So how did you meet your partner?

[bransworld]

I met Joey on Gay.com. I was living in Alaska ( i was stationed there in the Coast Guard) and Joey was living in the Cleveland, Ohio area. He flew up to the town i was living in and we met in real life and i knew almost instantly that he was a good reason to get out of the Coast Guard.

3 months later i was out and had moved to Arizona where i grew up. Joey came down and met my family and then i flew back with him and spent a couple weeks up there with him. The original plan was for me to move to the Cleveland area but i knew i could not live there with Joey's mom close by. So Joey quit his job and moved to Phoenix.

We have been together for 9 1/2 years now. I am 30 and he is 33.

 

[Viki]

YES I do! Mwahahahahahaaaaaa!!!!!

Very funny, friend!

I'm left to hope that Mike's story will top mine ....

 

[OrlandoMike]

So here is the story......

I moved to Orlando from Boston, and had been living here happily single for about two years. I had arranged a vacation, 4 days in Vegas with a very good friend, then we would fly to Boston so I could visit with friends there for 3 days. We had a great time in Vegas, and on the flight from Vegas to Boston we had a layover in Chicago. Midway through the first flight I started getting real nervous. I had never had this feeling before, almost like a panic attack. When we landed in Chicago my friend kept asking me what was wrong. I said "I don't know, but I think I just have to go home". It was the weirdest feeling I had ever had, I was actually sweating, and I didn't know what was wrong, all I knew is I had to get back to Orlando ASAP. In retrospect, I really think I had some sort of mini nervous breakdown, We didn't get into Boston till about 11pm, and we checked at the gate, for $50 I could get on the first flight out in the morning to Orlando...COOL! I had to call my friends in Boston to let them know I would not be visiting them that week, and they were all a little peeved to say the least. They would ask what was wrong, and what could I tell them? "I just want to go home". I flew home the next morning, immediately headed to Playalynda beach, and proceeded to sun au natural for the day. (Playalynda is a beautiful beach, and only a portion of it is nude, so if your ever looking for a great beach try this one! But that's another story) I finally gathered my belongings and headed home. I unpacked and decided to head out for the evening and have a few drinks. I had finally calmed down now that I was home. I walked into the bar and there he was! I'm not very good with opening lines, so I just went up and put my foot in my mouth! "Hey how are ya? I like em big and stupid!" Honest to God, that was my opening line! He told me some guy was harassing him, and he kept telling this guy he was waiting for a friend, and if I would pass as his friend we could chat over a drink. What's a guy to do? I immediately gave him a big ole hug and proclaimed loud enough for the entire bar to hear "Sorry I'm late, you know traffic and all!" Well long story short, we have been together 12 years now! Who knew! Needless to say, I'm a big believer in karma now!

The big joke is "I invited you over for the weekend, not the rest of your life!"

 

[Saxton]

... so I just went up and put my foot in my mouth! "Hey how are ya? I like em big and stupid!" Honest to God, that was my opening line!

Aww, Mike, you're such a romantic!!

 

[OrlandoMike]

Aww, Mike, you're such a romantic!!

Well I try!

But he was built back then, crew cut and all, I thought I had met a steroid crazed Marine!

 

[ConcKahuna]

Well I try!

But he was built back then, crew cut and all, I thought I had met a steroid crazed Marine!

Those are fun!!

 

[TuckandStuiesMom]

I moved out of the ex's apartment and in with K, which means we out-did the old lesbian joke about bringing a U-haul on the second date - I didn't even wait for the first!

Well -- apparently, I out-lesbianed ALL OF YOU 'cause I brought in the U-haul before I even knew my OH. (now -- remember this WAS the 70's after all...)I was actually moving in with his room-mate that I had known off and on for some time but who didn't bother to inform me he was in a relationship with a third party while all the time sweet-talking me into a move to Phoenix. What can I say? We were all hippies and stuff like that happened more often than we'd probably care to admit to, back in those days. BUT I will also say this -- I really didn't expect it was gonna stick until one day I got sick.... *****WARNING --TMI TO FOLLOW***** (REALLY-DISGUSTING-BARFING-AWFUL-LAYING-ON-THE-FLOOR-WISHING-I- WOULD-JUST-DIE-FOOD-POISONING-SICK) and the dear man stayed with me, made me tea, cleaned up my barf, stuck me in the tub, and made me plain boiled rice for breakfast the next day. After that I knew I'd met the father of my children and asked him to PLEASE marry me, Thirty-three years later -- Here we are.

p.s. -- GREAT STORIES EVERYBODY!!!!!

 

[TuckandStuiesMom]

Those are fun!!

You are SO bad!

 

[OrlandoMike]

The hippie thing has me laughing, reminds me of a story of when I first moved to Boston. I found a roommate through some agency, and he had a weekend boyfriend from the Hampton's. So as were moving my stuff in the place I ask what the boyfriend did during the week. Seems the weekend boyfriend had a husband back in the Hamptons, but he left him on the weekends to be with my soon to be roommate. When I asked about the husband who was left back in the Hampton's, I was told he had a weekend boyfriend. The only problem was, the weekend boyfriend in the Hampton's had a husband, and was all alone on the weekends.

"By the way, would I be interested in going to the Hampton's one weekend"
He then proceeded to light up a joint!

Weirdest roommate I ever had!

 

[geniegirl]

We met freshman year of high school. While we did not get together as a couple till freshman year of college we had the first 4 years to form a great friendship. This may we just had our 12 year aniv. Now all we need is a baby and the family will be complete. We hope to go back to WDW in 08 with a little one.

 

[jlewisinsyr]

It was 2001, I was 22, he was 23.

We started talking on Gay.com and this was back in the days of dial-up if you could imagine the pain!

