So annoyed...need advise.

[MissMet]

Hey guys. I need advise. I am really annoyed.

I am going to WDW with one of my closest friends, well not really "friend" but more like "little sister", Kristin. Kristin's family have been in my life for years. We grew up together so to speak. She always looked at me as a big sister & I looked at her as a little sister. We are 4 years apart. I decided I wanted to take her to WDW, since she had never stayed on property or been for longer than 3 days straight. So I booked our stay for the day after she gets home from college.

We are now a little under 4 weeks away. Well, we were talking about it on facebook, since she's away at school. I would put little messages like, "46 days away!" on her facebook wall. Well, another family who used to be close to ours has since moved to Fl, about an hour away from Orlando. They have two daughters, one around Kristin's age & the other a year or two younger. The older one, especially, I couldn't really tolerate for too long. It's nothing against her it's just she's very young, where Kristin is a lot more mature. (only child) Kristin was friends with her, but not too close. Now, as I'm sure you've guessed, the two girls now living in Fl heard about our trip & asked me on FB if it was true that we were going to WDW & when!!!

To make an already LONG story short... How would you handle this?? Both of these girls are in college so they'll be on summer vacation and I know they're gonna want to hang out... a lot! I'm not totally mean & don't mind having dinner with them one night or something, but how can I control this?! I'm afraid they're gonna wanna tag along the whole week! We have no ADRs, since we are on the QS dining plan, to use as an excuse to get away from them. I'm sure they have Fl APs so we can't hide from them in the parks.

I'm just really annoyed. I just wanted to have a quiet week with my "lil sis" who I barely get to see any more. I don't want to be hanging out with a bunch a girls!! I was never that type of girl anyway. Any help???

I hope I'm not coming off like a snob. I'm really not, I just want to have a great time on vacation. I've really been looking forward to this trip & now I'm freaking out!!

Thanks for listening.

 

[LuvOrlando]

Talk to your 'lil sis' about keeping things under your hat. Do not give these girls a huge window. Instead tell them "we will be free Friday night" or something like that and whenever they push for more info tell them you are not sure yet... not sure of where you are going or what you are doing. Tell 'lil sis' to do the same and you should be able to control things just fine. Whatever you do don't tell them the exact dates and where you are staying or things could get very ugly. Also, some ADR's at hard to get into spots could totally work to your advantage because even if they end up at the same park as you a ressie would separate you guys which could totally give you enough time to give them the slip.

FYI, I got stuck going with people who invited themselves a few years ago and they totally ruined my trip. My advice is don't give them the inch to squeeze themselves in, just be vague and keep changing things.

PS- make sure the night you offer is at the very end of your trip. If you give a date early on they will use that dinner as a way to paint you into a corner about more dates.

 

[TEENEE]

I would just say well maybe we can get together for dinner one night. If they don't take the hint you may have to be more bold.

 

[JimmyPicker]

I totally understand where you're coming from, although I'm not sure how to stop it.

Like you said, if it ends up being that you all get together for dinner one night, no big deal. But at this point, you have no idea if they're going to hijack your little sister and your whole vacation.

I really don't have any advice on how to handle this, especially since you aren't sure what the young girls have on their mind at this point. They could merely be asking out of curiosity, which is most likely, since it's doubtful that they're going to want to spend all their free time with you and lil sis.

I guess I would answer them honestly that yes, you're going on vacation, and see where it goes from there.

You're just going to have to be upfront if they start trying to take control or injecting themselves into your vacation. Just say that you were trying to spend a little time with lil sis since you haven't been able to see her very much because of school and all.

 

[FireDancer]

I would just say well maybe we can get together for dinner one night. If they don't take the hint you may have to be more bold.

I'd go with this. Personally I am a more-the-merrier kind of guy but if you aren't just set up a specific time and place and have one meeting and nothing more.

If I were in their shoes and the answer to my question was "we could meet for dinner on..." would know that means they don't want me to tag along the whole time. If they did the answer would have indicated it.

