Some people need to mind their own business

[Rebelmom67]

So the tip the OP left was fine? But it was still okay for the woman to single them out and make a scene?

Huh?

The other woman had no idea what was going on, and should have kept her mouth shut.

Exactly.

 

[kirbsam]

disers are known for making things their business. not judging, just saying.

 

[Cinderella94]

Goes to show who doesn't leave tips. BTW: We.Get.The.Point.

Wow, I totally understand what Luv is talking about and did in no way read into her comments thinking "this must mean she doesn't leave tips."

 

[Eeyores Butterfly]

I too have been a server (at 3 separate restaurants.) While I am definitely of the opinion that if you can't afford the tip you should not eat at a traditional tipping establishment, I would have been absolutely mortified if somebody had done that to one of my guests. Yeah, the restaurants in my state pay me jack (2.13/hr) so if I get stiffed I'm hurting. Even so, I knew that when I took the job. It is also nobody's business! You should not be staring so hard at another table that you can see what they do or do not leave as a tip. That is rude point #1. And even if somebody did fail to leavea tip entirely, while rude, it is still within their right. You don't know if they couldn't afford it, or if they have had such lousy service that a tip is unwarranted (the one time I can understand stiffing a server). She really needed to shut her yap.

 

[JR6ooo4]

Just tell them, "you have something in your teeth..."

Mikeeee

 

[disneyfav4ever]

so the tip the op left was fine? But it was still okay for the woman to single them out and make a scene?

Huh?

the other woman had no idea what was going on, and should have kept her mouth shut.

ita.

 

[Cool-Beans]

Practically every day in the forums, we have people making postings that boil down to their being so very proud of butting into other people's business. Why should non-DISers be any different?

LOL, when I read it I thought, "Had to be a DISer."

Minding your own business and leaving others to theirs...not a popular concept around here.

 

[Handbag Lady]

I totally wish that had happened to me.

Not only would I have explained what I tipped and how to the busy-body, I would have embarrassed her utterly and completely in public by loudly pointing out how terribly rude she was in minding someone else's business.

 

[smidgy]

I have had customers "palm" me a very decent cash tip. then pay when the bill comes, the amount of the bill only. I would be mortified if a neighboring table insulted that customer in such a way! What if it was their first time dining in the resataurant, and were taken aback by such rudeness? and therefore (perhaps assuming the outspoken busybody was either a friend of mine or a regular customer) chose not to return?
another possible scenario. My dad took the family to dinner, treated us all. he's a very generous person, but many elderly people don't "get" tipping. they still tip the same amount they did in 1945, no matter the bill.. so when the bill is settled, I leave extra cash on the table. To a neighboring table, it might look like that is the entire tip. If they brought attentionto it at that time, they would be embarrassing my dad and not doing the server any favors.
I've also been tending bar when a customer sat at a table, so tipped throughout the evening as he purchased drinks. then, as leaving, you get the guy who yells out "hey! aren't you going to tip the bartender?" now that guy (who probably tipped me more in that one night than the loudmouth has in a month) will probably not return.
the topic of whether to tip or not is, ... well, a whole 'nother topic. (I'm sure you all must now where I stand on that).. but that patron was just rude.
I would be interested to hear if the server heard all this and if so, how did she handle it?