so how many would be too many????

[Dee77]

OP here- well the holidays have come and gone and there were no miraculous changes in the dynamics of our relationship. If anything the holidays just proved that for DH, DD and I the old saying "outta sight outta mind" is so true because we did our own thing this Christmas and if we didn't make calls/send a card to wish MIL/FIL "happy holidays" then I don't think we would have heard from them.

I had a heart to heart with my DH this evening and told him that the trip while on paper sounds nice, I don't think we should go out of our way to book anything since it will likely just turn out to be a huge disappointment and headache.. I never thought I would ever turn down a chance to go to Disney World but my sanity and pride are more important in this situation.. I am glad that he agrees..

Thanks everyone for your feedback, I especially liked the suggestion to go to Aulani.. aahhhh if only that was a possibility!

 

[Sammie]

OP here- thanks for the responses. I had a feeling that most people would agree that this is way too many families in even a grand villa so I have already come to the conclusion that IF (and that is a big if) we go that we will 100% get our own 1 bedroom at what ever resort is available at @ 5 months out which is approximately when we would be able to commit to going. And while it sounds like a nice idea, there will be no sleepovers for any of the cousins to our room or for DD to go to the GV.

Did I mention that one of the SIL's and I don't speak and MIL and FIL have made it abundantly clear that 2 of her kids are their favorites and it is really all about them and BIL's kids. Yeah you did just read that. As I mentioned above, my in laws decided to join us on our 8 night trip last month and I can't even explain what it was like, they went their way, we went our way, we only had a couple of meals together and only @ 5 hours of park time together. As far as SIL's 3 kids it's all a big secret because they don't want her kids to know that they went to WDW with my DD without them. When they would call to speak with them we all had to be quiet in the background, try explaining that to a 5 year old in Disney. My husband's parents never get one on one time with my DD since they live with SIL and her kids (and about 10 minutes away from BIL) so I was thinking that they would embrace the idea of being there with her and make as much of a fuss over having that bonding time well nope that was not the case at all. So I am looking at this trip next year with a very realistic perspective.

Whew I guess I needed to get all of that off my chest, feels good to get that out there.

Well heck, you should have said this at the beginning, Under those circumstances you could not pay me to go with all of them, even if I stayed at another resort.

However I have no idea of the circumstances of her living with the SIL, but no way are you ever going to be able to trump that or your child, so you might as well let it go.

 

[merby]

Just a thought, 2 THV's is the same amount of points (if not less) than 1 GV. In this scenario you have 6 bedrooms instead of just 3. You can probably get them close together also. The same applies for 2 bedroom villas as well