Some milestones I could do without...

[Brightsy]

... Today my younger DS got into a bit of trouble. Long story short, he went outside when we told him he had to wait. This isn't the first time he's had to wait, and each time before...well 9 out of 10 times he'll wait for someone to go out to the playground with him. Today was one of those times he opted to go w/out me or his daddy. DH had to go fetch him. We explained that he's not supposed to go outside alone. He got upset and ended up being sent to his room for a little time out. Well, a little later I went upstairs to take care of the laundry. My son crept ou of his room and lay on his back by my feet. He stared up at me with his big brown eyes, his cheeks tearstained and flush from fussing and screaming.
He said, "Mommy, I not bad boy, I good boy!"
I said, "You are a good boy, but you did a not good thing."
He sniffled at me and them pointed his thumb at his shirt, "it not my fault."
*sigh* The is the very first time he's tried the old "It's not my fault" line. I looked at him as sternly as I could (I admit, a part of me was amused and actually pleased... it may not be the best behavior but at least it's an NT behavior for his age group) I said "That excuse doesn't work for your brother, what makes you think it'll work for you?"
He just crept back into his room and shut the door.

 

[pudge the fish]

they grow up wayyy too fast

my 16 YO NT is always saying it's NOT my fault....
my 10 YO NT is starting to say it's NOT my fault
(add rolling eyes and loud sighs to her MOOOOOMMMMMM- It's not MY fault)

I think that it is a kid thing no matter if they are NT or NV
But some things happen too fast

Side note: Love your sig My friends tease me about OH LOOK she saw STRING..

 

[bookwormde]

The not my fault thing tends to diminish as the understanding of what the Austism neurovariation is and what the advantages and challenges that it creates are. We are having an issue with the “I am stupid” thing since my DS is a perfectionist, it is sort of the same thing in teaching that he is not “smarter” than other because he has special gifts and he is not “stupid” because he has some challenges.

bookwormde

 

[bookwormde]

dbl

 

[Brightsy]

My DS7 is, I think, just really beginning to be aware of the fact that other kids aren't the same as he is. We wait at the bus stop in the AM (and I'm thrilled he's able to ride the "regular bus" with all the NT kids) and it's the same thing just about every morning. He runs around by himself...usually he's pretending he's on a roller coaster (his favorite obsession). The other kids, including his older brother, are talking or playing amongst themselves. *sigh*
Still, every afternoon when the kids all get off, the kids that run past me always say to me "He was good on the bus" or "HEwas lying down again" or whatever. While they don't ask him to come outside to play, they don't exclude him when he does. (He usually excludes himself anyways, he'd rather do his own thing most of the time.)
My son tries to interact on the playground, sometimes it works, sometimes not.
Oops, I'm rambling again...

 

[sdarwkcabemanmy]

I almost want to laugh.
Because we're kinda going through that right now.
Mes..please don't whack Mommy on the butt. I'm trying to cook and could hurt you or myself. If you do it again, you're going to time out.

DS: *looking at me innocently with those big green eyes* I din't do nuffin.

This morning, as I was helping him buckle himself into his carseat, he said, "Don't *f word* it up, Mommy!"

Me: I'm sorry. WHAT did you say?
DS: I SAID "Don't *f* it up! *F*! *F!*
Me: Don't ever say that word again. Ever. It's not a nice word.
DS: Um..ok!

 

[mechurchlady]

I almost want to laugh.
Because we're kinda going through that right now.
Mes..please don't whack Mommy on the butt. I'm trying to cook and could hurt you or myself. If you do it again, you're going to time out.

DS: *looking at me innocently with those big green eyes* I din't do nuffin.

This morning, as I was helping him buckle himself into his carseat, he said, "Don't *f word* it up, Mommy!"

Me: I'm sorry. WHAT did you say?
DS: I SAID "Don't *f* it up! *F*! *F!*
Me: Don't ever say that word again. Ever. It's not a nice word.
DS: Um..ok!

CONGATULATIONS
You have had one pair of normal typical boy type of mischief, lol.

 

[pudge the fish]

I almost want to laugh.
Because we're kinda going through that right now.
Mes..please don't whack Mommy on the butt. I'm trying to cook and could hurt you or myself. If you do it again, you're going to time out.

DS: *looking at me innocently with those big green eyes* I din't do nuffin.

This morning, as I was helping him buckle himself into his carseat, he said, "Don't *f word* it up, Mommy!"

Me: I'm sorry. WHAT did you say?
DS: I SAID "Don't *f* it up! *F*! *F!*
Me: Don't ever say that word again. Ever. It's not a nice word.
DS: Um..ok!

I just spit my diet coke all over my keyboard...

 

[mechurchlady]

I just spit my diet coke all over my keyboard...

Around here we cover keyboards with plastic for a reason, lol.

 

[pudge the fish]

Noted re plastic wrap

Also Must remember NOT to drink Diet coke while reading disABILITIES
I love this board! it's sooo much fun

 

[Forevryoung]

One of the little boys that I work with has autism- he has made huge gains in expressive language over the past few months. He's three and adorable but learning to manipulate the environment using language like every three year old.

child- "forevryoung?" (called me by name)
me- "yes?"
child- "yes?"
me- "what do you want?"
child- "pick me up please"
(I picked him up)
child- "jump on the bed?"
me- "no bed" (he KNOWS that he's not allowed when I am there )
child- "down please" (sounded disappointed )

Or when he gets onto the bed and I tell him to get down, he says "stop it" instead of throwing a tantrum now. I'm conflicted between reinforcing the language use and getting him off the bed

 

[mechurchlady]

Stop it is a step forward. Instead of a meltdown he is speaking out about how he feels. CONGRATULATIONS ON ANOTHER MILESTONE.

