Space Mountain: Clothing Optional - All done and true even if it is April Fool's

[Mndisneygirl]

Love it all!!
Your positive attitude really rubs off on me and I appreciate it. Life is definitely too short to waste spending time worrying about changing other people.

Definitely Phil.

 

[Stacybaeasm]

Dawn, I'm sorry but I am hijacking your thread for a minute.

Anyone who is going to be in and around Disney on Feb. 19th - a wonderfully talented group of 17 teenagers will be performing on the stage at Downtown Disney. The group is TeamSTAGES and the performance is "Broadway, our way." It is an acapella show of amazing broadway tunes that were selected by the members of the group. They were each asked to send in a list of Broadway songs that had, in some way, touched their lives or inspired them. Our musical director wrote new versions of the songs for a 5 part acapella group. I just can't say enough good things about these performers. We will be doing our show at the waterfront stage in Downtown Disney (you know the one by Ghiradelli) at 2:45pm on Friday, Feb. 19. Come see them!! You will be touched and amazed by the talent!!!!!

Ok, now back to your regularly scheduled trip report.

 

[scooby9932]

That is the truest thing ever! I am going to have to remember that when people just do not understand or comprehend what I am feeling. I'm still dealing with losing my sister to cancer three years ago. People just don't get it. But that single sentence sums it up very well. Thanks!!!

I'm so sorry to hear about your sister. I've lost many close friends & a few family members to cancer & am battling it myself. It's a hard disease - sometimes I think harder the loved ones who watch you go through it. It seems so senseless that we haven't found a cure yet with all the advancements in technology & science. I wish you all good things in your journey! The key words you used is dealing with! I think it's a key point in getting better - dealing with the feelings as they come so you can grow & move on to a better place.

Please feel free to use that saying! In all the times I've used it, even when what I really want to say is something else entireley, no one has ever been offended, but many have told me, "You know, you're right. I am blessed. Thank you." I think it makes people stop & think.

K! The computer here did not allow me to get to Photobucket so tom will be the next update or 2...plus the start of the new weight loss thread.

Get thee to a scale and get ready...lets make some changes and make them count for ourselves and our future!

We will have weigh in's each Monday Morning. I also am going to use a tape measure for inches lost. I know that many times I loose more inches than at times weight drops off so be proud of that too. We will celebrate inches lost once a month.

You will not have to post your weight - just loss, same or plus...we will all have them in each category.

I will post my food intake - I would love others to do so as well if they want.

I have ideas for prizes - small and big and loads of awards for accomplishments for you to post in your siggies...I want this a totally positive experience...no matter what your goal is. Even if it is excersize more and you have no weight to lose.

I will post the rest of the info Tom on the WISH thread. I am really excited and hope you all will be too. : yay:

I'd love to join in this new group! I am very overweight but have very little control of that due to 60mg of Prednisone daily & the effects of the other drugs I'm on. Even with a really low calorie diet, I can't lose pounds.

But one thing that I can control is how much I exercise. Some days I hurt so much that the very thought of getting out & about is enough to discourage me. I have to be careful what exercises I do and have used that as an excuse just to not bother. That, and the fact that I don't like the way I look in workout clothes!

But, I have signed up at a gym in town that has a warm water indoor therapy pool which is exactly the kind of exercise I can do without causing myself damage. Now the challenge will be convincing myself to make the time to go. Oh, and to not look in the mirror once I strap myself into my bathing suit! An online support group will be just the ticket to kick my butt into gear & make the most of those gym membership dollars!

 

[shannn]

I am proud of you, my friend. You have taken hold of your emotional life and used maturity in your decision making.

Treyner has many people in his life that love him (maybe too many sometimes, but that's another thread....) and are there for him. It is regretful that his grandmother doesn't choose to be one of those people, but it's her decision and her loss. You can't force her to be a better person and accepting that is so big of you!!

I tell my kids all the time~~ you can ONLY be in charge of YOU! It goes for grownups too!

Now, tell me what to do about an 8 year old who won't learn his addition/subtraction facts, quit picking on his sister, or picking up the piles of carp he leaves all over the place?? I can do the big things, but I'm useless at the small ones!!

 

[Dizneydawn]

Now, tell me what to do about an 8 year old who won't learn his addition/subtraction facts, I still do not know my times tables so is it a possibility he is not good at math? quit picking on his sister,that is something they will have to figure out. Does she pick back at all? Does she need some help getting even? Maybe borrow a tazer from a neighbor. A couple zaps from Lillimeister and he might think twice! or picking up the piles of carp he leaves all over the place??
This one is easy. Give him the rule annd then enforce by placing leftover stuff in a plastic bag for a week the first time. then give it back. 2 weeks the second time. 3rd time is sell the toys and explain he can pay for the maid (you.)

