Some people just don't get it.......

[Minnie_me]

My DB and SIL picked up a grocery list from their DDs school from a "needy family". They were heading to the store to get the food, and were shocked at what was on the list. Ya gotta read it to believe it:

Vegetarian fed, cage-free, organic eggs
Full fat blueberry yogurt (sheep or cow's milk)
Organic Valley whole milk
1 lb. Organic butter
Organic fresh fruit: apples, pears, strawberries, blueberries, grapes
Organic fresh lettuce, celery, potatoes, tomatoes, eggplant, zucchini, cucumbers, yellow squash
Frozen Amy's breakfast burritos
Boar's Head very thin sliced Genoa Salami (so you can see through it)
Boar's Head regular sliced boiled ham
Potato Bread
Steak, chicken breasts, pork chops, pork tenderloin, Quahog stuffed clams, shrimp
Amy's & Muir Glen or Walnut Acres soups (vegetarian vegetable, minestrone, lentil, beef barley, beef vegetable, chicken noodle, chicken vegetable)
Any type Amy's mac & cheese (boxed)
Mini peanut butter sandwiches
Organic nacho chips
Cashews (vegetarian protein)
Paper Towels (non-bleach kind)
Multi-packed beans (in a tube)
Organic Nature's Promise ground tomatoes
Organic Nature's Promise diced or stewed tomatoes
Organic Nature's Promise tomato paste
Whole wheat spaghetti or pasta
Rice lasagna noodles
Jello chocolate pudding pops
Albacore dolphin-safe tuna

Needless to say, they returned the list to the school.

If I ate like that, I'd need some charity to buy my groceries too! The list-maker also stated that the groceries needed to be delivered to her home before 8a.m. so she could get to work on time. IMO, if she has a job, and eats like this.......she should be buying her own damn groceries like the rest of us do. Beggars can't be choosers.

 

[kirbsam]

i agree with your assessment, but i dont think everyone will be so civil to you.

 

[rabx5]

My goodness- her family eats well. I too would have returned the list. I can't imagine being picky when getting charity. This grocery list is no different than a clothing list that list certain designers they want

You are right-beggars can't be choosers.

 

[harleyquinn]

i agree with your assessment, but i dont think everyone will be so civil to you.

Count me in too.

 

[momto2girls]

What a ridiculous list! I'm glad your DB and SIL returned that list. I can't believe that anyone would be willing to fulfill that "order".

 

[Bluestars]

I agree too. I can see asking for the food to be delivered by 8 am, if possible, but I don't agree with stating specific, high priced items. That is taking advantage of other people. I mean, asking for vegetarian fed, cage free eggs? Gimme a break. I would have taken the list back too.

 

[babytrees]

I wish I could afford that food on a regular basis. We were recipients of a food basket at Thanksgiving and while I didn't like all the foods I have figured out how to use most of them. Those we can't eat because of allergies have been sent to a food bank.

I will say that it took a lot for me to take that basket as I didn't think we "needed" it and there would have seemed to be more needy families. But, I feel blessed that we got it and there is no way, no how I would ever put in a list like that for groceries. Send the basics, that's my motto.

 

[chager]

All I can say is WOW!

 

[pyrxtc]

To have such tatstes, they don't sound so needy. I see needy as eating whatever food you get and being grateful to have it.

Sometimes a job just won't pay for evrything, so juts cuz they are working doesn't mean it pays the bills. I do know that the prices of these items are not cheap and maybe they should rethink their list if they are asking someone else to buy it for them.

That being said, I do think that needy people should allowed to eat organic or be vegetarians, which I think this list shows they are leaning towards. But to aask someone else to spend that kind of money is somehting I would never do. Asking for clams and shrimp is just beyond.....

 

[luvmy3]

I would have gotten some stuff but not the exact stuff on the list. It sounds like it came from a family who was not needy at one time but now has found themselves in a bad situation. I know some people who could use extra help and they work, of course they wouldn't be asking for that
stuff they'd be happy with peanutbutter and ramen noodles

Maybe they will realize they shouldn't be too picky when everybody returns the list.

 

[MM27]

That's crazy. I would have returned the list too and would have had to say something about it to whoever was in charge.

We had someone at Thanksgiving come in and say they needed two turkeys in their basket because they were having a lot of company this year. The food basket is for yourself and your family. It's not so that you can be super host.

 

[Minnie_me]

i agree with your assessment, but i dont think everyone will be so civil to you.

Don't really care if people aren't civil to me about this. If this woman REALLY needed charity, she wouldn't be so incredibly specific. She may specify that her family are vegetarians or kosher, or whatever special needs they may have. Even to write something like "Organic foods appreciated!" would be fine in my book. But to list top-of-the-line food items that are very costly is just rude. And to specify things like "so thin you can see through it" -- what is she thinking?!?!

