Solution to the Sleep Timer/Snooze Button Dilemma?

[tvguy]

I think you could also work on conditioning yourself to ignore that alarm. But you have to WANT to do it. My FIL was career Air Force, and he swore his sleep habits were due to the conditioning. He learned early on in his service career that when you are ordered to go to sleep, you do it, or you face additional duties if you get caught being awake, and he almost always woke just up before his alarm. Mind you, he did 3 tours in Vietnam, and had to sleep through a lot of noise there.
My wife and I have distinctly different alarm clocks. I use a battery powered travel alarm, that beeps. I get up an hour before my wife, no snooze option on my alarm clock. Although I do wake up about 5 minutes before my alarm 2 or 3 days a week. She rarely even stirs let alone wakes up. Funny thing is, there are times when she has an early start at work, and only THEN will she wake up when that alarm goes off.
These are the reasons I think it is possible to condition yourself to sleep through an alarm that is different than yours.

 

[wenrob]

I think you could also work on conditioning yourself to ignore that alarm. But you have to WANT to do it. My FIL was career Air Force, and he swore his sleep habits were due to the conditioning. He learned early on in his service career that when you are ordered to go to sleep, you do it, or you face additional duties if you get caught being awake, and he almost always woke just up before his alarm. Mind you, he did 3 tours in Vietnam, and had to sleep through a lot of noise there.
My wife and I have distinctly different alarm clocks. I use a battery powered travel alarm, that beeps. I get up an hour before my wife, no snooze option on my alarm clock. Although I do wake up about 5 minutes before my alarm 2 or 3 days a week. She rarely even stirs let alone wakes up. Funny thing is, there are times when she has an early start at work, and only THEN will she wake up when that alarm goes off.
These are the reasons I think it is possible to condition yourself to sleep through an alarm that is different than yours.

Or he could condition himself to get up when the alarm goes off the first time. The snooze button itself conditions people to think they have more time so they hit it more and more and then have to start setting it earlier so they're not late. It's a vicious cycle that leads to less sleep, not more.

I'd try the vibration method as well.

 

[MrsCobraBubbles]

My husband did the same thing! It felt like I was being tortured for about 45 minutes every morning while he hit the snooze 4 or 5 times. Divorce has solved my dilemma, but I get the idea that you would like to stay married to your man so I'd suggest that you try sleeping in separate rooms.

Ok, actually, the way I dealt with the problem was to get up the first time the alarm went off. Then I would go to the kitchen and make his breakfast and this thermos of coffee to take to work. And then his lunch. If it was winter I'd put his work clothes in the dryer so they'd be all warm and cozy after his morning shower. And sometimes, if I had time, I'd make a nice treat for him to take in to share with the work crew, a batch of cookies or a pan of brownies or lemon bars. Then I'd get a jump start on the chores. I did that for the first 10 years of marriage and now I wish I had someone like CPanther95 to give me advice because his was awesome--if you're polling us, I vote that you follow his advice. Whatever you decide to do, don't be a doormat, OP. You say you want to respect his need to wake up that way, but remember that your needs are valid too.

 

[tvguy]

Or he could condition himself to get up when the alarm goes off the first time. The snooze button itself conditions people to think they have more time so they hit it more and more and then have to start setting it earlier so they're not late. It's a vicious cycle that leads to less sleep, not more.

That works too. I've always been a person to set my alarm at the latest possible time I can, doing everything I possibly can before I go to bed (shower, lay out clothing, fix lunch, etc). Never been a snooze bar person. I am up an hour before I need to be at work, eat shave, brush my teeth and make my 15 to 20 minute commute in that time.

 

[PollyannaMom]

I think a lot of people would be get more sleep (and consequently be happier) if separate rooms were considered more normal in our culture!