Snoring roommate equals no sleep for us (NEW update scary stuff

[mom2rtk]

You tried. It didn't work. You can't put a price on a solid night of sleep.

But I'd be honest.

 

[anniemae]

any update op? Are you sleeping finally!! LOL!!!

 

[cluvsdisney]

I was in this position once and I just got my own room and since it was my decision to move after agreeing to split the original room, I covered the extra expense myself. I didn't think it was fair to stick her with a bigger bill for something she couldn't help. The other person felt a little bad but it was for the best because no one would sleep if we continued sharing.

 

[smitch425]

When DH snores, I just crank up the volume on my Sleepy Fan app. Drowns him right out. Lol

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

I slept about an hour after typing this then her alarm goes off again and again as she hits the snooze.
She gets out of bed finally flicks the lights on and goes about her business.

I haven't seen her barely this morning. She went somewhere with part of the group and left before DD and I
We are now at the place she is supposed to be , I seen her once for about 30 sec , 4 hours ago so not sure where she is.
I texted her about an hour ago no response.

I feel like a walking zombie . I'm typing this and can feel my eyes closing.
Also with me , less sleep equals less patience, so I have to be careful I don't say something out of line to DD due to the sleep deprivation.
We have a 6 hour drive home Friday. Friend only has 3 hours.
I could never drive that far feeling like I do now.

I know if I tell her it won't be pretty
I also feel bad for DD. We were supposed to have fun and spend time together . We are doing that to a point, but with friend everything turns into a struggle.
Last night we got back to the room at 530. DD said she was starved, we didn't have lunch.
Friend heard DD but she wanted to take a shower. Ok fine but then she wanted a drink , to call her husband , to watch videos on her phone , two hours later we are leaving for dinner
DD and I suggested 3 places. Nope didn't want any of them. Ended up eating at the hotel where she complained about everything until the waitress finally comped her bill.

I told DD we are going where we want to tonight. So maybe a seperate room may be a good thing .

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Time to book your own room. Just do it.

 

[gemini2727]

It's nothing personal. Humans need sleep!

I shared a room with a co-worker once for a conference and she snored so loud that I actually went into the hotel bathroom and tried to sleep on the floor but I could hear her through the door. I contemplated trying to find someone at the conference that would let me just sleep on the floor in their room! I finished out the conference but did tell her that it was nothing personal but I couldn't room with her ever again.

My only advice though is I wouldn't use your dog as an excuse. I'd be honest with her, that way you don't look like the bad guy. Plus maybe she doesn't know she snores and you'll be doing a public service.

I could have written this post!
On the way to my conference, my work-mate asked me on the plane "Did you bring earplugs?"
I was like "no, why would I need earplugs in Puerto Rico??" I found out! She was the tiniest woman, but snored like a freight-train!
I spent nights on the bathroom floor or out on our balcony with the very loud, but still preferable, chirping tree frogs
When she realized what I was doing, she offered to bathroom sleep half the time, so that was kind of her.

 

[cluvsdisney]

I slept about an hour after typing this then her alarm goes off again and again as she hits the snooze.
She gets out of bed finally flicks the lights on and goes about her business.

I haven't seen her barely this morning. She went somewhere with part of the group and left before DD and I
We are now at the place she is supposed to be , I seen her once for about 30 sec , 4 hours ago so not sure where she is.
I texted her about an hour ago no response.

I feel like a walking zombie . I'm typing this and can feel my eyes closing.
Also with me , less sleep equals less patience, so I have to be careful I don't say something out of line to DD due to the sleep deprivation.
We have a 6 hour drive home Friday. Friend only has 3 hours.
I could never drive that far feeling like I do now.

I know if I tell her it won't be pretty
I also feel bad for DD. We were supposed to have fun and spend time together . We are doing that to a point, but with friend everything turns into a struggle.
Last night we got back to the room at 530. DD said she was starved, we didn't have lunch.
Friend heard DD but she wanted to take a shower. Ok fine but then she wanted a drink , to call her husband , to watch videos on her phone , two hours later we are leaving for dinner
DD and I suggested 3 places. Nope didn't want any of them. Ended up eating at the hotel where she complained about everything until the waitress finally comped her bill.

I told DD we are going where we want to tonight. So maybe a seperate room may be a good thing .

I think it would be a very good thing. You shouldn't feel bad for not letting this woman ruin the time you want to spend with your daughter.

 

[scrapquitler]

My friend and I and my daughter are away on a trip.
Originally we were staying in seperate rooms ( my friend one room, daughter and I in another room)
Friend called me and asked if we could room together because she's had some financial issues lately and she couldn't pay the whole amount herself. If I didn't then she would ask someone else. Big group is away.
I asked my daughter she said sure
Friend and I have roomed together in the past but I literally forgot how bad her snoring was.
Monday night was pretty bad. I couldn't sleep probably like 2 hours and same with DD.
I'm laying awake now. It's 1:45 am and she sounds like a freight train and again DD and I are awake.
We are going to be walking zombies in the morning.
I modified my original room reservation but never cancelled it.

I think DD and I are just going to tell her we are going to our own room. I feel bad about the money and sharing is helping us too but this is insane.
DH doesn't snore as bad and we sleep in seperate rooms at home because he keeps me awake.