People can flame away. I don't care. I've been poor (we were the family who received these food donations when I was growing up), and I have no respect for this woman's abuse of charity.

 

[Zippa D Doodah]

I never have done a list of any kind, but each week when I buy groceries to contribute to my local charity I buy items that are the same type and brand I buy for myself. A box of Cheerios for me -a box for charity; a jar of Peter Pan peanut butter for me -a jar for charity... up to 8-10 items per week.

I personally would not go out and fill a list like the one in the OP.

 

[mirmartinez]

My DB and SIL picked up a grocery list from their DDs school from a "needy family". They were heading to the store to get the food, and were shocked at what was on the list. Ya gotta read it to believe it:

Vegetarian fed, cage-free, organic eggs
Full fat blueberry yogurt (sheep or cow's milk)
Organic Valley whole milk
1 lb. Organic butter
Organic fresh fruit: apples, pears, strawberries, blueberries, grapes
Organic fresh lettuce, celery, potatoes, tomatoes, eggplant, zucchini, cucumbers, yellow squash
Frozen Amy's breakfast burritos
Boar's Head very thin sliced Genoa Salami (so you can see through it)
Boar's Head regular sliced boiled ham
Potato Bread
Steak, chicken breasts, pork chops, pork tenderloin, Quahog stuffed clams, shrimp
Amy's & Muir Glen or Walnut Acres soups (vegetarian vegetable, minestrone, lentil, beef barley, beef vegetable, chicken noodle, chicken vegetable)
Any type Amy's mac & cheese (boxed)
Mini peanut butter sandwiches
Organic nacho chips
Cashews (vegetarian protein)
Paper Towels (non-bleach kind)
Multi-packed beans (in a tube)
Organic Nature's Promise ground tomatoes
Organic Nature's Promise diced or stewed tomatoes
Organic Nature's Promise tomato paste
Whole wheat spaghetti or pasta
Rice lasagna noodles
Jello chocolate pudding pops
Albacore dolphin-safe tuna

Needless to say, they returned the list to the school.

If I ate like that, I'd need some charity to buy my groceries too! The list-maker also stated that the groceries needed to be delivered to her home before 8a.m. so she could get to work on time. IMO, if she has a job, and eats like this.......she should be buying her own damn groceries like the rest of us do. Beggars can't be choosers.

I think your relations were punked.
Someone was trying to be funny and failed. I have a hard time believing that list was written with sincerity.

 

[dejr_8]

but isn't this an example of what America has become - The Land of the Entitled.

What the US defines as poor is a crime. You can have a cell phone, DVD player, cable TV, your nails done, big screen TV, etc and you can be considered poor. People like this are not make the appropriate life decisions.

To me this also falls inline with the large number of children in school that qualify for free and reduced lunch. At my son's school, the number of such students is over 50%.

 

[ericamanda01]

That list isn't needy it's greedy! When DH and I were first married we were broke, and I can tell you the first thing to get cut down to bare bones was the grocery list, no name brands, just food. I can't believe that anyone would send that list in!

 

[barkley]

it would be intersting to see what criteria the school places to qualify a family as 'needy' if they are buying some of those particular brand names (there are some other organic/vegan products that can be gotten for much less). this reminds me of when i'de get a call from a school representative asking why families that the school "KNEW" were on public assistance because the school had their p.a. income verification on-file were'nt being given different items (food baskets, camperships, other freebies)-i would always say that with any family they needed to inquire what sources of income they had OTHER than p.a. because it could be that they were'nt eligible to those items. rarely if ever got a phone call back (just because a family receives public assistance for their kids at a particular school does'nt mean that there is'nt even a MAJOR amount of income coming into that home from other sources-it's just because of the way the programs work and whose income is and is'nt counted).


me thinks that if the school wants to serve these kinds of "needs" they might consider offering the option to parents who want to contribute of providing funds to the school to purchase specialized gift cards to hand out ("specialized" in that they are of the type we purchased through for our social services clients-could'nt be cashed out, no alcohol or tobacco products-only food, cleaning or hygene products could be purchased). we used these when serving families that had one or more members who had specific food alergies or dietary needs that made it difficult to shop for (because we had one source of donors who would literaly go out on a family by family basis to shop for individual food baskets).

 

[freckles and boo]

I am sorry, but I have a hard time believing someone actually submitted such a list. It sounds like a prank.

 

[Wheelsie]

That Is Unreal!

 

[Obi-Wan Pinobi]

I don't blame them for returning the list. It's one thing to have certain dietary needs or tastes, but expecting someone to foot the entire bill is just taking advantage of their good nature. Maybe another alternative would have been to price the generic non-organic equivalents and bought a gift card to the grocery store.