Sneaking off to Disneyland

[madjohn]

Well my wife does not want to make a visit this summer to Disneyland and wont agree to me taking the kids. Was thinking about sneaking in a trip. I could be in the area in july and thinking about taking a day or two and going by myself. It would be nice to go without others and kids and just take time to "see" disneyland without rushing around. Have others done this? Just wondering how bad I am (always easier to do bad things in a crowd)

John

 

[Boo Bear]

I don't have a family or anything (well not a husband and kids) but I don't see the harm. I'm doing a solo trip for my birthday in July and I can't wait! I can do whatever I want to do without being held back by anyone else. I say that if you want to go, then go! Everyone deserves a break

 

[Leshaface]

ooo, I would be careful with that...if I told my husband to not do something
(with a reasonable and logical explanation for it) I would be pretty upset.

If she doesn't want to go due to financial issues...you shouldn't..

 

[darph nader]

Solo trips are kinda nice. Like you said "No rushing" around. Get to ride what you want,eat when you,stuff/like/that/there.

 

[mechurchlady]

I never married so I never lied to a spouse and cheated gone behind his back.
I have lied to my mother to avoid coming home from work to dried out pork chops, lol. I have lied to her about things and felt guilty.

You would not be here asking our opinion if you had no qualms what so ever. Asking us shows you feel guilty and need approval for something you know is wrong. Going to Disneyland is not wrong but lying to someone you swore to love, honor and obey is wrong. It hurts the relationship when you lie about something simple and slowly that trust is destroyed. In your case it is a big lie and thus a lot of damage to her trusting you. Also is it fair to the kids that daddy is having fun without them?

Also how good are you at hiding the evidence?

 

[teatime]

going by your self can be fun........ now the wife. if she is concerned over finances then I sugest you stay home and be a good boy. maybe take the kids and wife camping. now if she is just being mean then I say tell her to stop dictating and go. If my hubby ever had told me I was not going to do something fun and with out it being because of finances I would tell him to take a leap. yeah, I have the mind set of " I do what I want to do with in reason" if you go have a great time, if you don;t go have a great summer

 

[youmyflower]

no judgment on my part. I have spent some time on my own at the park and it was both relaxing and lonely.

We actually "snuck" down to DL two years ago with my youngest two while the older two were with their father. Something about being sneaky made it more fun. (And hey the older girls have been SOOO many times they don't really have room to complain). My oldest DD did find out about 9 months later - she found pictures on my mom's computer!

 

[pixiewings71]

Well it depends on why she doesn't want to go and how she might feel about you sneaking off. I think you should talk to her about it more, why can't you take the kids and go? Why can't she go? I think you need to be careful about this one.....

 

[fairykin]

Well my wife does not want to make a visit this summer to Disneyland and wont agree to me taking the kids. Was thinking about sneaking in a trip. I could be in the area in july and thinking about taking a day or two and going by myself. It would be nice to go without others and kids and just take time to "see" disneyland without rushing around. Have others done this? Just wondering how bad I am (always easier to do bad things in a crowd)

John

He's saying that He wants to SNEAK in a Trip when He's in the area. Meaning He wishes to insert in the small window of time he is in the area a quick trip to disneyland since His family are not wanting to go.

Not lie or sneak around on his wife was referenced.

I'm sure Your wife will be kewl when you tell her you wanna go for a quick trip to disneyland. Have Fun and Safe TraveL!

 

[toocherie]

Dawn I read it the same way you did. Perhaps the use of the word "sneak" was unfortunate--I don't think he meant that he was not going to tell his wife--just that he would use some extra time while in the area to go to DL since the entire family couldn't go.

 

[reynmagsmom]

I say go for it my hubby may or may not come with me in august because he is not a fan but is willing to allow my trip because he knows I love it and it is MY birthday LOL he is actually planning on going but it may change as we get closer but my 17 yr old daughter and 16 yr old neice are coming with me reguardless as well as my daughter's best friend and if hubby does go we are going to take our 7 yr old nephew but if hubby doesnt go we are gonna make it an all girls trip and take nephew next year, my 18 yr old autistic/mentally disabled/deaf son is staying with grandma & grandpa this time around as he has no desire to go back(I can't believe I raised a disney hater) I think it is too much stimulation but sorry to go so off topic but back to that Go For It!!!!

 

[pixiewings71]

Well my wife does not want to make a visit this summer to Disneyland and wont agree to me taking the kids. Was thinking about sneaking in a trip. I could be in the area in july and thinking about taking a day or two and going by myself. It would be nice to go without others and kids and just take time to "see" disneyland without rushing around. Have others done this? Just wondering how bad I am (always easier to do bad things in a crowd)

John

He's saying that He wants to SNEAK in a Trip when He's in the area. Meaning He wishes to insert in the small window of time he is in the area a quick trip to disneyland since His family are not wanting to go.

Not lie or sneak around on his wife was referenced.

I'm sure Your wife will be kewl when you tell her you wanna go for a quick trip to disneyland. Have Fun and Safe TraveL!

That's not how I read it, I read it as he's sneaking, see my bolded parts to see why. If he's telling his wife beforehand then fine, but if not then it's not fine. At least IMO.

 

[specialks]

I don't see why you can't tell her about wanting to go while in town. There won't be a large financial expense because you are not sending the whole family, it's just you. If it was my husband... I would say, "Sounds great, have fun and can't wait to hear about it when you get back. Bring me back a little something so I can have a piece of the magic too." :

If, you cannot discuss this with her and work it out, then I think "sneaking" it in without telling her could really cause problems and should be avoided.