So who's the bad guy?

[ByTheSea]

Question for parents... who plays the bad guy, the one who says "NO" etc. in your family?

My DH is a pushover. I swear he cannot say NO to our child. I travel quite a bit tonight it happened again. I get a call, hi, how's it going, oh, DS wants to ask you something.....

"Mom, I've been saving my allowance, can I buy a Yu-Gi-Oh card on e-bay, it's only $30!!!!"

Now DH and I have had this discussion many times, if DS wants to spend his allowance on packs of cards, fine. But we think it's ridiculous to pay $10, $20, $30 or more for a single card! It's a FAD. He won't even be remotely interested in these in a year or so, and by then they will be worthless anyway.

(Anyone in the market for a few hundred Pokemon cards?)

 

[browneyes]

Both of mine try the "mom said no, so let's sneak daddy to see if he'll let us do what we want" kind of thing. My SO has been known to say yes even after I've said no (and knowing I said no ). I don't think I'm the pushover, but my ds and dd would probably say I am a majority of the time. But usually, we take turns.

 

[nuke]

I think we are both pushovers. All I have to see are tears well up and I melt.

 

[nativetxn]

My husband was always a pushover when it came to Travis (still is). I think Travis turned out alright anyway but we had some doozy arguments over me saying no and my husband letting him do it anyway, even though I had already said no.

We're still married, too

 

[snoopy]

I'm way more of a pushover than my husband. When he says no, the kids don't even think about asking twice. He never yells, is never threatening, but he has a very commanding presence and the kids have always sensed that, I guess.

 

[Snow White]

The kids push me a lot farther than they push my DH, he can just give them "the look" and they know he means business, but for some reason, they aren't scared of me at all! But, on some things I can be quite a lunatic (curfews, who they hang around with etc) and they know they'd better tow the line or be lectured and nagged to death!

 

[Blondie]

I'd have to say I'm the pushover, and DH is the bad guy. Once Dad says no, it's final.

But my boys know how to work me, and I'll eventually cave!

 

[Kermit]

I can answer this one already, even though the baby isn't here yet. DH will definitely be the push-over on little, day-to-day things. I'm sure he'll have the kids loud when I want them to be quiet and give them ice cream when I want them to have a sandwich. But we both agree on the big things, so I don't think it will really be a problem. Besides, he works all day, so I'll get my way most of the time.