Sooooo Im wondering...Did ya stop and smell the roses???

[DisGirl23]

Im going to try to lose some weight in the meantime . Im interested in seeing how I fit on the rides if i lose some weight particulary test track . I really struggled with that seat belt!

Find some pictures of Test Track and put them on your fridge, in your wallet, on your mirror... anywhere you'll see it. Picture yourself fitting in the seat perfectly every time you look at it. It'll work wonders!

 

[bumbershoot]

I'm glad you finally got the GAC. Documentation isn't supposed to be asked for or looked at.

I'm sure you may have gotten some looks but I'm also sure that your mother's and brother's insessant psychological abuse towards you made you see what probably wasn't there from strangers.

I agree.

Also, as someone who has a stern look on her face even when I'm blissful (as did my mom, as does my aunt), don't automatically assume that someone is looking at you with negative thoughts. Actually, don't assume poeple are even looking AT you! Why waste time thinking that? Assume they are deep in thought about something else, and their eyes are just in your direction. Or they've tasted something awful. Or perhaps they just don't like the food you're holding IF they are looking at you. No point in hurting yourself more by assuming you know what they are thinking.

I really struggled with that seat belt!

Not sure if it's the same situation with seatbelt rides at WDW as at DLR, but a big trick at DLR is to pull the seatbelt ALL the way out BEFORE sitting down. Then sit, and for some reason doing up the seatbelt is just a lot easier.

 

[livie1205]

while I did not agree with your attitude on another thread reading your report made me so sad for you! I am sorry but I would have had them REMOVED from your room and not spent one minute with them...you gave them waaay to much power over you.I think you SHOULD take your kids and go back soon,I dont think it will be has hard as you think and you will have a much better time.There is NO WAY I would let someone insult me that way everytime I ate something! I would love for you to post your pics.

 

[TxTiggergal]

Let me start off with saying if you do not get along with ppl in your everyday life you will NOT get along with them in The World. I had unrealistic expectations.I feel bad for the people staying next door to us. I really do.

I think you hit the nail on the head in this paragraph! People we find difficult in our everyday lives aren't going to just magically change their personalities or character traits just because they are at Disney. I learned this the hard way myself, about 10 years ago, when I invited a difficult relative to come along on our Dis vacation. Never again.

It does sound like you had some positive experiences while you were there, and hopefully your next trip will just be you and your kiddoes. Thanks for posting your report.

And BTW, the rooms at the Polynesian do have indoor corridors. Not sure where you were looking at the resort that looked that way to you?

 

[Jess6001]

I'm so sorry that you had such a bad trip!! I could not imagine saying things that your mom and brother said to a stranger let alone a family member! I really hope you know that they are the ones with the problem (not you!) and that you don't need to let them hurt you anymore. I know it must be super hard because they're family, but people that treat you bad don't deserve to spend time in your company. I hope that the support on the boards helps you get over this painful trip. I'm sending hugs your way!!

 

[duffy]

I'm sorry your trip didn't go off as magically as you hoped. I was one of those who also told herself that it wouldn't be very good.

I understand that it can be hard to cut people out totally. I would suggest telling both your mom and brother that you are not going to stay and listen to them insult you. If they start up, just get up and leave. Don't threaten to leave, just go. If you arrive at one of their homes, and they immediately start, then you must immediately leave. Tell them exactly why you are leaving, and don't give them any chances to "behave better", or apologize. That's it, just go. If they come to understand that you are literally not going to listen to them, maybe they'll shape up. Maybe. I doubt it, but I advocate giving them a chance to change.

