So what do you do?

[dizneenut]

I think it is all just really, really sad. And I am really ticked and upset that alot of my friends have been banned, for no real reason other than going to another board.

 

[Kitty 34]

I'm more numb at this point.

Emotionally exhausted.

That's me.

I have loved the DIS from the start and sadly enough still want to love it. It's become as much of a routine for me as getting my morning coffee!

Having said that it saddens me to see so many gone. What's really sad is a couple of them I have met in real life which makes this internet drama/mess even more real.

I have had my moments with a classroom where a misunderstanding gets out of hand and I have gotten very angry with the class at mine and their expense. I've even taken it home with me that night, thought about it, slept on it and gone back to the class the next day and apoligized for reacting badly to a situation that didn't merit that reaction. To me that's all part of respect. Made me feel better to.

Sorry if I'm not making the sense I want to....it's early, I have to get to school and I haven't read this whole thread. I hope it's around when I get back from school. I hope I'm around.

 

[SandraVB79]

Add me to the list of those who are sad to see so many familiar "faces" gone. Although I've never developed the close ties with individual posters that others have, there are many members who I recognize and respect (or at least just get a kick out of). Some, unfortunately, are on those lists that pop up and then disappear. The loss of those folks is felt by many here, even if they didn't know us by name.

This is exactly how I feel.
I don't think I have ever been really part of a "clique" (well, the catfight regarding poolhopping-thread which turned out in us roasting pigs in bath tubs and dancing the conga was the closest I got), but many posters names have become "familiar". I liked reading threads they started or replied to, because it was almost a guarantee it would be a thread I was going to like.

It's so different now

 

[TCPluto]

I have had my moments with a classroom where a misunderstanding gets out of hand and I have gotten very angry with the class at mine and their expense. I've even taken it home with me that night, thought about it, slept on it and gone back to the class the next day and apoligized for reacting badly to a situation that didn't merit that reaction. To me that's all part of respect. Made me feel better to.

Great response to an unfair reaction.

 

[jeankeri]

The Dis has been my online family for quite some time. I lurk more than post, but have enjoyed many 'friendships' and been supportive (and supported) in many personal/family issues. I miss my friends, and I'm sure those who were here receiving support from us miss us too.
I am grateful for this thread. The last 24 hours have been really sad for me. Just plain sad. Finally I feel like we're coming together again.

 

[Fitswimmer]

I can't believe that I'm this upset over the loss of a message board, but I am. In the nearly 2 years that I've been here I've made many friends...and many of them are now gone or like me, are waiting to be kicked to the curb for the unforgivable sin of missing our friends.

I know this is a private board and the owners can do with it as they please, but that doesn't make it any less sad-nor do I feel it makes it any less wrong. Nobody told me when I joined that I was forbidden from posting on or mentioning other boards-so I'm assuming that none of my banned friends were told that either. To ban people and write the rules they broke after the fact is patently unfair.

 

[disneynutt1225]

I'm glad to see this thread is still going. I appreciate that we're being allowed to express our feelings about this.

 

[phorsenuf]

Guess I'll weigh in here. I've been back and forth over the whole thing all week. I've seen people getting banned left and right. Some for seemingly no reason at all and some going out in a blaze of glory. I don't know what goes on behind the scenes and I would like to think there is rhyme and reason to their actions but truthfully, it is totally complexes me. I am optimistic though that the reasoning will be told.

I've seen some great people get tossed here and that breaks my heart. The DIS has always been a place I, and many others, could turn to for support and a chuckle when needed. I've seen fights, great debates and I've learned a few things about posters I'm not sure I wanted to know. This past week its been so different. People tip-toeing around not knowing what to say, what to post, whether to post or not. For me, I've pretty much been hiding within a thread. I've been afraid to venture out but I needed my friends during this trying time.

Have I been reading other people views, yes I have. I'm not going to lie. I only feel its right to get (or try to get) both sides of a story. What I see is a lot of hurt, anger and confusion. There's talk that these banned posters will be allowed back, but in reality do you think they want to come back? I would love for them to return but looking from their point of view why would they? Why would anybody return to a place that hurt them so bad and basically ripped them away from all their friends. Even if they did return does anyone think things would just go back to normal? Does anyone think they are just going to forget what happened and jump right back in like nothing happened? There is no such thing as a magic wand to return things back to a previous state, even here on a Disney board.

I think its going to take a long long time for anything to seem normal around here and if, and thats a big if, any of the banned posters return I hope they will all be welcomed with open arms, open hearts and open minds.

 

[BeNJeNWaFFLe]

well, the catfight regarding poolhopping-thread which turned out in us roasting pigs in bath tubs and dancing the conga was the closest I got

And that's what made me love ya Sandra!

 

[Jennifer S]

Very sad. I miss the ones that are gone. They made this place sooo much fun. It's not going to be the same. I doubt they would want to come back but if allowed I hope they do.

 

[Buckalew11]

I can only speak for myself but if someone who was banned (from the beginning, for no known reason) was able to and chose to come back to the DIS, I would be happy to see them come back.
If they chose to get themselves banned and "go out in a blaze of glory" that's different, IMO, and while I'd still welcome them back on here, I would be surprised that the Board allowed them back on.
Do I think people who were banned will come back? I doubt many will (at least under their old screenname). I think it'll be the principle of the matter and that is a choice they each make.

Will the boards be able to recover and be like nothing ever happened...no way...from experience I can say that each time something big like this happens here it is never quite or even close to the same.

