Snowflake children

[golfgal]

This is what I did too. However one time in Walmart, I laid down on the floor and screamed and stomped my feet. My 4 y.o. stood there in horror, and didn't make a peep the rest of the trip. Just wanted her to have a taste of how embarrassing it was.

I never went quite that far but I sure would whine right back at them when they started .

 

[Magpie]

This is what I did too. However one time in Walmart, I laid down on the floor and screamed and stomped my feet. My 4 y.o. stood there in horror, and didn't make a peep the rest of the trip. Just wanted her to have a taste of how embarrassing it was.

Too funny!

My son got into the habit of using the most unspeakably obnoxiously whiny voice when he was about 4. I tried everything (reason, consequences, punishment, logic, bribery, more punishment...), then finally I gave up and just started imitating him. First he laughed, then he got mad, and then he cried and begged me to stop. I told him I'd make him a deal. I'd stop using the voice if HE'd stop using it, too.

He stopped and never used it on me again.

I think a bit of creativity goes a looong way when it comes to parenting.

 

[MaleficentandGoons]

Dad, Mom...is that you??????
My parents imparted to my brother and I very early on the type of behavior that was expected, and that's the behavior they got. And, no, they did not hit us. I can probably count on one hand the number of times I got spanked.

There were no idle threats in my family. If they said "If you do that again, this will happen" ...believe me, if I did "that" again, "this" happened. I spent dinner at Howard Johnson's sitting in the car with my mother because she told me if I acted up one more time, we'd be sitting in the car. Me, in my 7 year old wisdon, was SURE she wouldn't miss a restaurant dinner, so I acted up. Guess who sat in the car? Me & Mom. Guess who regretted every second of acting up while she was sitting in said car? That would be me. She never raised her voice, but did give me a blow by blow description of what my brother and father were probably eating (cheeseburgers and chocolate shakes...the ultimate Howard Johnson's meal for those who remember the 70's)...Howard Cosell couldn't have done a better job commentating that meal! And then, of course, a hot fudge sundae for dessert. I, of course, acted up early in the meal, so I hadn't eaten anything. When we got home, I got a bowl of cereal and a 630pm bedtime. This taught me 2 things: DON'T act up in public and if they say it, they mean it. I wasn't stupid...I never tested the theory again.

That doesn't happen now. Kids rule the family and parents dance like marrionettes at the end of the strings to keep Junior happy.

Couldn't have said it better myself.

 

[goofyernmost]

I HATE seeing kids on leashes to me it just screams, "I can't control my kid." Maybe if she paid some attention to him instead of treating him like a yorkie, he would listen to her.

I don't hate seeing kids on leashes, because I saw how useful a leash was for my cousin. Her son was autistic and she also had a toddler. She couldn't hang on to her autistic child physically every moment of the day, nor could she strap him into a stroller (he would just scream endlessly if he was restrained). So she put a stretchy telephone cord style leash on him - it kept him safe, because he could not be counted on to stay close, and it gave him a feeling of freedom, too.

Many children cannot be counted on to stay close by. My sister used to disappear in a flash. We would be walking along someplace together and all of a sudden she would be gone. It was usually in a crowded area with lots of people. My parents were always spending large amounts of time just trying to find her. Since she loved her freedom she never responded to their calls. Well, along comes a "kid harness" and guess who got one right away. Oh how she hated it and still brings it up to this very day and she's in her mid 50's now. I feel no sympathy because the only reason that she had one was because she was to stubborn to listen to mom and dad. She kind of brought it on herself. Remember that was almost 50 years ago and the world is a much less friendly place today. I don't blame parents for going that route at all. I know I would rather they be mad at me for that then to be in the danger that they can find on their own.

There usually is a reason for parents taking extreme actions and they are not always bad ones.

 

[NHdisneylover]

I have never understood the "take them out if they're acting up" philosophy. Generally kids do that because they want to leave. "Soldiering on" is what's going to teach the kid that they aren't the boss. It also leads to there being food in the house which, in my experience, is also quite important.

I ran a preschool program when my son was small. I'm also a single mom with no babysitter outside of work hours, so my child was forever being dragged to the toystore to pick up some art supply we needed. Going to the toy store twice a week to buy things for other people's kids is rough on the kid, but buying something for him would have been worse. We had a couple of whining fits about why I couldn't get him something. If I had left it would have been a reward, so we "soldiered" through, and the fits disappeared.

If you just took them home and let them play then yes you would be rewarding the behaviour. If you make them sit in the corner, or the car (with no toys, DVDs, books, etc) or something else even more boring with the errand and then finish the errand once they are capable of behaving then the child learns a lesson and the others in the store are not forced to listen to an ill behaving child.

 

[Hannathy]

I HATE seeing kids on leashes to me it just screams, "I can't control my kid." Maybe if she paid some attention to him instead of treating him like a yorkie, he would listen to her.

I agree, I absolutely hate them!

 

[soccerchick]

Scenerio: I have no babysitter and HAVE to take the kids to the grocery store. If the little one is acting up and raising hell....no...I'm not taking he/she out, we are going to soldier on and get what we need. If some old woman has the audacity to tell me to take my kid out.....I'm going to tell her to **** off. Seriously, for real.