 

[parkers218]

OMG your mom and brother are jerks!!!...sorry I know they are your family and I shouldn't talk about them that way but well they are DON"T let them ruin your life!! I know it's hard you want the most important ppl in your life to love and respect you for who you are and it hurts alot when they dont But know this...It's THEIR problem..they are bullies!! I agree with one of the pp that said if for no other reason do it for you kids..kids are little sponges... keep them away from these ppl..I mean the last thing you want is for your kids to think it's ok to speak to you like that

On a different note the Poly is all indoor corridors...but they do have alot of balconies (love the balconies).. so maybe from wherever you viewpoint was.. the way they lined up could have made it look like the motel-open to the outside type of hotel

 

[2BOYMOM]

I am really sorry that you had those bad times with your Mom and brother. But I'm also very glad that you were able to have to great times with your kiddos!

I think when you do visit again in 2 years or so (just you and your kiddos) that you will have an excellent time. You already know the magic that you will share with your kiddos when it is just you 3!

I'm sorry your Mom and brother feel the need to treat you that way. I guess in some sick way, it makes them feel better about themselves. But it's at your expense. I think you decision to cut them our of your life is probably one of the best decisions you could make for yourself and your kiddos! I think the way they have treated you is one of the reasons you feel like everyone is looking at you when you eat, etc. They have made you feel this way about yourself and it isn't right!

And just so you know, I am not pooh size but I always have trouble with those seatbelts on TT as well. Not sure what it is about them, but they always throw me for a loop!

 

[Andrea73]

I agree with one of the pp that said if for no other reason do it for you kids..kids are little sponges... keep them away from these ppl..I mean the last thing you want is for your kids to think it's ok to speak to you like that

I have to agree with this statement 100%. I have some issues with my family that boiled over last Christmas. My 8 year old asked me "Have they been talking to you like that your whole life?!"

It was a turning point for me. I made it crystal clear that they could speak to each other the way they wished, but they would NOT talk to me that way. Period. I stand by it and if they ever do it again, I will be standing up, packing my kids, walking out and driving 6 hours home.

 

[JennyDrake]

I'm so sorry you are were so miserable. Please allow me to offer two bits of FROM PERSONAL EXPERIENCE advice: Read and absorb the book, Boundaries, by Henry Cloud.It can transform your life. Second, get some solid, personal professional counseling. You can have a life more wonderful than you ever imagined.

 

[princessreilly]

 

[DisneyMama409]

I plan on having a totally diffrent trip next time around. I was miserable this whole entire trip. I was on edge and irritated and I snapped at my kids a few times and I really just wanted to snap at my mom and brother. I was bombarded with insults since they first laid eyes on me. They really do a good job ruining my life . I have all of this negetivity in my life that just seems to never end. I believe my mother deep down likes to see me obese and down in the dumps without a spouse. I think it makes her feel better to see me just as miserable as her. In fact for awhile I even refused to lose weight because I was afraid of what she would say. Last year I got on the alli diet and I was losing weight and I started taking more pride in my appearance and she immediately insulted me and questioned why I was wearing this and that and have my hair done. It's like whenever I actually try to be normal she can't have it . She loses her mind . I LIKE to blend in. I WANT to be accepted by society . My family is downright wierd and nasty and im ashamed im related to them . Everytime we were in a line for a ride we stood out like sore thumbs. We stood out because my mom and brother constantly cursed and argued. When I would try to leave they would follow me . It sickens me.

Im also sickened by my weakness. I KNOW they are toxic. I KNOW they are wierd and all of these things. I just cant help falling back into thier old pattern . It's like Im not comfortable unless im insulted by them. I cut my mom off a few months ago and I had physical withdrawal symptons. I was lightheaded, had headaches and i felt physically ill until I spoke to her again and got back in the pattern im so familiar with. I HATE HATE HATE that Im raising my kids with all of this dysfunction. I need to cut them off permanently but its difficult. For one I think well what does she think about it ...like i need her permission to cut her off. Secondly my kids are very attached to her. My daughter will not leave the room when my mom is around. She just gets very happy ...but something has to give.I can't be happy if im miserable...I cant be a good mom if Im slowly dying inside AND outside . I most likely contuinue to put on this weight due to all of this abuse ive been silently suffering with. The only place I talk about it is online. When I do talk about it online I get deemed a troll...because I tell TOO much but I have no outlet. I have to talk about it to somebody...ANYBODY . Im going to try my hardest to break this cycle and get a healthy life .I have to . I cant contuinue to be weak and than let my kids suffer. Can you imagine your own mother calling your kids names and constantly calling you a bad parent because they have autism ? She does'nt even care. She says it right in front of thier face . Im just glad dd doesnt quite know what she is saying yet..atleast I hope she does'nt. Im sorry Im going on and on and on . Long story short Im going to start making steps to a more peaceful life. Im definetly going to need to speak to a counselor to get me through this difficult transistion. I feel queasy just thinking about it.

