done with school and established in my new job (post-Ph.D.) before we have kids, but i'm already 25, and i always wanted to start having kids before i was 30. dh is 27 and already starting to feel "old" i think. he really wants to start having kids now, but i want to wait until i am at least done with school.

 

[laurie31]

I also got married at 26 I was 29 when we had DD1 and 31 for DD2. DH is 2 years older than me.

Laurie

 

[Crankyshank]

I had young parents. 19 and 23. It wasn't all that it was cracked up to be.

I got married when I was 23 and DH was 26. We're not planning on having kids until I'm 33 and he's 36.

 

[JessetheCowgirl]

First at age 30, then 32, then 35.

When we married, I was 23 so we waited a while.

I don't think there is anything wrong with waiting a while. But do talk to your OB--your fertility does drop slightly with each passing year.

I, for one, am so glad we waited. Our marriage was much more "secure" and able to handle the stresses a new baby brings.

Also, we were much more financially secure than when we first married. I know people will say that doesn't matter, but it sure did to us!!! We wanted me to stay home with the kids.

 

[SpecialK]

And I'm the old lady of the group right now. Had my first at 39!!!! Second at 41!!!! So I'm a cool, hip old mom. Didn't get married till I was 37 so this really wasn't a matter of choice. Pregnancies were uneventful and it's all good now.

 

[snoopy]

I was 30 when I had Luke, 34 when I had Drew. The perfect age, for me. Old enough to have sowed my wild oats, young enough to be able to chase after toddlers. We were married 8 years before we had our first, for us, it worked out beautifully. Luckily we never had problems conceiving either of them, both came exactly as planned.

 

[mickeyboat]

Had DD#1 when I was 28, DD#2 when I was 29. Suffered through about 3 years of infertility treatments before #1.

Denae

 

[Robinette]

Originally posted by dsnylvr
Married at 18, 1st at 20, 2nd at 23, 3rd at 24, fourth at 29. Hit out 18th anv. last thursday.

WOW! My life is very similar to yours...

Married at 18, 1st at 20, 2nd at 23, and 3rd at 27!

We are celebrating our 13th anniversary next week!

And would you believe we planned it all! No surprises. Hubby & I want to be young while we enjoy retirement and grand babies!

 

[coliebird]

31 when I had my daughter. I'm hoping to be pregnant with #2 within the next year (I'm 33 now).

 

[2bemarried]

We're in the same boat. I'm 27 and working on my BS in business....graduation in 2007....so I'll be at least 30 before we have the first one. That's not a huge deal for me...but dh is 38 now....and he already feels old. We really want one now, but we both know that I have to graduate before the babies come along...otherwise I'll never finish school.

 

[mrsgus06]

Married at 18, first ds born at 19. Second, dd, was 1 day after turning 28. Divorced at 33, remarried at 34 so I aquired three, ds, 8, dd, 7, dd 5 on wedding day. I inherited number 6, dd now 2 after her mother died when I was 34. No more to come in our future!

 

[skuttle]

I was 24 and DH was 27.

We planned on waiting until we both finished school, had a house, etc, but there were other plans for us and DS arrived a few years early. I don't regret it at all and wouldn't change a thing! I'm actually glad we didn't wait as long as we had planned. We hope to have one or two more...plan to start trying when DH finishes his degree in December 2005.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

Married when we were both 26, 1st child at 30, second at 32, 3rd at 34.

 

[disneygals]

Started dating me 24, him 26, married 29/31...waited til we bought a 4 br house and then

dd 1 at 31/33,
dd2 at 33/35,
and dd3 at 35/37

I am glad we waited, so we had time for ourselves. The first year of my first born was the best year, but it was a HUGE adjustment for us. Our 15th anniversary is this Nov (goes fast!)

Congrats on your coming wedding!!