So what do you do?

[LaraK]

Do you get mad or do you get even?

I'm Scicilian....revenge is an art form.

 

[imabrat]

I get mad and I get even. More often it's mad, and I get over it, eventually. However, those hours that I'm spending steaming over it, I plan revenge. Sometimes I act apon it, others I don't.

 

[SharpMomOfTwo]

I just get mad and pretty much write the person off - depending on how horrible the deed was. Its not worth my time to sit and think of a nasty thing to do back to them - and then I'm just as much of a schmuch as they are - not worth it.

 

[Ilovemylife]

I'm a "both" kinda girl.

 

[freckles and boo]

Life is too short. I get mad and I get over it. It takes a lot of energy to get even and I am simply too lazy for revenge.

 

[MELSMICE]

Get mad & get over it. Like frecklesandboo said - life is too short. No reason to hold a grudge or get even.

If it's something horrible, I just choose not to be around that person any more.

If it's DH I just make him sleep in the garage!!! Just kidding!

 

[SHAYMARAYSMOM]

Depends on who is involed.

 

[wall*e2008]

I get mad and then get over it. In my family there are far to many that hold a grudge forever and I have seen the devastating results of that choice.

 

[Rora]

I voted: I get mad....I can hold a good mad for ages.

Sometimes I get even but then I feel bad so I typically stick with mad.

 

[Handbag Lady]

I get mad. I'll tell you I'm mad and why.

And then I'll do something to make up for it. And you won't even know why.

 

[Aurora63]

Life is too short. I get mad and I get over it. It takes a lot of energy to get even and I am simply too lazy for revenge.

What she said.

Plus I believe in karma. I don't want the bad kind.

 

[Uncle Remus]

I believe in Karma.

 

[pfishgirl]

I get Mad and then I get over it

Why stay Mad at something that won't change?

 

[SplshMtn99]

..revenge is an art form.

 

[GRUMPY PIRATE]

Hmmm,

I do it the Pirate way,

Getting even is not enough.

I have to do them one better!!!! hehehehehehe

Its not enough that I win, my enemy must also fail!!!

"Revenge is for people with a limited horizon"

 

[bumbershoot]

I'm Scicilian....revenge is an art form.

LOL. Since you went there, I'm Irish, so I get mad, I get sad, and then I internalize it, and what is it Ted Kennedy said? That to be Irish is to know the world will break your heart? Something like that. I don't yell at them, I don't write letters and if I do I don't send them, I just cry sometimes, feel that things are sad sometimes, get angry sometimes, and just continue on a little eensy bit more bummed about the world.

Writing that out, I might need to find a different coping mechanism.....

 

[EthansMom]

I tend to get a little upset (not necessarily ripping mad) and then try to not put myself in the same position again. I forgive, but don't forget.

For instance: BIL called me up a couple days after Thanksgiving claiming that I'd said something to SIL that offended her on TG. It didn't happen... just plain didn't go down the way he said at all. BIL said, "If you won't sit down and have a meeting to discuss the lies you're telling, then I don't want to ever have anything to do with you again." Now, I'm generally a nice person and if I inadvertantly said something that could be remotely considered offensive, I'd be the first person to offer an apology. But I'm not going to roll over when I've done nothing wrong. And I'm not going to put myself in a situation where I'm going to be sandbagged with unfounded accusations. BIL and SIL live 5 doors down from us and I had considered SIL a good friend. Now, I have nothing against BIL and SIL. DH and I would be happy to see them at family events (they are avoiding any Christmas celebrations with family at which we might be present). But I'm not going to be friends with SIL, anymore. There's no need for me to waste my energy trying to "get even" but also no need to put myself in a situation where I can be blamed for BIL and SIL's issues again in the future.

 

[EpcotBeauty]

It takes too much energy and exertion for revenge. I usually just make a wish that Karma will get the dirty dog and go about life.