The hard part is that the clothes/shoes left - they may want or need and you have to stick to your guns. One time Treyner had to wear snow boots in the spring for shoes because I was sick of his cleats and tennis shoes littering the landing and me breaking my ankles walking down the stairs with laundry and not seeing what I would eventually trip over.

Let his teacher know why he was comming in with boots - (he had tennis shoes there for gym) and she thought it was great.

I learned that me biaching was doing nothing and the only thing that changed was action and follow through. Carsyn one day went to school in PJ"s. No joke. She is the last to get ready - was always late for school and I finally said - at 8:15 we leave. You will be drug to the car in your PJ's if you do not think you need to be in clothes at that point.

She is still late all the time - but she is dressed! She rides to school with a neighbor and I have told Leah that if Carsyn is not out the door at 7:20 - you can leave. Don't feel bad. Don't take on the consequences for her. Let her figure out how she is going to fix her choice.

So Carsyn now - knows she has to either scramble for a ride from someone else or it costs her $5 for the Mom taxi to leave the driveway.

I have made $30 1st semester. She sits and ughs and moans on the state of affairs in her unfair life and I just sit and wait and then ask, "So is that a yes or a no on wanting the ride for $5?"

She also has been late on those days. No excuse from Mama and has had detention a few days. But she is learning and so am I.

I used to stress over her consequences and worry about what would happen.

Learning that if she is not worried - why the heck am I? Is a huge new transition for me.

I can do the big things, but I'm useless at the small ones!!

Seriously - do the garbage bag thing. You will learn if he values what he has. If it turns out he does not - you will learn that you are wasting your money because there will always be something new he wants more than what he has.

If he does value what he has - he will learn to take care of the things and no more fighting.

1st time I did it to Carsyn's room - I told her she had 2 days to get it done. It was not done and when she came home her room was spotless. She thanked me - then realized what I had done and couldn't believe there was no negotiating or yelling. It was just done.

Baylor - works with money. He has a lot of it and hoards it. So for him - it was a quarter for every piece of toy or clothing I had to pick up of his not in his room. He could earn the money back through extra chores. The chores took 10 times longer to do than his time of picking up the item and he soon realised he was going to get stewed on play time to get back what he lost.
But it was also a teaching tool for other things in his life.

He heard Treyner got a bounced check fee at his bank. He asked how much it cost. Treyner told him $34. He then told Treyner that if he would have made a 1 minute call to the bank to find out his balance, he would not now have to work 4 hours to make up the money he was charged.

Treyner wanted to hit him square in his smug nose and I just laughed!

 

[eliz991]

We have the issues that people in the family never assumes they do anything wrong so how can you reslove issues when a person is not willing to take any responsibility.

I will say I have been purging stress and that includes family. There are just some people who never will stop seeing themselves as a victim and responsible for anything in their life that goes wrong. You can love them, you can let them know when they are ready to sit at the table and take some responsibility and then change rather than repeat behavior, you will be there but the rude awakening I had is that the title of "family" is not a freebie to only bring on misery.

Thank you Dawn, I needed this today. With me it is a close friend who has always been a little flaky and I have made excuses for her to others for years. Well she promised she would do me a favor for my dad - no one else but her can do it - and two months later she hadn't done something that would take 5 minutes. When I got firm with her yesterday, instead of just apologizing, she made it all my fault because I am not understanding of how busy she is. And she made it worse (because she knows I hate this) by saying that she has kids and I don't, and therefore she is more busy and her time is more important than mine.

Don't get me wrong, I know kids are work, but saying that to someone without kids means you win every time because I am not going to go out and grab a couple of kids off the street just to show that I am busy too. Plus if that was the issue then why agree to do the favor? It's one thing to do it to me but nobody messes with my daddy. So now the favor is done but I may not have a friend any more.

Ugh, sorry, threadjack.

Can you post a link here to the weight loss thread? I still get lost navigating around the boards, I usually stick to my subscriptions. Very excited to particpate though.

But I do get a pass for Feb. 15 when I'm in Disney right? Or do I have to find one of those big huge scales and let someone guess my weight? Do they still do that? I did it once and cried when the guy was right, didn't realize I had gained weight since going off to law school. Luckily it was just me and my sister and she grabbed me and dragged me off to a quiet spot and bought me a beer.

 

[DisneyJo]

I think what we all need to remember is not to do the bad stuff (like not visiting) to our own kids once we're our parents age. Does that make sense?