 

[DisneyMama409]

I cant wait until Monday and I get to actually speak to a counselor that can guide me through the steps i need to make . Im ready to be happy for once. I havent been happy in years .

 

[2BOYMOM]

Just wanted to let you know that I'm very proud of you for taking this step! And the things you said in your last post break my heart for you but I'm so glad to see that you understand what is going on and that you need to put a stop to it. Life is just so not fun sometimes......

Hey, I don't mind you letting loose about it online. And I'll be thinking about you on Monday!

 

[kandb]

I think your brother and mother have caused you very low self esteem. There are alot of overweight people in the world. You said you felt that people were looking at your in your bathing suit and at what you were eating. Perhaps you feel self conscious. I think people at WDW are too busy have a great time, they really don't care what other people eat or what they look like. You need to get your brother and mother out of your life and build up your self esteem for yourself and your children. When your children get a little older, disney will be easier. Good luck with your therapy and your diet. Hope your next WDW vacation is awesome! Linda

 

[Nissi]

I join with the others in expressing how sorry I am that your trip turned out like it did. But I totally agree....you don't deserve to be mistreated like that, and certainly not in front of your children. (I can understand autism as my 4yo DS is on the spectrum.)

You said when you withdrew from your mom you didn't feel well. I know that harboring unforgiveness and resentment can actually cause physical problems if not dealt with. Is there any way your mom and/or bother would be willing to get counseling with you? I mean in the future, after you have taken some steps for yourself of course. Seeing as your kids are attached to her, it would be painful to completely part.

Just a sugggestion. I KNOW your next trip, just you and the lil ones will be just magical! Bless you!

 

[Pig Pen]

Probably because a lot of people still hold out hope that there's enough good in people and things than change. It's a good outlook to have but, unfortunately, it doesn't always happen. Maybe she thought the pixie dust would help? Sounds like there's not enough pixie dust in the world to help mom and brother...

I agree with this. We always hope for the best! The trip report almost made me cry because WDW is the most magical place in the world for us and I am sad then others are disappointed. I hope you are eventually able to make positive changes so you are able to enjoy life!

 

[goofy4tink]

If I remember correctly from another of your threads, yes, you're Pooh-sized but I think I'm even a little... shall I say "rounder" .... than you are. I'm sure you may have gotten some looks but I'm also sure that your mother's and brother's insessant psychological abuse towards you made you see what probably wasn't there from strangers. I've been to WDW a few times, I wear shorts, I wear a bathing suit and I don't really remember anyone being so horribly overtly rude about my size.

I'm so sorry that your trip wasn't what you had hoped. But I'm so glad that you spent some time away from your mom and brother and that you did eventually get a GAC - at least you know what a difference it can make so that your next trip (without mom and DB?) will be amazingly better.

I have to agree. I have seen some extremely large people at WDW but I didn't think twice about it. Other than feeling very badly for the woman who was so large that she had to go through the stroller entrance at TL, I really haven't thought about it too much.
I truly think your family's treatment of you has had some long term effect on you.