"Stop it" is the first step to him saying he does not want to do something. Before hand he would just break things, yell, or whatever in physical ways but now he is explaining that he does not want to do something or does not like some. Next comes the harder parts like obeying mom, lol. Then again who has not heard from kids "one more minute", "please, I just got to finish this page", and "do I have to?".

 

[sdarwkcabemanmy]

Just wait till he starts DEMANDING that you stop it because he's angry.

We've been going through that too. Instead of (or sometimes along with) throwing a tantrum, DS will demand that we stop it (even if we're not doing anything). He'll also say for us to quit touching him when neither one of us is anywhere near him.

Yesterday, on the way to the park he told me to get behind him and do my job. He wanted to be line leader.

 

[BeckyScott]

How about "Quit looking at me!!" That's a big favorite here.

You can see oldest DS's tv from our living room. Youngest DS will be in the living room, oldest DS in his room watching tv, and I hear all sorts of yelling and carrying on. Why? Youngest DS is watching oldest DS's tv! From a different room! Apparantly this is not allowed!

Also, you know they sell rubber keyboards. They work great. You can (allegedly) put them in the dishwasher. Our last one lasted over a year, which for us is a record.

Yesterday I was bringing oldest DS home from school and told him my friend and her son were at our house. I guess the two boys don't get along so well, but I didn't know that, and he starts yelling " **^& it! He better not have touched my Bakugans!" Oooookay, then, I guess you have some strong feelings, buddy, and by the way let's watch our language please!

 

[pudge the fish]

When my two were younger it was:

MOOOM he's LOOOKING AT MEEEE
MOOM He almost TOUCHED MEEEEEE
MOOOM he's REALLY GONNA TOUCH MEEEE...

SHE's SINGING tooo LOUD
SHE'S LOOKING at MY Book
She's ALMOST touching MEEEEE


MOOM he's watching MY dvd (we had 2 DVD players in the car so they could each watch their own movies (earbuds areawesome)

I have such an age gap in mine- 24, 16 and 10 (almost 11)I thought I wouldn't have to deal with certain things (I WAS WRONG

Now I hear this morning: "I NEVER am going to have kids (from 10 YO)
(bedroom Door slams) I open the door and ask why not?
She says, " So I won't have to be mean to them like you are to me"
I was only trying to get her to brush her hair so we could get to school- I didn't even yell - i just suggested...

And I have NT kids.. They are a tad dramatic (ok really Dramatic) and way too smart for their own good...Rubber keyboards hmmmm may just work

 

[sdarwkcabemanmy]

We had another OMG milestone the other day.

It was nice out and on the way home from school, he asked to go to the park. Ok..fine. No big deal. I grabbed my knitting bag and went with him.

So I'm sitting on a bench, working on a row, when I look up to see where DS is.
He's on the far side of the playground with his pants around his ankles.I drop my needles and go see what the heck is going on.

DS: I had to go pee.
Me: We don't do that in public! Why didn't you TELL me you had to pee?
DS: I don't know.
I yank his pants up and I am SO embarrassed. When we got home, we had to have the "We keep our private parts to OURSELVES" talk.

 

[ireland_nicole]

OK, since you brought up the boys and peeing thing, I'll add my am experience and maybe ya'll can give me some suitable punishment ideas. (I figure just killing him or locking him in the tower probably aren't viable options.)
Daddy's away until tonight, so DS has been sleeping w/ me.
He, of course, wakes up early
Mom, can I downstairs?
me: no honey, everyone is still sleeping; mommy will turn tv on so you can watch cartoons (at the foot of the bed) fall back into half sleep

now, DS is completely silent and can move with more stealth than a Navy seal (ask DH, DS once popped up next to him under the blankets when we were, um, play wrestling in bed???

20 minutes later I wake up, b/c something doesn't feel right.
I start into the hallway, and realize that it's wet; all the way down the hallway, it's wet...and it doesn't matter where I put my feet, it's like it's dribbled from side to side all the way down the hallway. (carpeted, of course). I get to his room, and he's wearing underwear- dry underwear. Not the pull up he wears at night. So I ask, where's the pull up? In the bathroom. Huh. Why is there peepee on the carpet. Big blue eyee look up at me "Um, I don't know..." So I say "Try again. Lying means BIG punishment." "I had to go mommy, I tried to hold it, I couldn't make it"

Well, I'm pretty mad so I leave him for a minute to think. And then I realize. The underwear is dry, and the pull up is at the end of the hallway, in the bathroom, and he couldn't have made that swath while wearing it. So, I count to a million and ask him about it. Suffice it to say, that he decided this morning, on my carpet, was a good time to practice his aim and artistic skill.

He's extremely ADHD, used to be extreme developmental delay but has "miraculously" according to his Dr's and his newer MRI's has almost "caught up" to his peers. I know he's upset Daddy has been gone, but seriously, this? Is this something other boys have done? Because I just don't get it.

 

[sdarwkcabemanmy]

Well, DS hasn't done anything like that.

Although... he used to pull his diaper down and pee out the side of his crib when he was mad at me for putting him down for a nap when he didn't want one.

I'm going to have to apologize to his teacher this morning when I see her because he's going to be cranky. Normally he's in bed by no later than 8:30 and last night he didn't get to bed until almost ten because we got back later than we planned from my SIL's Easter dinner.

 

[bookwormde]

He was “experimenting”, sounds like you have a budding scientist on your hands, you just need to teach him to keep the experiment in the laboratory (to an extent it is a “guy” thing).

bookwormde

 

[sdarwkcabemanmy]

Budding scientist..I like that.