When MNGoofy was banned from here years ago, I begged the Board allow him to come back when the smoke cleared. I was so saddened by what had occurred and just wanted everything to go back to the way it was when we'd spar, create and laugh our butts off (usually trying to not get too close to the line).
I think in the end he could have come back if he would follow some very strict rules that may have been a little too much to ask for from him. I had people mad at me for asking for him to be allowed back, people laughing that I asked for him to be able to come back and people touched that I even cared.
All that said, the DIS has never been the same for me since those days and these might become your "good ol' days" and you'll understand a whole lot more how the past was different and fun, friends were closer and the CB was a different place altogether.
I think that old saying about never being able to ''go back home" is true, even about websites.

 

[happygirl]

I haven't read all the post, I personally have no desire to join that other board from what I have read and been told by others that board is just mean
they make fun of what others post. They make fun of other views and make fun of innocent spelling errors and grammar errors

 

[SandraVB79]

So far I haven't seen anyone complaining about money they've lost because they were a DIS sponser and were banned. If they were a sponsor for a year a few years ago, and that sponsorship expired after the year, then they've gotten their money's worth.

Maybe that's because they are banned, you know...

And that's what made me love ya Sandra!

Aww. That just made me cry

 

[lunabkat]

Splash, I like you and I want this thread to continue so here I am again.



I am not familiar with you as a poster here and it is unsettling that suddenly you appear and include rebuttals or explanations.

I may be the only person sensing this, but it feels odd to me that you have been active so suddenly here.

....Or perhaps it's just because I have been walking on eggshells all week. (!!!!) I am on edge. Ugh.

Its not you, please people, this is a board about missing our friends, if you want to gloat, smarm or speak about how "wonderful everything is, blabh blabhblabh..." please find another thread. We just want to comisserate with each other and be able to share with one another. Don't bait us so we get snarky with you and have the thread poof. Step up to the plate and be a human and leave us in peace.

Thank you.

 

[TCPluto]

Will the boards be able to recover and be like nothing ever happened...no way...from experience I can say that each time something big like this happens here it is never quite or even close to the same.

The bell can't be unrung.....

 

[poohlover]

Well I just read through all 24 pages, at this time, and I am just sad. I have been here for what seems forever! Since Way back in the '90's. I saw the other break up. I lurk a LOT. I have had wonderful planning tips. I have shared my trips as well as sharing in the trips of others. That's what this is meant to be about.

2 years ago I went back to school. I have joined in threads about that topic, as well as our pets! I have enjoyed everyone's company. I enjoy viewpoints other than my own on many topics...it makes me think! Isn't that what life is about??

This place has been a needed rest from school stress as well as the death of my Dad this month. Just reading of something fun! Getting wedding tips from the bridal board for my DD's wedding renewal next year!

I hope things work out. For everyone. I know feelings have and will be hurt. Discussing anything over the internet, no 'face' time, is difficult. So much can be read into posts that are never intended.

to all who are hurting in the many ways.

 

[meandtheguys2]

I think that old saying about never being able to ''go back home" is true, even about websites.

I guess I lost the pixie dust feeling here, when snoopy was banned the first time. I stopped posting for quite some time. The place changed...or i did. But my heart will not ever be in a msg. board again. KWIM. Many of the posters I respected are gone now. (Even if I didn't always agree with them!) Some who are downright mean and sarcastic are allowed to stay. I just don't get it.

It is weird, imo, for a board to decide where else its members can post. It kind of takes away the "friendliest disney board" feeling.

 

[Laura]

I don't think that anyone wants to believe that the DIS would lie to its members but there's a lot of victims here and most of them have nothing to do with whatever is going on behind the scenes. I don't see how it's possible to move past that.

Well said. As far as I can tell, the people who were banned did nothing wrong, and violated none of the rules here. I've been around the DIS for a long time (well before August 1999), and I know most of the posters who were banned. Honestly, I've been logging onto the DIS this past week expecting to get the axe myself. And I don't think I'm the only one here who feels that way.

I'm very neutral about this whole thing but, in all honesty, the thread posted the other day certainly gave the impression that the original banned members had done something illegal and something worthy of the DIS seeking legal council. It really made people wonder what on earth they had done.

Yes, that was the impression that a lot of people got.

I haven't read all the post, I personally have no desire to join that other board from what I have read and been told by others that board is just mean
they make fun of what others post. They make fun of other views and make fun of innocent spelling errors and grammar errors

Posters do that on the DIS, too. Especially the spelling and grammar stuff.

 

[Missy1961]

I can't believe that I'm this upset over the loss of a message board, but I am. In the nearly 2 years that I've been here I've made many friends...and many of them are now gone or like me, are waiting to be kicked to the curb for the unforgivable sin of missing our friends.

I know this is a private board and the owners can do with it as they please, but that doesn't make it any less sad-nor do I feel it makes it any less wrong. Nobody told me when I joined that I was forbidden from posting on or mentioning other boards-so I'm assuming that none of my banned friends were told that either. To ban people and write the rules they broke after the fact is patently unfair.

Exactly my thoughts.

I've made real life friends here, and some internet ones. I've posted on that other board. I keep looking over my shoulder, wondering if I'm next. I have mixed feelings--I don't want to leave this board, but I don't know if I can continue here either.

 

[punkin]

Posters do that on the DIS, too. Especially the spelling and grammar stuff.

Oh man...there is absolutely no comparison between the mild stuff that goes on here and the vitriol on the other board.

I have no opinion on the bannings because I have very little emotional attachment to any internet chat board. I am sorry for the people who do and have lost friends.