Bad example. I don't care what noise anybody makes in a grocery store. What would you do in a restaurant? In church? in a movie? If your kid was talking during a movie, and someone "shushed" her/him, deservedly, how would you react?

I don't know how to multiquote, but here's another one from you from just above the quote I could actually "quote" LOL:

"Whatever, I think they are just mean. My kids are gonna love the heck out of me because they are speshul little snowflakes and I'm a fun parent that loves them and I don't take life too seriously.

Snowflake parents DO take life seriously - they take EVERYTHING seriously.

 

[golfgal]

Bad example. I don't care what noise anybody makes in a grcoery store. What would you do in a restaurant? In church? ina movie? If your kid was talking during a movie, and someone "shushed" her/him, deservedly, how would you react?

I don't know how to multiquote, but here's another one from you from just above the quote I could actually "quote" LOL:

"Whatever, I think they are just mean. My kids are gonna love the heck out of me because they are speshul little snowflakes and I'm a fun parent that loves them and I don't take life too seriously.

Snowflake parents DO take life seriously - they take EVERYTHING seriously.

To multiquote all you have to do is click this box

for every quote you want to make. Once you have selected all the posts you want to quote hit "reply". Then at the end of each quote add your reply.

 

[soccerchick]

Reading comprehension. Calling someone stupid on a message board isn't saying it to their face.

as opposed to snowflake?

 

[ajk912]

To multiquote all you have to do is click this box

for every quote you want to make. Once you have selected all the posts you want to quote hit "reply". Then at the end of each quote add your reply.

Wow, thank you! I have been a member here for years and never knew this.

 

[golfgal]

Wow, thank you! I have been a member here for years and never knew this.

I would think they would have a sticky at the top of the page for this and how to post photos but they don't.

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

Wow, thank you! I have been a member here for years and never knew this.

Me either. I've been doing it the hard way.

 

[Ceila]

I HATE seeing kids on leashes to me it just screams, "I can't control my kid." Maybe if she paid some attention to him instead of treating him like a yorkie, he would listen to her.

That may be what you assume, but that doesn't make your assumption correct.

 

[penn19]

You know there ARE doggy strollers out there. I've seen them.

http://www.justpetstrollers.com/

And what is a crate, if not a crib for a dog?

FWIW, my children never slept in a crib, but I certainly don't hate the sight of them. Some families need them.

(Puppies and toddlers... they're really not so different... )

Ugh.....Snowflake dogs.......

 

[kelleyrn2000]

I HATE seeing kids on leashes to me it just screams, "I can't control my kid." Maybe if she paid some attention to him instead of treating him like a yorkie, he would listen to her.

Sometimes it's a safety issue. We had to use one for dd 7 at Disney this year, after she took off twice in the first couple days. If she wasn't holding my hand, she had a backpack with a cooler strap attached and she wasn't going anywhere. People can think what they want. My child's safety is more important than how it looks to have a "leash" on my child.

 

[JohnDoe]

In other words my SIL and BIL who are both grown adults living at home probably forever because my inlaws have babied them to where they are now so incapacitated they can't even make simple decisions.

I'm The Brother in Law, and this is personal slander.

Kiki Mouse, how dare you speak about anybody like this, and about family yet. How mature of you to talk behind people's backs online where they have no chance to defend themselves. You're the one who has to grow up. And if anybody has any doubts about that, your post is proof enough. Shame on you, this is cowardly.

For all those readers out there, I'm a working student living at home while I finish University. I'm lucky my parents allow me to stay at home while I finish my studies, and I know that not everybody is as fortunate as I am in that regard.

Kiki Mouse, we'll be talking about this.

 

[Tetarella]

In other words my SIL and BIL who are both grown adults living at home probably forever because my inlaws have babied them to where they are now so incapacitated they can't even make simple decisions.

I am the sister in law of Kiki Mouse. I just found this post by chance and I want to make one thing clear this personal attack is not true and slanderous. I work full time and have been attending school full time for two years. It is my choice where I want to live and with whom. I would love to know why people find it acceptable to slam people (even their own family) publicly and not even give the person a chance to speak for themselves. I live in a good home with loving parents who love me and I them, we are a close family and I make my choices. No one forces me into any kind of decisions I make.

Shame on you Kiki Mouse for trying to tear apart your husband's family. Kiki Mouse has been on a month long mission to tear our family apart and now she's taken it online....how low can you go? I am appalled and upset about this

 

[Scurvy]

Huh. Well, this is an unexpected twist.

 

[LoriABil]

Let's see if we can get back on track...

I don't know about you, but I have a SnowANGEL, not a SnowFLAKE!

All kidding aside, all kids are unique and different, but we have to allow them to land just like the other snowflakes to make a gorgeous, flawless landscape. In a great big beautiful world. If you hold a snowflake, it will melt and lose it's uniqueness. If it's allowed to flutter, swirl, and even sometimes fall, it changes into something even more amazing. And even though the snow melts into rivers and streams, it eventually finds it's way to the ocean, to the sky, and then another beautiful snowflake us born.

In other words- Let go, parents!!!

 

[Hannathy]

Huh. Well, this is an unexpected twist.

Yes it was and what is that expression? Oh Yeah,

The truth hurts.......