 

[Millie12591]

All I can see is Chris Farley in that classic SNL moment!

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http://www.evtv1.com/player.aspx?itemnum=1422

For some reason this video was hard to get in it's original form. You'll have to hit the replay button once you hit the link. It doesn't want to start any other way. Go figure.
I thought this would bring a smile to your face dear sweet friend. I Love you Dawn, I'm sorry you had a bad mommy moment the other day, but I know your bouncing back! Man! If you ever get that Danny Silk book you'll come up with some seriously great ideas as to getting your kids motivated!!
I'm coming to you from now on when I can't come up with a creative way to get the kids to realize they are responsible for their actions.

 

[Jasperann]

I'm so sorry to hear about your sister. I've lost many close friends & a few family members to cancer & am battling it myself. It's a hard disease - sometimes I think harder the loved ones who watch you go through it. It seems so senseless that we haven't found a cure yet with all the advancements in technology & science. I wish you all good things in your journey! The key words you used is dealing with! I think it's a key point in getting better - dealing with the feelings as they come so you can grow & move on to a better place.

Please feel free to use that saying! In all the times I've used it, even when what I really want to say is something else entireley, no one has ever been offended, but many have told me, "You know, you're right. I am blessed. Thank you." I think it makes people stop & think.

Cancer is hard on anyone it touches. Because there is no cure for it, and you feel helpless to do anything to help (except for chemo and such, but that makes you really sick too.). I hope you overcome it and get fully better.

Sorry for hijacking the thread so much today... You can have it back now Dawn.

 

[MEK]

Wow Dawn, your last post definately got to me. I can't imagine what you experienced the day Baylor was burned. You lived through one of a mother's worst nightmares. I give you props for being as strong as you are and for being able to share your painful memories.

 

[Jasperann]

Wow Dawn, your last post definately got to me. I can't imagine what you experienced the day Baylor was burned. You lived through one of a mother's worst nightmares. I give you props for being as strong as you are and for being able to share your painful memories.

I agree with that!!!

 

[wigdoutdismom]

Wait a minute.....
Did you just say that your mother didn't come over to see Treyner?

 

[Leajess99]

As mothers I think guilt is so powerful and such an emotional stronghold. Baylor's Dad does not get it. He understands I am still stuck there but he does not get it.

There is a Mom who was carrying hot water from the stove to the sink and her 3 year old ran into the kitchen and hit her. Scalding water all over her right side of her face and neck. The daughter is now 7 and the mother at groups, still cannot talk about how it happened. The father has to.

Guilt really is the worst emotional stronghold there is. I quoted about the mom who was carrying hot water because I am the reason my mother ended up severely burned on her stomach and that. I was the child that ran in the kitchen and she pulled back the pan of macaroni with scalding hot water and oil onto herself to save me. While I do not remember it, I do know what happened and not because she wants me to feel guilt but because she wants me to be aware for my children.

A true mother will do what she has to for her children and will feel guilty if something bad happens. Unfortunately there are many mothers now who just should not be mothers.

 

[praisehisname]

All caught up again. Great updates and pictures!

I'm so sorry about the death in your family. Thanks for sharing all your frustrations and anxiety. Your kids are lucky to have you to lean on.

Denise

 

[Dizneydawn]

Love it all!!
Your positive attitude really rubs off on me and I appreciate it. Life is definitely too short to waste spending time worrying about changing other people.

I just wish I would have grasped that fact much younger...because a huge chunk (no pun intended but it is funny now that I think about it...) of my weight is stress eating over other people's stuff and not my own.

Dawn, I'm sorry but I am hijacking your thread for a minute.

We will be doing our show at the waterfront stage in Downtown Disney (you know the one by Ghiradelli) at 2:45pm on Friday, Feb. 19. Come see them!! You will be touched and amazed by the talent!!!!!

Ok, now back to your regularly scheduled trip report.

There is nothing regular about this TR and you can broadcast your hiny off any time! Wish I could be there!

I'd love to join in this new group! I am very overweight but have very little control of that due to 60mg of Prednisone daily & the effects of the other drugs I'm on. Even with a really low calorie diet, I can't lose pounds.
I get it. At different points with my kidney cr@p they have put me on meds that halt weight loss and make my hair thin!
But one thing that I can control is how much I exercise. Do what you can!
But, I have signed up at a gym in town that has a warm water indoor therapy pool which is exactly the kind of exercise I can do without causing myself damage.
My water aerobics instructer also teaches land classes and she says all the time that water aerobics or excersize will hlp you lose faster than anything else. The water puts pressure on your body including your heart so you do not feel how fast your heart is beating. You push yourself faster than you could or would on land. Plus no joint issues. There is no way at my weight I could do 2 hours of any land workout but in the water -I can. I am sore - don't get me wrong...but I can!

