Something About Nothing..........#5

[marciemi]

Thanks Rose - no, Eric never gets nervous.

Sorry I never got to give my condolences about your grandma. Hope everything is working out well and you're all hanging in there!

On that topic - are "wake" and "funeral" regional things? I've heard that too since we moved to Wisconsin. All my life until then, wherever I'd lived the two words were interchangeable - both to mean "funeral" - ie. the actual time in the church and then at the cemetery if so desired. Anything else was just called like a "get-together". But I'd always thought "wake" was just a more formal/old-fashioned term for funeral!

 

[roseprincess]

rose, that is wonderful your mother is in control.
sounds like she is going to be able to handle all the arrangements well then.
she won't make errors and will be able to set everything up like her mom would have wanted.

this saves you from having to help make the decisions with your mom.
it's making the details for a wake/funeral that really tears up the loved ones left behind. i'm glad you are being spared of it.

THanks, mac
My mom only wants her sister(my aunt) and my uncle(my aunt's DH)
involved in the planning only. My dad and I are not involved, as my mom doesn't want us involved. THat's how my mom is in control of everything.
It doesn't bother me.


DH and I had to plan DH's mother's memorial service in June of 1996. DH's sister, brother, and his dad didn't really want part of the planning at all. DH and I were kinda forced into planning the memorial service itself, at our church. His mom hadn't gone to church in 30 yrs, she was not a believer.
But since DH and I were the only ones in his family that actually went to church, we got put into the position to plan out the memorial service. MIL was cremated in January of '96. THey waited til June to have a memorial service for her. DH wrote and did the eulogy(sp). I actually sang a song for the service (I'm sure I sounded horrid ) We got a guy we knew from church(from the jr. high ministry) to accompany me on the piano.
My MIL and FIL's across the street neighbor played "Amazing Grace" on the clarinet. Neighbor was a jr. high music/band teacher for many yrs.
Ok, SIL did arrange the collage of pictures of her dmom and they opened the house up for a reception afterwards.



I remember very well DH and I planned our own wedding ceremony,same church (and we even paid for our own wedding and honeymoon) in June 1993.

 

[roseprincess]

Thanks Rose - no, Eric never gets nervous.

Sorry I never got to give my condolences about your grandma. Hope everything is working out well and you're all hanging in there!

On that topic - are "wake" and "funeral" regional things? I've heard that too since we moved to Wisconsin. All my life until then, wherever I'd lived the two words were interchangeable - both to mean "funeral" - ie. the actual time in the church and then at the cemetery if so desired. Anything else was just called like a "get-together". But I'd always thought "wake" was just a more formal/old-fashioned term for funeral!

Thanks, marcie

I don't know . Wake here is the visitation of the body(and visiting of the grieving immediate family) at the funeral home, usually the night before the actual funeral. Funeral is the church service(usually) and then the burial place(cemetery, masoleum).
Sorry to get creepy here. Fits in with all the Halloween/HHN talk here

I remember when I worked at a catholic nursing home as a full-time RN, on the graveyard shift, when a nurs. home resident died, after they got all "made-up" and visitation at the funeral home, sometimes the family would want the Wake and visitation near the chapel at the nurs. home.
It was a little creepy to go in the middle of the night to see the dead body being waked in the Wake room. I would go with another nursing staff, as I was a little creeped out to go in the room by myself



Ok, I gotta run. If I'm not back later, have a good day everyone

 

[roseprincess]

Forgot to mention, just read that Paul Newman passed away
I loved him in Cool Hand Luke and I only saw bits and pieces in Sundance Kid.
And his voice as Doc Hudson in Cars

He will be missed

 

[Melanie230]

I am so jacked...I was checking out all of our stuff, and I went to the Country Inn Suites website to check my ressie since we stay offsite the first night. The cost of our suite went down almost $12!!! So I canceled my original ressie, and booked the new one!

 

[ky07]

Good afternoon Homies

 

[Cdn Friends of Pooh]

Afternoon all ... Happy Saturday & Happy Weekend!!

 

[donaldduck352]

Forgot to mention, just read that Paul Newman passed away
I loved him in Cool Hand Luke and I only saw bits and pieces in Sundance Kid.
And his voice as Doc Hudson in Cars

He will be missed

Wow thats news to me.One of my favorite actors

 

[marciemi]

Well - the wedding went well. All played and sang beautifully. I wonder if the bride has any idea how lucky she is to find a group of 13 and 14 year olds who could put that together on a week's notice! They told the kids they'd get paid (no amount was specified), but they haven't yet so of course Eric is bummed!

Anyways, he's at church for his second mass of the day. I'm heading over there now!

As far as wake - now I'm really confused. Seems like here people use "wake" to mean the party after the service (but of course you can't say party because it would sound tacky!). What you're describing as the wake, I'd call the viewing (or possibly visitation). Hm - guess there aren't set meanings for these words!

Off to church!

 

[macraven]

I'll bring more homies over as I meet them.

TAKE ME......TAKE ME too

i wanna see the surprise darkie has..


pencil me in your calendar metro for thursday the 9th.......

or sunday the 12th......