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

one night you could set aside for dinner or maybe even a lunch. but you could always explain to them that you have everything pretty booked already.

there's so many other things in Disney that you need reservations for. you could tell them you only made reservations for 2 people at dinner, or you're doing one of the tours so you won't be around for that(the Keys To the Kingdom tour takes like 6 hours anyway), or that you're doing something else like golfing....there's plenty of excuses you could use.

 

[Ilivetogo]

Talk to your 'lil sis' about keeping things under your hat. Do not give these girls a huge window. Instead tell them "we will be free Friday night" or something like that and whenever they push for more info tell them you are not sure yet... not sure of where you are going or what you are doing. Tell 'lil sis' to do the same and you should be able to control things just fine. Whatever you do don't tell them the exact dates and where you are staying or things could get very ugly. Also, some ADR's at hard to get into spots could totally work to your advantage because even if they end up at the same park as you a ressie would separate you guys which could totally give you enough time to give them the slip.

FYI, I got stuck going with people who invited themselves a few years ago and they totally ruined my trip. My advice is don't give them the inch to squeeze themselves in, just be vague and keep changing things.

PS- make sure the night you offer is at the very end of your trip. If you give a date early on they will use that dinner as a way to paint you into a corner about more dates.

I think this sounds like great advice. Ditto to that ...

Good luck.

PS: I'd be annoyed too.

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[CF'er]

Why would you be annoyed? You say yourself that you put it out there on FB. Maybe not in so many words but if I saw a countdown on someone's wall I would be tempted to ask my friend what was up. So they asked when you are going. Just don't respond or be vague or suck it up and make plans late in your trip.

 

[Silent1CB]

No indication they are trying to meet up with you, but if you feel you can't handle how to get out of it, then try this.

About 5 weeks from now, post this:
"Oops, sorry I didn't see your message before our trip. Don't know how I missed it. We have a great trip. Too bad we didn't get to meet up".

 

[MissMet]

Thanks guys. Great suggestions.

We'll be there Mon-Mon, so I think I'll just set up with them to meet up Sat afternoon. Then it will be towards the end of our trip, so if they keep trying to tag along after that, if I can't get out of it, it will only be the last day & a half of our trip & not the whole time. I forgot to mention we have a 2 bed villa, just for the two of us, so they could quite comfortably tag along. Hopefully we can keep that fact quiet!

I'm all about a bunch of friends at WDW together. I took three of my friends to WDW and we had an awesome time. However, these girls were really never my friends, our parents were and we don't really have a lot in common. (big age difference) I was really looking forward to a more laid back, quiet trip. The thing that annoyed me about it is the feeling of being "trapped". Either I give in & my vacation is not what I hoped or I offend them. I don't want either & that's why I was (am!) so annoyed. But I think doing it how you guys suggested will be best.

 

[MushyMushy]

I get how you feel! We don't really share our vacation plans for fear of potential tagalongs -- and what is it about WDW that makes people feel like they can join you on your vacation anyway??

If I were you, I'd go ahead and nip it in the bud early. I would share how you're feeling with your friend and let her know that you are planning this as alone time. I think if you're footing the bill (which it sounds like you are), you might have more of a say in this. I like the idea of setting aside ONE evening to spend with these people maybe on your next to the last day.

 

[MissMet]

No indication they are trying to meet up with you, but if you feel you can't handle how to get out of it, then try this.

About 5 weeks from now, post this:
"Oops, sorry I didn't see your message before our trip. Don't know how I missed it. We have a great trip. Too bad we didn't get to meet up".

very tempting


I didn't make it clear what was typed on FB...

"You guys in Fl?! When??!!"

 

[MissMet]

Why would you be annoyed? You say yourself that you put it out there on FB. Maybe not in so many words but if I saw a countdown on someone's wall I would be tempted to ask my friend what was up. So they asked when you are going. Just don't respond or be vague or suck it up and make plans late in your trip.

Just to be clear. I didn't "put it out there" on FB. I was writing little reminders on my friend's wall about our trip to get her excited. FB is our main form of communication while she's at school. I am not close with these girls, that's why I never even gave it a thought to not put it on my friend's wall. If I had even thought of these girls and this possibly happening I would have privately e-mailed my friend about our trip.