Thank you Dawn, I needed this today. With me it is a close friend who has always been a little flaky and I have made excuses for her to others for years. Well she promised she would do me a favor for my dad - no one else but her can do it - and two months later she hadn't done something that would take 5 minutes. When I got firm with her yesterday, instead of just apologizing, she made it all my fault because I am not understanding of how busy she is. And she made it worse (because she knows I hate this) by saying that she has kids and I don't, and therefore she is more busy and her time is more important than mine.
I know when I have excuses in my life...honestly...based on fact but also longated to cover my @ss. Like this mornings class...I am tired as heck. My suit is comming apart form chlorine damage...but I am awake already so why not go? People would cut me slack because we got in late...but the truth is I can go. Don't let your friend feed you garbage about kids.

I used to do daycare for 12 kids and we did fieldtrips every week, every day went to the park...homemade food etc...and then I would have a Mom say - can you watch Johnny late today because I need to go to the dentist.
Seriously people. One kid. And he was 10! Tell him to sit his happy hinny in the office, bring him a book and he can deal with waiting 30 minutes.

The truth is whether she had 3 kids or 17, there is time. It's a matter of priorities.

We all screw up. So say "I suck, " and move on.

Can you post a link here to the weight loss thread? I still get lost navigating around the boards, I usually stick to my subscriptions. Very excited to particpate though.
Will do.
But I do get a pass for Feb. 15 when I'm in Disney right? Or do I have to find one of those big huge scales and let someone guess my weight? Do they still do that? I did it once and cried when the guy was right, didn't realize I had gained weight since going off to law school. Luckily it was just me and my sister and she grabbed me and dragged me off to a quiet spot and bought me a beer.

At least it wasn't cheese curds!

I think what we all need to remember is not to do the bad stuff (like not visiting) to our own kids once we're our parents age. Does that make sense?

Totally does. Be better parents, sisters, friends, grandparents etc...then we have gotten. All I can do is strive to be better.

I'm coming to you from now on when I can't come up with a creative way to get the kids to realize they are responsible for their actions.

I also approve threatening to wax their eyebrows off...just sayin!

And...I may be booted for sharing this....but it is an infamous moment in the life of Treyner and Mom.

So my first son is not the best student. Never has been. So I always made him come with to conferences so me, him and the teacher were on the same page.

In 7th grade they had to take a class I know I have explained before where they meld home-ec and sex ed. The whole "captain condom class" for those that remember that dibacle.

Well at conferences, Treyner's teacher said he was one of the class clowns and liked to make people laugh.

Not quite sure where he got that from?

She explains this includes saying things she knows are not true just to create a huge shock value.

I ask for a specific example and under the table where Treyner and I are knee to knee I have his thigh in a vice grip.

She said..."Well last week we were talking about sex respect and how you should not use body parts to threaten violence or shame another person. Like calling someone a "dink" or giving breast twisters etc.

Treyner raised his hand and said, "So it was wrong for my Mom to tell me if my grades were not improved she would pull my balls through my nose and staple them to my forhead?"

My grip on Treyner is loosened due to the fact I am now in a coma on the floor.

She then looked at me and said, "I am sure you would never have said anything like that!

I gander over at Treyner who looks like he just swallowed a canary and I want to knock out each of his beautifully placed Chicklets!

I said, "Well actually, now that you mentioned it ...perhaps he was telling the truth."

She looked at me in horror and Treyner and I gathered up his grade sheets and I placed him in a head lock and we sauntered out of the room!

In our life...that is normal!

Cancer is hard on anyone it touches. Because there is no cure for it, and you feel helpless to do anything to help (except for chemo and such, but that makes you really sick too. I hope you overcome it and get fully better.

Sorry for hijacking the thread so much today... You can have it back now Dawn.

Don't appologize ever here for that or I will find you and beat you out of love! Since you don't have nuts and all!

Wow Dawn, your last post definately got to me. I can't imagine what you experienced the day Baylor was burned. You lived through one of a mother's worst nightmares. I give you props for being as strong as you are and for being able to share your painful memories.

The absolute worst day of my life no questions asked. I also know compared to many others though, mine was pretty easy.

Wait a minute.....
Did you just say that your mother didn't come over to see Treyner?

Nope! Saw him once on our family Christmas and that was it over break. So she has seen him once since July 28th. Sorry, twice since I flew him home to be at Skyler's 2nd birthday party in October. So she saw him as a surprise since he came to her.