Well - the wedding went well. All played and sang beautifully. I wonder if the bride has any idea how lucky she is to find a group of 13 and 14 year olds who could put that together on a week's notice! They told the kids they'd get paid (no amount was specified), but they haven't yet so of course Eric is bummed!

Anyways, he's at church for his second mass of the day. I'm heading over there now!

As far as wake - now I'm really confused. Seems like here people use "wake" to mean the party after the service (but of course you can't say party because it would sound tacky!). What you're describing as the wake, I'd call the viewing (or possibly visitation). Hm - guess there aren't set meanings for these words!

Off to church!

i hear ya marcie.
we always referred to it as a viewing before the funeral/burial.

around here the viewing is right before the funeral service.

i guess each town does it different.

either way, we always party with friends and family members we haven't seen in a long time.

 

[Metro West]

TAKE ME......TAKE ME too

i wanna see the surprise darkie has..


pencil me in your calendar metro for thursday the 9th.......

or sunday the 12th......

Actually...you can go ahead and update my dates...I'll be doing Sundays this year and maybe a Thursday. It's just too hectic to try and get over there by 5pm during the week. I'll stick with Sundays when I can do S & S w/o any problems. I will definately be over there on 10/12 to meet up with you guys.

 

[Cdn Friends of Pooh]

TAKE ME......TAKE ME too

i wanna see the surprise darkie has..


pencil me in your calendar metro for thursday the 9th.......

or sunday the 12th......

Us too ... us too!!!

I will definately be over there on 10/12 to meet up with you guys.

 

[coastermom]

Rose ... Really looking forward to the trip to Hershey . We really need it ..


I had another busy day . soccer , a class for my DD and bowling and this was an easy Saturday there was no CCD. I am looking forward to a nice quiet weekend ...Not going to happen anytime soon though .


Gotta go Tired today I can't believe it is only 9PM and I am going to get ready for bed . Where have the days gone of going out at 10PM and getting home at 4 AM ???

 

[donaldduck352]

Boy do i know were your coming from..

Here is a song too make us feel younger:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DeSTYyqZAPQ&feature=related

Enjoy cause its true

 

[keishashadow]

When I was working on my master's at Pitt about 16 years ago, classes were over at 9, it's a funny thing...you can't see the cathedral in the dark--my beacon for directions....I was lost and I was scared...... it turned out that a girl in my class had been mugged that same evening and didn't return until the end of the semester with her jaw wired shut... mugged right outside our building.

Pit has changed a lot for the better since then and the city is beautiful. Now, if you can only get rid of that beer tax......

wow, i haven't heard of any issues around the campus...kids out running around all hours of day & night between there & carnegie mellon; 'course they have tons of security about too . I was thinking a bit more toward downtown, the hill area by the Arena & area around the stadiums is just creepy @ night

Well, I went for blood work today. I.hate.needles. But I had to do what I had to do.

And anyone who is going tonight, come find me! I'll be at one of the houses. Which one, well, you'll have to find me...

hmmm...so we should ask the bouncer for DM ?

Good afternoon Homies

hey St L...good luck on the move

Afternoon all ... Happy Saturday & Happy Weekend!!

stunning look re the steps we have steps covered with w/w, cat has started to shred it ; have been afraid to even pull it up to see what lurks beneath...did u have to strip the steps 1st

As far as wake - now I'm really confused. Seems like here people use "wake" to mean the party after the service (but of course you can't say party because it would sound tacky!). What you're describing as the wake, I'd call the viewing (or possibly visitation). Hm - guess there aren't set meanings for these words!

in the 'burg (not almost heaven - that's West Virginia ; yet has ranked #1/near the top of most liveable cities in Amercia ):

funeral home = viewing/paying respects

wake = get together after the funeral/graveside service, usually involves prolific quanties of booze...barbaric practice imo

stinks DS got roughed up in the game, good thing Eric came thru for the bride

Actually...you can go ahead and update my dates...I'll be doing Sundays this year and maybe a Thursday. It's just too hectic to try and get over there by 5pm during the week. I'll stick with Sundays when I can do S & S w/o any problems. I will definately be over there on 10/12 to meet up with you guys.

& 10/19 too?

 

[donaldduck352]

Goodnight all..

My DD17 is playing Guiter Hero,with Heart Barracuda 5times in a row.Its driving me nuts........She messes up and starts over again

See YA in the morn.I,m slamming the door and turning on some baseball-up real loud...

 

[Metro West]

10/19 too?

 

[Cdn Friends of Pooh]

...did u have to strip the steps 1st

Unfortunately yes ...

& 10/19 too?

We'll be there too ...

 

[Metro West]

We'll be there too ...

Bonny...I'll let you be the photographer this year. I had a hard time last night with my camera. Everything seemed so dark to me and no...I didn't have my sunglasses on.

 

[minniejack]

funeral home = viewing/paying respects

wake = get together after the funeral/graveside service, usually involves prolific quanties of booze...barbaric practice imo

must be a regional thing--same here