Snowflake children

[golfgal]

In other words my SIL and BIL who are both grown adults living at home probably forever because my inlaws have babied them to where they are now so incapacitated they can't even make simple decisions.

 

[Bethenny]

I don't think that is true at all. I think it's an offensive term, now that I know what it means. I think people who throw it around probably have a labeled term that can be used about them....but that word is *'d out here on dis.!

Why do you think it's offensive? Do you think that there are some children who are more important or more special than other children?

 

[ilovejack02]

I agree that most people who don't like the term, find that it hits a little too close to home.

I love the word, and really find it more offensive to the parent, than the child. It is however not something I use in everyday conversation. It is used quite often here and I would imagine it is not the case most of the time, someone just throwing it out there to stir up trouble .

 

[rie'smom]

In other words my SIL and BIL who are both grown adults living at home probably forever because my inlaws have babied them to where they are now so incapacitated they can't even make simple decisions.

My brother and his wife. Mom has control of his checking account so she can pay their bills. He's 40 and his wife is 45. He has custody of his 2 kids from a previous marriage and SIL just had a baby in June. Mom drove 40 miles went to babysit yesterday-her birthday-so that SIL could go to the grocery store and Wal Mart. She had not gone to either since the baby was born. The blame goes to all 3. Mom because she loves acting the martyr, brother because he's clueless, and SIL because she's a drama queen.

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

I agree that most people who don't like the term, find that it hits a little too close to home.

I agree. For the most part I think this is true, and that goes for any "insult" really. Someone says Pepsi is better than Coke, all Coke lovers comment back. Someone claims states their distaste for short men, short men or wives of short men comment back. Someone says staying at values are the best, deluxe vacationers comment back.

And it's ok, people don't like to see their "kind" put down. Understandable. I think as long as it's not directed toward someone on the DIS then it should be allowed like when we're talking about a news story or something.

 

[damo]

I love the word, and really find it more offensive to the parent, than the child. It is however not something I use in everyday conversation. It is used quite often here and I would imagine it is not the case most of the time, someone just throwing it out there to stir up trouble .

That is exactly how I view it as well. It is more a reflection on the parent than on the child. The child is probably fine but the parent has the attitude that their child is a "spechul snowflake".

 

[princess pooh]

I never had heard the term before till a few weeks ago, when someone got nasty with me about a question I asked (and there comment had nothing to do wit hthe topic at hand either). They called my DD a snowflake. I had no clue what it meant, but it sounded derogitory.
And now I see the meaning it makes me even more mad.We live on a dairy farm and my DD helps her dad out. Certainly not a "snowflake". She does alot and does alot for herself! I think if that is what it means (what the previous poster said) it should be banned here. I think it is very inappropriate to call someones child that.

Boy it is making me boil over mad about that thread now...which also got closed because of that poster, BTW.

Sorry, but wanting "snowflake" to be banned just because you don't like it is pretty snowflakey! The DIS just cracks me up sometimes.

 

[castleview]

Sorry, but wanting "snowflake" to be banned just because you don't like it is pretty snowflakey! The DIS just cracks me up sometimes.

 

[castleview]

Actually, I think teacups are the children of helicoptor parents. They have never been allowed to do anything on their own, and once they become adults, they have no clue how. Mommy is still right there, doing it for them. They can be "snowflakes" but they don't have to be. In other words, the helicoptor parent doesn't necessarily treat thir kid as a snowflake, but does do everything for them.

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My BIL said it best about his own daughter…whose mom (BIL's ex) and grandmothers wouldn't let her do ANYTHING. His words were "For the first five years of her life, they treated her like an egg."

 

[Disney Doll]

I have also recently heard "lawnmower parents" which, apparently, are parents who mow down anything in their kid's way so he/she can have a smooth life journey without any bumps in the road so they can meet their goals.

I actually think the term snowflake is quite accurately descriptive of the way many children are being raised...

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

Sorry, but wanting "snowflake" to be banned just because you don't like it is pretty snowflakey! The DIS just cracks me up sometimes.

I couldn't resist in . That stuff happens on the DIS a lot though, unfortunately, I've never seen anywhere else that is so PC. But a weird, different kind of PC.

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

I have also recently heard "lawnmower parents" which, apparently, are parents who mow down anything in their kid's way so he/she can have a smooth life journey without any bumps in the road so they can meet their goals.

I actually think the term snowflake is quite accurately descriptive of the way many children are being raised...

I like it. Probably not as damaging to a child as "snowflake"-ing but nevertheless, not good.

 

[LuvLDM]

Sorry, but wanting "snowflake" to be banned just because you don't like it is pretty snowflakey! The DIS just cracks me up sometimes.

no kidding

 

[Nik's Mom]

I've seen the term snowflake used on message boards. I think the term is used as an insult to the parent that created the problem. I don't really see it as an insult to the kid.

I think it would be silly to ban the word on here. I agree with Princess Pooh.

 

[doxdogy]

Good answer!!

Sorry, but wanting "snowflake" to be banned just because you don't like it is pretty snowflakey! The DIS just cracks me up sometimes.

 

[golfgal]

That is exactly how I view it as well. It is more a reflection on the parent than on the child. The child is probably fine but the parent has the attitude that their child is a "spechul snowflake".

Very true.

 

[mickeysgal]

In other words my SIL and BIL who are both grown adults living at home probably forever because my inlaws have babied them to where they are now so incapacitated they can't even make simple decisions.

My 42year old brother who doesn't work and lives with my mother and doesn't contribute a dime, falls in this category as well. Babied, enabled, whatever the term, by my mother and my mother alone. What term is used for the parents of such snowflakes? Is there one?

 

[FireDancer]

There is nothing more satisfying in the office than to watch a snowflake enter the workforce and get slapped in the face with a 2x4 of reality. Mommy and daddy can't dig you out of the hole any longer or put back together your fragile little ego, though comically some still try.

A quick PSA to anyone out there who is raising a snowflake: your kid is no more special or precious than every other kid on the face of the Earth.

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

In other words my SIL and BIL who are both grown adults living at home probably forever because my inlaws have babied them to where they are now so incapacitated they can't even make simple decisions.

Not to be differentiated with the grown-up snowflakes, AKA teacups, who just move on to spousal babying and/or dominance.

 

[castleview]

There is nothing more satisfying in the office than to watch a snowflake enter the workforce and get slapped in the face with a 2x4 of reality. Mommy and daddy can't dig you out of the hole any longer or put back together your fragile little ego, though comically some still try.

A quick PSA to anyone out there who is raising a snowflake, your kid is no more special or precious than every other kid on the face of the Earth.

Wish I worked at your company. When I entered the workforce in the early 90s, snowflakes were getting what they wanted because management couldn't tell the difference between confidence and spoiled rotten demands.