If I confront her about the snoring, she'll somehow turn it around to make herself the martyr. We've been on again off again friends for almost 20 years, off again mainly because she can be very dramatic and set in her ways, with no room to compromise.
We have our dogs with us and this is my dogs first time in a hotel. She's not doing well , whining and barking in her crate so I am curled on a chair next to her crate to keep her quiet.
It's working. As long as I'm near she's ok.
I'm going to use my dog as an excuse . She may be more comfortable if we stayed separately . My friend will be responsible for about $100 extra dollars if DD and I change rooms.
Other people are already set with roommates and such so with the dog situation too, I seriously doubt she could find someone else to room with.
Opinions welcome!
Signed sleepless is Kentucky

Buy her a box of breathe right strips to wear.

When my husband starts snoring and it bothers me, I pinch his nose until he stops, then he rolls over and I go back to sleep.

 

[DawnM]

I slept about an hour after typing this then her alarm goes off again and again as she hits the snooze.
She gets out of bed finally flicks the lights on and goes about her business.

I haven't seen her barely this morning. She went somewhere with part of the group and left before DD and I
We are now at the place she is supposed to be , I seen her once for about 30 sec , 4 hours ago so not sure where she is.
I texted her about an hour ago no response.

I feel like a walking zombie . I'm typing this and can feel my eyes closing.
Also with me , less sleep equals less patience, so I have to be careful I don't say something out of line to DD due to the sleep deprivation.
We have a 6 hour drive home Friday. Friend only has 3 hours.
I could never drive that far feeling like I do now.

I know if I tell her it won't be pretty
I also feel bad for DD. We were supposed to have fun and spend time together . We are doing that to a point, but with friend everything turns into a struggle.
Last night we got back to the room at 530. DD said she was starved, we didn't have lunch.
Friend heard DD but she wanted to take a shower. Ok fine but then she wanted a drink , to call her husband , to watch videos on her phone , two hours later we are leaving for dinner
DD and I suggested 3 places. Nope didn't want any of them. Ended up eating at the hotel where she complained about everything until the waitress finally comped her bill.

I told DD we are going where we want to tonight. So maybe a seperate room may be a good thing .

Why is she even ever an "on again" friend? She sounds so selfish. I couldn't put up with that at all.

 

[mjkacmom]

How in the world could you have forgotten about her snoring?! Get another room, ASAP. Between the dog and the snoring, I'd be out of my mind!

 

[Minnesota!]

That sounds miserable. Get your own room, TELL HER WHY, don't let yourself be bullied into feeling bad about it, and get some sleep/enjoy your time with your daughter! Gotta look out for you...

 

[Disney Doll]

Move to the other room. Apologize and tell her while you know she can't help her Snoring it is keeping you awake and you cannot get by on minimal sleep.

I'd still pay whatever my split was of her room because I agreed to that.

Then you're a little more apart from her and less bound to her schedule of calls, movie watching etc. if you and DD want to go to dinner at X time you tell her you're going at X time and she's welcome to join you. If she chooses to take 2 hours to get there, that's her problem.

 

[Liberty Belle]

I was in this position once and I just got my own room and since it was my decision to move after agreeing to split the original room, I covered the extra expense myself. I didn't think it was fair to stick her with a bigger bill for something she couldn't help. The other person felt a little bad but it was for the best because no one would sleep if we continued sharing.

I'd do this, OP, especially since your dog is making noise, too.

 

[Hikergirl]

Go to the desk, get a room, go up to the room and get your and your dd's stuff out and put it into the new room. When she questions you, tell her you tried to contact her but she didn't bother to get back to you.

My husband totally understands that I can't share a room with him on some nights. If a husband can understand why his wife doesn't want to share his bed, a so called friend should be able understand why someone can't sleep in the same room.

 

[nkereina]

Could you tell her that you and DD aren't sleeping well since you have to share a bed, so you're going to get your own room? It would save the embarrassment and tension that comes with having to tell your friend the truth.

Only thing giving me pause though is the extra $100 your friend will have to pay that she didn't expect, when she told you from the get go that she couldn't afford to room on her own. If I were you, I might offer to cover that difference for her so she's not out more money unexpectedly because of your decision, after you agreed to room with her.

 

[Mortlives]

Agree with getting your own room. And, she sounds like a nightmare, not a friend. Please be more assertive in dealing with her. There is nothing wrong in going and getting food when you are hungry. You definitely don't need to await milady's pleasure to feed your child.

 

[goofy4tink]

Go to the desk, get a room, go up to the room and get your and your dd's stuff out and put it into the new room. When she questions you, tell her you tried to contact her but she didn't bother to get back to you.

My husband totally understands that I can't share a room with him on some nights. If a husband can understand why his wife doesn't want to share his bed, a so called friend should be able understand why someone can't sleep in the same room.

This! There's no reason for you and your dd to go through this! You need sleep, you should be able to enjoy your time with your dd.
My dh and I now have our own rooms because of his horrible snoring. The only way I could sleep with him was if I took Ambien or Lunesta! Not a terrific solution. When we travel together I have Ibuprofen PM...takes the edge off for a few nights. So don't feel guilty about needing your own space. I would offer to pay that $100 though. Your 'friend' and you did agree as to costs.

 

[hereyago]

Move to another room and not do this again with her.

 

[aquabone1109]

Too bad you did not record her snoring. A lot of people who snore that bad deny it. I went through the same thing last year skiing. I was staying with my friend because he was having a hard time paying for his own room. I let him stay with me so he can save the $$. That first night was horrible with the snoring and snorting. I recorded it, showed him the video and told him that he is going to have to get his own room. He agreed and we are still friends.