Sister Wives

[nicolita3]

I think Kodys definition of parenting is just having the kids do rock paper scissors for everything

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

I must be watching a different show or living a different life. When Meri and Kody decided to marry, I'm sure they went into it with the same perceptions of what their lives would be, and that included having children. I don't think Meri wanted to have several children because it was "expected" of her, anymore than I did. It was what DH and I wanted, together as a couple. Had I not been able to have more children, I...for me and for the life DH and I expected to have...would be heartbroken (although, we would have long ago adopted). And right or wrong, I might have felt inadequate...I did after a couple of miscarriages, when friends were having children so easily, it seemed, and in the emotions of it all.

Kody has made it "his life's work to have as many children as possible"?? Wow. Who knew.

You must be watching another show, then. He's spoken many times about how he wants tons of kids. Besides its well known that in their religion the more wives and children you have, the higher you are looked upon by others in the same faith

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

Does Kody have much to do with raising any of his kids?

He tells them what they can and can't wear. Other than that I haven't really seen him as a big role in any of the kids lives.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

You must be watching another show, then. He's spoken many times about how he wants tons of kids. Besides its well known that in their religion the more wives and children you have, the higher you are looked upon by others in the same faith

LOL I guess so then! Did his wives all have the number of kids they had because Kody expected it of them, or did they want them as well? Is it "well known" in their religion that the more wives and children you have, the higher you are looked upon by others in the same religion? Then if it's "his life's work", why did he only have 3 wives for years and years? And only 4 now? Wouldn't he have been working harder at his "life's work" to bring more wives and children into his family? Is he "ranked" higher than the guy with the three wives who were on the show?

They were all, I think, raised in polygamist families. That's what they know, that's what they believe. The wives as well as Kody, including having big families. I grew up in a big family (not polygamist ) and honestly, I wish things had been different and that I had had more children. My DH, not so much.

To say that Kody's "life's work is to have as many children as possible" is a little misleading and a lot dramatic.

 

[Scornelius]

I actually interpreted Kody's remarks differently. He's asked over and over if she wants a baby, and made it clear he's onboard with fertility treatments if that's what she wants. He just wanted her to initiate it. So now, they're on a mountain top having a picnic that's specifically for her to give her answer, and instead, she gives a non-answer and flips it around on him. So, he says "ok, neither of us seem to be feeling called to do this, so why don't we go forward with "no" as our answer, and see how that feels? If you find yourself waking at night, crying for a child you desperately desire, then we'll have our answer! But until then, let's just sit with "no" for a while.". Am I giving him too much credit?

To me, it seemed like a really sensible way to handle it. If she has to think about it this much, the answer is no!

 

[Carina]

I actually interpreted Kody's remarks differently. He's asked over and over if she wants a baby, and made it clear he's onboard with fertility treatments if that's what she wants. He just wanted her to initiate it. So now, they're on a mountain top having a picnic that's specifically for her to give her answer, and instead, she gives a non-answer and flips it around on him. So, he says "ok, neither of us seem to be feeling called to do this, so why don't we go forward with "no" as our answer, and see how that feels? If you find yourself waking at night, crying for a child you desperately desire, then we'll have our answer! But until then, let's just sit with "no" for a while.". Am I giving him too much credit?

To me, it seemed like a really sensible way to handle it. If she has to think about it this much, the answer is no!

I agree.

 

[kate_wdw]

Scornelius & Carina, that's the way I interpreted it as well.

 

[mrsksomeday]

Ariel, I agree with you, you summed up my thoughts on the show .

 

[ariel71]

Ariel, I agree with you, you summed up my thoughts on the show .

Thank you. Apparently my post has been deleted - I assume because I had quoted a post that included specific religious references and that post has been deleted as well. I can't recall saying anything that would have been against Dis rules. Oh well, my comments were about other sections of that post and the Browns themselves, not their religion.

 

[Pembo]

Scornelius & Carina, that's the way I interpreted it as well.

I agree too but running to Robin and crying about HIS decision was not cool imho.

 

[kate_wdw]

I agree too but running to Robin and crying about HIS decision was not cool imho.

Agreed.

 

[CF'er]

I too was thinking about him not really having a "home" watching him run from house to house. Is his name on all 4 houses? Just one? I never really caught all of that. I don't think I could live life constantly on the move like that. I also don't see why he didn't have "stuff" at each house all along.

As for the baby I think he came off like a real ***. HE made the decision and never gave Merri much of a chance to answer in my opinion. And it wouldn't be so bad for her if she didn't know in her head that it was just a matter of time before another baby comes along with another wife. He can say NO to Merri but you know darn well that he will have more kids with one of them.