The night before we were to meet up, he called me, just to talk, I was at a friend's house and we were partying it up and let a friend bleach my hair into polka-dots. Now keep in mind, I never drank up until I was about 24, so I was just high on life.

So we meet at the local mall to go see a movie. Walking in, met one of his friends who just saw the movie we were going to see (Jurrasic Park 3). He said it wasn't good so we changed plans and watched What's The Worst That Could Happen. So, I had really freaky hair, and we were watching a campy movie that highlighted the whole bad decision of the night before.

I was also had a quite a few facial piercings, so when I met his Mother a few days later, I made the decision with his encouragement to take a few out and wear a hat, both good decisions for first impressions that I should have taken the first night.

But in the end, things worked out, and we have been together ever sense. He's definately the more social house wife and I'm the breadwinner, but it works well.

 

[Viki]

Wow, friends, wonderful, wonderful stories ...

 

[Szymanbeck]

I met my DH Chris in 2001 a few weeks before 9/11. I had an ad on PlanetOut and after 2 years of lonliness was ready to remove it and move back home to West Virginia. Thank GAWD, I got his email because I would otherwise be living with Mom & Dad.

We chatted on the phone a few times and then met up for a date. After dinner we went back to my place to watch a movie. We hit it off so well we stayed up and talked past 4am so I offerred him the couch but ended up sharing my King bed. We did not move beyond the get to know you phase for several weeks but he never did leave after that first night. We both knew we had met our soulmates.

The funny thing is that first night my 1yr old pup Alex chewed up his belt. I mean to pieces. I was mortified though I was going to send a guy home to his mom wondering what happened to her son and I would never see him again. Needless to say that Alex bought Chris a brand new belt for Christmas and we are celebrating out 6th year this September.

 

[rickwelch49525]

Lots of nice stories to read. Mine isn't nearly as exciting as most. I found I wasn't good at meeting guys in bars, so I placed a personal ad in The Advocate, when they still did that. I got quite a few responses, but knew when Bob left a message that he had some potential! We talked over 2 hours when I called him back and went out a few nights later. There hasn't been anyone else since then, and we have been together for 14.5 years!

Ric

 

[rosiep]

I first sw my husband when I was 15 yrs old and I swear my heart stopped. Unfortunately he was a friend of my older brother and well you know..he was off limits. Still, I begged my brother to let me hang out with him and his friends and after alot of room cleaning, pop tart heating and general serfdom...my brother let me come with him to band pratice (they were musicians)..imagine my utter dismay to see James AND a beautiful Oregonian girl he'd met at college........rats!!!! Well, they dated four years, i dated another guitar player....I left said guitar player..beautiful Oregonian left James various coupledoms ensued...but finally James and I got together...and have been married for 23 yrs.

PS...we're still great friends with both the Oregonian and the guitar player!

 

[nordkin]

We first met in 1981 when my partner, at the time, introduced me to her ex. They had been together in San Fransico several years before and were now both living in Washington DC. We became friends over the 5 years I was with my now ex and she had actually moved back to San Francisco. We stayed in touch while she live in San Fransico and she returned to Washington in Dec of 1986. I broke up with my ex in January of 1987. I started seeing my now partner on and off to go out as friends. March 15, 1987 we went to dinner near her house, went back to her house to talk, and when I got up to leave she said it was late and I should stay the night. Her exact words were " You can stay in the guest room or my bed. If you stay in my bed, I promise nothing will happen." Well she didn't have to ask me twice. We have been together every since.

 

[PghLybrt]

Ok I really did the classic lesbian square dance (you know the change your partner routine). Val was dating my ex girlfriend who I had just moved back in with. I had been living in a different city with somebody else and decided to move back. Well my Ex’s girlfriend came over for dinner one night and all of us started talking. I should have excused myself and went upstairs at some point but I never did. Needless to say my ex eventually went to bed and I stayed up talking to her girlfriend. The next day I asked my ex how interested she was in her. I asked because she was dating 2 other people at the time. She said not really and it was ok if I wanted to go ahead and date her. Well I did want to, but there was one small concern. I was a junior in college and she was only a senior in high school, and 17. Well I backed off for a while and continued to chat with her, go out to the movies and such but never any real “date”. Then she turned 18 we seriously picked up and went to buffalo for the weekend. I noticed a few years later that she never went home . We have been together 12 years. And to top everything off her family loves me and I am her moms “favorite”



(Yes she did finish high school and went onto college )

 

[odd1]

Aww... such wonderful stories!! THANK YOU for sharing!

My DW and I met five years ago at church.

Seriously. We did.

I was married to someone else at the time (a man, at that), so our relationship was purely platonic for the first three and a half years. In fact, I kind of held her at arm's length because I was afraid of what would happen if we got too close! I'm seriously attracted to her. Anyhoo. So my marriage was on the rocks (had been for quite some time), and finally hit bottom and collapsed, and she was there to pick up the pieces. And me. teehee.

I love her like nothing else and can't imagine my life without her. In fact, the words, "my life" sound wierd to me. It's "our life" now.

 

[snowman]

DSO was hired as my replacement at the place I was leaving on Cape Cod. 10 months later I came back to work there and that's when we met. She was (foolishly) married to a jerk of a husband at the time. Well, friends first, everything else came after....but in about a year from the time we met we were living together. That was 11 years ago. About 6 years ago we went to VT and got civilized.

We have raised the nephew together and gone into major financial debt together (we bought our first house 3 years ago). We both say "I'll be a widow before I'll get divorced again" Ahhh, the security of mutually assured destruction - it works for major governments AND couples.

I wouldn't trade her in for anything - I've just gotten her trained (she says the same about me).

 

[odd1]

I have to comment that I love the overwhelming number of long-term relationships mentioned here! Twenty years, eleven years ... so many of you are past that first decade. It's beautiful and inspirational!