I have already decided to permanently cut my mother and brother off. I will never see them again PERIOD much less vacation with them . There was alot of things they said and did to me during this trip that I left out because I feel it would be too much for the boards but yeah you got a general idea how they treated me. I am signing up for curves and going to my PCP Monday morning to get a referral to a psychologist . They had me so amped up that ANY time I rode anything I was afraid it was going to break down or give way. I was miserable . Anytime anyone looked at me I figured it was something negetive. Ill talk about the positives now. I really loved the POP resort! I was in the 50's section lakeside! It was close AND quiet. Perfect! If I was in the 90's section I would've been pissed! I checked in at 10:00 am and the room was already ready.It was an average size hotel room. I dont know why ppl say it's so small etc....It was just fine for me. I was shocked to see that the poly hotel rooms are set up just like pop's and our on the outside. For all of that money i figured it would be indoor corridors.I thought it was ok looking...nothing really jumped out at me that would make me think it is worth all of that money but to each his own . I would like to stay at Fort Wilderness one day . I just think it would be a nice change of pace but i realllllly liked POP. I could spend a week just hanging in the resort ! I liked the tv selections and I loved the pool area and the arcade . The food is a wholeeeeeeeeee other story! Good grief the food was bad! That was the WORST chinese food we ever tasted! The pizza was bland tasting. The burgers just looked gross! They were all sitting there already made! They didnt even heat it up! They just take it out and hand it to you...NO THANKS BUDDY. I didnt have a single burger the entire time I was there and i was on the QSDP........Wolfgang Puck Express WOW is all i can say! I had an AMAZING meal there. It was so nice and meaty and saucy! I can totally understand why ppl order a case of water to be delivered there....JEEEEEEEEEZZZZZZ it was hot and i was CONSTANTLY thirsty. I drank like I was in a desert for a month. On our departure day I gave dd our mug she turned around to look at the desserts and i went to check out...I paid ,checked behind me and there's dd ...I said where's the mug?! She said I dunno!!I run back to the dessert case and it's GONE!!!Gone like the wind!!! I was soooooooooooooooo mad!! I had my heart set on a Fanta Someone has our mug!

I do have to make a correction....the rooms at the Polynesian all have inside doors..there are interior hallways vs exterior ones at POP. The rooms at the Polynesian are vastly different than POPs....the beds are queen-sized, there is a twin sized daybed, there are balconies for the most part, the bathroom area is much larger and usually has a set apart toilet area, and usually two sink vanities. There is a huge difference between the rooms.

As for the food, the vast majority of guests will say that the POP food court has some of the best food court food onsite. I know that I had the best cheeseburger there...and it was made fresh, just for me. I guess that if you are eating there at very busy times, you may have a different experience. But, I have had very few less than acceptable meals there, and I've stayed at POP more than 5 times to date..last time being last Dec.

I cant wait until Monday and I get to actually speak to a counselor that can guide me through the steps i need to make . Im ready to be happy for once. I havent been happy in years .

I'm thrilled you are doing this. Your family is extremely toxic to you. Perhaps after you have had some counseling and feel more in control, you can have them back in your life. But right now, you need to take care of yourself. Your children deserve a happy, well-adjusted mom. Do this for yourself and for them. When you are happier with yourself, you will see the pounds melt away.
I wish you only good things as you deal with this.

 

[danyella522]

just had to add that I don't think people were looking at you funny while you ate or went swimming. I have an overweight friend who does this and it drives me up the wall. No one was ever looking at her differently. She was just paranoid. Sometimes we can't even go out to eat without her having a panic attack that someone is making fun of her while she eats. I remind her that a large portion of our country is overweight, you aren't the only pooh sized person in the pool or eating. Pooh sized is common and I honestly don't think or look twice. If anything I'm looking at the 6pack toned stomach of the mom with 4 kids in disgust wondering HOW she looks that good

do you have stable family somewhere else? I think you need to go far far away from your mother and brother.

 

[cm8]

Probably because a lot of people still hold out hope that there's enough good in people and things than change. It's a good outlook to have but, unfortunately, it doesn't always happen. Maybe she thought the pixie dust would help? Sounds like there's not enough pixie dust in the world to help mom and brother...

, I can be the same way. But the hardest part of it all is letting go..... But my Mom always told me some doors have to close before another one can open.