Sometimes a tantrum is just a tantrum!

[debaone]

Hello,

I have been reading these boards for a few weeks, planning our last-minute trip (this Friday, yay!).

I read so much about not overplanning or scheduling the kids, don't keep them up too late, etc, as well as people mentionning kids throw fits and tantrums because they are "obviously overtired"...

Let me stand up as one of a countless moms of a temperemental three and a half year old, who sometimes throws tantrums JUST BECAUSE. Not because she is tired, overstimulated, overfed, underfed, thirsty, etc. One minute everything is great, the next...not so much!

So, if you see me in the parks next week, and you see my fiery redhead launching into a fit of rage...sometimes it happens JUST BECAUSE!!!

Just my 2 cents!

My 3yo threw a tantrum this morning after a full night's sleep. I agree. Many parents don't seem to remember that kids are kids and kids throw tantrums. Granted, more likely when they are tired, but not always the case.

 

[crisi]

It is astounding how many people know walking by a family that the child having a tantrum is doing so because they are overtired or hungry. Or because the parents are horrible people who can't control their kid. And that the whole trip is not worth taking because of the two minutes in which the observer has seen the family. I think its astounding that people have such perception.

My son was not tantrum prone at all - but my understanding of parents with challenging children grew raising my daughter through her twos, threes and fours. And she was usually very good at WDW - we had a few moments but for the most part the trips were very enjoyable and worth taking - even with the amazing meltdown in Boma.

My nephew is going through the BRATTIEST stage (he is three). He's also had a tough time for a three year old - a one year old brother enters his life - not something HE wanted - and then his Mommy almost immediately started a year worth of cancer treatments. If you see him throw a tantrum when we are at WDW (which we are postponing a year while my sister recovers) - perhaps there is more going on than you know about.

 

[3jsmommy]

I always have sympathy for the parents of the tantrum thrower, plus I'm just glad its not my kid!
My DS4 had one last week at our towns harvest festival because he wasn't old enough for the rock wall & his big brother was. I tried to talk him down,, as he told me I was the meanest mommy ever...a few minutes & a couple of gummy bears later, he said sorry, & that he was just mad.
Now if this happens in Disney next month, I am sure I'll be paranoid that all the, "kid throwing a tantrum or crying phobic people" on these boards will be shaking their heads & tsk tsking while rolling eyes...
BTW my kids are really overall well behaved, I am sure my one year old will at some point let himself be heard during our trip, and since we don't use a muzzle we will probably be the topic of a thread or two!
I love the OP's first post, so refreshing!

 

[jama]

"fiery redhead " there is your reason!!
Redheaded temper!

ps. I'm also a red head!

 

[Mandychelle79]

"fiery redhead " there is your reason!!
Redheaded temper!

I normally blame my kids tantrums on their Italian/Irish backgroud.

* I have the same temper as my kids, just have learned how to control it most of the time.

 

[mom23boys]

"fiery redhead " there is your reason!!
Redheaded temper!

ps. I'm also a red head!

I normally blame my kids tantrums on their Italian/Irish backgroud.

* I have the same temper as my kids, just have learned how to control it most of the time.

I think I may have trumped you guys. I am a red headed, Italian/Irish, Taurus. Wow my poor DH.

But seriously, my kids have had there fair share of tantrums and they are not overtired, over stimulated they are just tantrums. No much I can do about it, they must take after their father.

 

[daisy2]

Everything everybody saying on this thread reminds me of a poem called. "The toddlers Creed". Here is the poem and you could even add some to it..LOL

The Toddlers Creed

If I want something, it's mine

If I give it to you and change my mind later, it's mine.

If I can take it away from you, it's mine.

If I had it awhile ago it's mine.

If it's mine, it will never belong to anybody else no matter what.

If we are building something together, all the pieces are mine.

If it looks just like mine, it's mine.



Added:

If I am calm one minute got my cookie in one had and my sippy cup in an another and I can eat my cookie and drink my milk at the same time I have every right to get upset and throw my tantrum...

You can add your own but I think this thread is great.. Keep up the good work everyone.

 

[fan_of_small_world]

How about...

If I see it way up on the top shelf at the store, it's mine.
If the dog has it, it's mine.
If it's a pretty balloon floating away in the sky, it's definitely mine!

 

[dbarker]

I totally agree w/ OP.

I for one was one of those children. I didn't need much of any reason to throw a full blown temper trantrum. I got plenty of attention, love, discipline and understanding. My mom was my best friend then. But boy did I have a temper and any little thing could set it off.

I have been very, very fortunate that neither of my DSs inherited my temper.