lalasmama
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It's insane any parent would trust random stranger to sit alone with their child, and 7 is very young. Attractions have downtimes a lot too, they could be alone for hour+ and a 7 year old having to evac down flights of stairs.
Different strokes for different folks.

Could things happen? Sure. But something could happen as they walk home from school. Or when they go to the next aisle over at the grocery store. Or at Little League. Or when they get their tonsils removed. On the school bus to the zoo. Or... Or... Or... Or... I can come up with a million times that something could go wrong. And a million times when my kids (and grandkids now) may need to rely on a random stranger. Despite my crazy, over-the-top general anxiety, I still need to teach my kids/grandkids that the world isn't a scary place, and that not every stranger is out to hurt them physically, emotionally, financially, etc. My MIL believes the world is out to screw her over or otherwise take advantage of her. I don't want my kids/grands believing that every other person in the world is to not be trusted. Most people are good, and that's what I'm choosing to teach the kids in my life.
Our youngest started doing single rider lines around 9yo. This time/age was chosen for her because it was when she was able to consistently get herself in/out of ride restraints, would easily follow instructions from other adults, and be aware of her surroundings. She has ADHD, so it took a little while for me to be cool with her going on her own. She's done great, and we've never had an issue. When she was still early on in using SRL, Hubs and I would do an Adult-Kid-Adult configuration in the SRL, so there would be one of us off the ride and waiting for her at the unloading area, and an adult after her to make sure that she got in the ride vehicle without issue. We also started off on Matterhorn, where everything is out in the open and she's in a seat by herself.
Our eldest grandson didn't do any SRL. We had multiple reasons for this. He's on the autism spectrum. He "forgets" simple rules easily. He gets overwhelmed quickly. He's scared of the dark on rides and likes to hold our hands when he's scared. So, despite the fact that he was 7 on his first trip, we didn't do SR with him.
Our second grandson, though, is a completely different kid. He has ADHD, but his meds work great. He's friendly with strangers. He listens well to all adults (well, maybe not always to Mom and Dad, hahaha). He understands that he needs to listen carefully to ride operators to be safe. He could get himself in/out of ride restraints without any issues. He doesn't "lolly-gag" when he sees that something is important. He was so excited to do SRL, and is a complete thrill-seeker. We did the adult-kid-adult in SRL a few times, again starting at Matterhorn, and then let him do the SRL on his own after that. He rocked it, and still talks about how much he liked using SRLs. I know he did Matterhorn several times, and Grizzly 3 times in a row all on his own, and did several other ones in an adult-kid-adult configuration.
Part of what makes me less scared about something wayward happening to our children/grands as far as being touched at DLR is that nearly every person in the parks has paid serious $$$ to be there. Even with a SoCal pass, it's still several hundred dollars over the length of the year. Most people with nefarious intentions aren't going to pay a chunk of cash every month to go to DLR to find victims.
I totally understand the fear some people have about their kids using SRL, and I don't believe it's a reasonable idea for every 7yo. Like everything else with parenting and caregiving, nothing is the same for every child or every family.