My PITA sister, did not come to Christmas and never saw him over break either. I still have the Potato Head and sweatshirt for Skyler since she was not here and Karen has not called or e-mailed me once since Christmas. She lives at my Mom's - again, 30 minutes away. Ya know though she is a

SINGLE MOM her life is so busy. Yet she does not have Skyler every other week. Hmmmm....priorities I guess.

Guilt really is the worst emotional stronghold there is. I quoted about the mom who was carrying hot water because I am the reason my mother ended up severely burned on her stomach and that. I was the child that ran in the kitchen and she pulled back the pan of macaroni with scalding hot water and oil onto herself to save me. While I do not remember it, I do know what happened and not because she wants me to feel guilt but because she wants me to be aware for my children.
Oh honey - I hope I did not upset you! Did she need grafting? It is one of the most common types of burns there is. I have learned so much more about kitchen safety through all this. Just out of sheer luck more of us have not had that same experience.
A true mother will do what she has to for her children and will feel guilty if something bad happens. Unfortunately there are many mothers now who just should not be mothers.

Sadly that is true as well.

All caught up again. Great updates and pictures!

I'm so sorry about the death in your family. Thanks for sharing all your frustrations and anxiety. Your kids are lucky to have you to lean on.

Denise

Thanks Denise! I appreciate you being here!

So...I am throwing around a few titles in my head...some have the work fat in it. Will people hate me for using that word? Let me know your thoughts! IMO - I am fat. No sugar coating it will change the facts. Not everyone is though so I do not want to offend anyone.

 

[Jasperann]

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I also approve threatening to wax their eyebrows off...just sayin!

And...I may be booted for sharing this....but it is an infamous moment in the life of Treyner and Mom.

So my first son is not the best student. Never has been. So I always made him come with to conferences so me, him and the teacher were on the same page.

I do this with my oldest too! It makes her face her grades with her teacher knowing that she knows.


She explains this includes saying things she knows are not true just to create a huge shock value.

I ask for a specific example and under the table where Treyner and I are knee to knee I have his thigh in a vice grip.

She said..."Well last week we were talking about sex respect and how you should not use body parts to threaten violence or shame another person. Like calling someone a "dink" or giving breast twisters etc.

Treyner raised his hand and said, "So it was wrong for my Mom to tell me if my grades were not improved she would pull my balls through my nose and staple them to my forhead?"

My grip on Treyner is loosened due to the fact I am now in a coma on the floor.

She then looked at me and said, "I am sure you would never have said anything like that!

I gander over at Treyner who looks like he just swallowed a canary and I want to knock out each of his beautifully placed Chicklets!

I said, "Well actually, now that you mentioned it ...perhaps he was telling the truth."

She looked at me in horror and Treyner and I gathered up his grade sheets and I placed him in a head lock and we sauntered out of the room!

In our life...that is normal!

That sounds like something that might happen to me. I threaten my oldest with crazy things all the time. I also tell all my kids I'm going to beat them. (I'm not serious...and they know it.) I told one of my co workers about that and they felt that it was close to child abuse. I guess if I was serious and I actually did beat them then it could be considered child abuse.

Don't appologize ever here for that or I will find you and beat you out of love! Since you don't have nuts and all!

See that is the kind of thing that I would say to my kids. So threats of beating around here are all about love. lol

So...I am throwing around a few titles in my head...some have the work fat in it. Will people hate me for using that word? Let me know your thoughts! IMO - I am fat. No sugar coating it will change the facts. Not everyone is though so I do not want to offend anyone.

What about Chub Busters...

 

[Dizneydawn]

QUICK! HERE IS THE NEW LINK For The Weight Loss Thread!

When Did I Get Voted Off of Skinny Island & Why is This Fat Shadow Stalking Me?

 

[Dizneydawn]

Another reason I want to age better than the path I am on now!

Guess who this is?

 

[tlenzendorf]

Ok, I'm new here, and only on page 25, but OMG!! I've laughed, I've cried and I've gotten looks from my coworkers like did she get drunk at lunch today This is one of the funniest TR I've read, and there isn't really that much TR yet hahaha!

 

[Dizneydawn]

Ok, I'm new here, and only on page 25, but OMG!! I've laughed, I've cried and I've gotten looks from my coworkers like did she get drunk at lunch today This is one of the funniest TR I've read, and there isn't really that much TR yet hahaha!

Glad you found us and hope you don't work next to the "Drunken Moose" or people might talk.

(That is the name of my future restaurant/bar)

BTW: Is your last name Endorf? That is the name of one of the burn surgeons who help my son!

Btw#2 Why is NOBODY GUESSING ON MY GUESS WHO THIS IS PICTURE???