Sometimes I wonder WHY I married my DH....

[Disney1fan2002]

Honestly! Sometimes, he says or does something that is so opposite of a reaction I would have, I wonder why what kind of man did I marry?

I always gripe this time of year. because it seems big business always seem to have their HUGE cutbacks/lay offs in the month of December. It sickens me to think of people out of work around the Holidays. Though, I know they probably get severence packages to get them through, it does not sit right with me.

So, last night, my DH got home from work early, because they had their annual Christmas party at work. He then happily announces, and even chuckled, that one of the supervisor's got fired after the party. I asked him what was so funny about that? He said because they let the guy sit through the party, then fired him. I was thinking, how nice of them to fire someone a week before Christmas, I was sad for this man, and my husband didn't think it was a big deal. No compassion. I honestly don't think he is capable of putting himself is someone elses shoes. I know if it were him that were fired, he would not of been chuckling last night.

 

[vivilasvegas]

Maybe he just has a dark sense of humor. I do. It could have been ironic laugher.

 

[Hermosa11]

Well, vent away!
I understand your frustration.............

 

[Stitchfans]

Yes I understand why you are venting. It does puzzle me that he would be amused by this.

 

[Skywalker]

Maybe the guy was a jerk. Sounds like your husband didn't like him much!

 

[Marseeya]

Maybe he's just one of those people who has to laugh at stressful situations.

My DH's company does a lot of layoffs at this time of the year. Although he doesn't celebrate it and laugh about it, he's had to desensitize himself to it. You just can't live with that kind of worry and stress all the time.

 

[DisneyLovingMama]

Maybe it was more of a relieved laughter - the "better him than me" approach? It is dark that the company let him sit through the party.

That's like when my old company let a woman go on her "dream vacation" to Africa for 3 weeks. She spent all her savings and money (she had just recovered from breast cancer, so was going all out). While she was away, they had RIFs and she came back and was the last one RIFd. They knew about the RIFs for 3 months. I always felt they should have given her the head's up.

 

[disykat]

Some of our biggest disagreements have been about dh's lack of empathy. It horrifies me.

 

[Am_I_There_Yet]

That really stinks. I once worked for a bank that was notorious for letting people go around the holidays.

The last year I worked there, they let go an employee on New Year's Eve. I realize it was probably a year-end necessity, but still.

BTW, I definitely didn't think it was funny.

My DH sounds a little like yours - he's a great guy, but sometimes his sense of humor leaves a little to be desired.

 

[C.Ann]

I agree.. His thinking it was humorous would NOT have set well with me at all!

 

[kilee]

Is it possible that this is someone who has been a thorn in your dh's side at work??? I think it's an awful situation---BUT I also know it's really hard to feel bad for someone who has made you miserable day in and day out for months/years.

 

[Planogirl]

I know what you mean. My DH sometimes has the sensitivity of a post even about his own family! The bad thing is that he's in a "people" profession but then I guess that it might be good that he's desentisized himself so much.

 

[ZachnElli]

I doubt it would be funny if it happened to him. It happened to us this year and it's definitely not funny. And no severance.

 

[Mandabella]

I doubt it would be funny if it happened to him. It happened to us this year and it's definitely not funny. And no severance.

I totally feel for you. It happened to my DH last December. Christmas was pretty much miserable...not because of the lack of money, but because depression was starting to set in. Hang in there!

I'm sorry, but I do not think losing your job is amusing at all. DH and I have been laid off too many times to count.

 

[MamaLema]

Thank you for starting this thread.

The #1 thing me and DH fight about is his lack of compassion for others. Somedays, I wonder that very question you're asking