 

[brockash]

I too was thinking about him not really having a "home" watching him run from house to house. Is his name on all 4 houses? Just one? I never really caught all of that. I don't think I could live life constantly on the move like that. I also don't see why he didn't have "stuff" at each house all along.

As for the baby I think he came off like a real ***. HE made the decision and never gave Merri much of a chance to answer in my opinion. And it wouldn't be so bad for her if she didn't know in her head that it was just a matter of time before another baby comes along with another wife. He can say NO to Merri but you know darn well that he will have more kids with one of them.

He's not my favorite person in the world, but I really give him a pass on the whole Merri/baby crap. Merri had been hemming and hawing, playing the victim etc. over this baby stuff for over a year. In my opinion, she had long ago accepted that she was only going to have 1 child, but somewhat enjoyed paying the victim card in the whole situation. Once Robyn made her offer, I think Merri got scared to say how she really felt (that she didn't want to start all over again etc., didn't want to have another baby at this time etc.), because she didn't want to lose the sympathy from the rest of the family...and honestly, I think part of it was that it gave her a possible reason to insist on a house just as big as the others. I don't think she has seriously wanted to start over or have another baby for quite a while.

I do think that she's scared and worried about being an empty-nester etc., but that's very different than wanting another baby, to which I think she's known the answer for for a very long time.

 

[ilovemk76]

He's not my favorite person in the world, but I really give him a pass on the whole Merri/baby crap. Merri had been hemming and hawing, playing the victim etc. over this baby stuff for over a year. In my opinion, she had long ago accepted that she was only going to have 1 child, but somewhat enjoyed paying the victim card in the whole situation. Once Robyn made her offer, I think Merri got scared to say how she really felt (that she didn't want to start all over again etc., didn't want to have another baby at this time etc.), because she didn't want to lose the sympathy from the rest of the family...and honestly, I think part of it was that it gave her a possible reason to insist on a house just as big as the others. I don't think she has seriously wanted to start over or have another baby for quite a while.

I do think that she's scared and worried about being an empty-nester etc., but that's very different than wanting another baby, to which I think she's known the answer for for a very long time.

Not only that but she also said she would be fine with being an Empty Nester, if she was in a traditional marriage. I think her fear is that she will be alone 75% of the time. She is again showing why plural marriage does not work.

 

[Southernmiss]

Not only that but she also said she would be fine with being an Empty Nester, if she was in a traditional marriage. I think her fear is that she will be alone 75% of the time. She is again showing why plural marriage does not work.

I agree with this. I have been sympathetic to Meri because somehow I can picture her and Kody as a monogamous married couple. Maybe it's because they were the first marriage. I think if it were just her and Kody that when Mariah goes to college they could learn to do things like other empty nesters do. It will be tough with Kody going off to play house with three other women. Especially women who could have additional children.

Definitely not a lifestyle I could live.

 

[ariel71]

As for the baby I think he came off like a real ***. HE made the decision and never gave Merri much of a chance to answer in my opinion. And it wouldn't be so bad for her if she didn't know in her head that it was just a matter of time before another baby comes along with another wife. He can say NO to Merri but you know darn well that he will have more kids with one of them.

You're kidding, right? She had months, even years, to decide if she wanted another child. It was up to her all along. She obviously didn't feel all that strongly until Kody called her on it. I think what he said was actually a pretty thoughtful way to address it.

He's not my favorite person in the world, but I really give him a pass on the whole Merri/baby crap. Merri had been hemming and hawing, playing the victim etc. over this baby stuff for over a year. In my opinion, she had long ago accepted that she was only going to have 1 child, but somewhat enjoyed paying the victim card in the whole situation. Once Robyn made her offer, I think Merri got scared to say how she really felt (that she didn't want to start all over again etc., didn't want to have another baby at this time etc.), because she didn't want to lose the sympathy from the rest of the family...and honestly, I think part of it was that it gave her a possible reason to insist on a house just as big as the others. I don't think she has seriously wanted to start over or have another baby for quite a while.

I do think that she's scared and worried about being an empty-nester etc., but that's very different than wanting another baby, to which I think she's known the answer for for a very long time.

I agree with all of that. She already played the victim card to get a five-bedroom house with a stupid wet bar even though the family was so worried about having the money to buy them. Ridiculously selfish. The baby thing was obviously not about actually wanting another baby. Can't stand her.

Not only that but she also said she would be fine with being an Empty Nester, if she was in a traditional marriage. I think her fear is that she will be alone 75% of the time. She is again showing why plural marriage does not work.

Considering the divorce rate, I would hardly hold up monogamous marriage as being so superior. Other than Robyn, they've been together for something like 20 years. I believe Meri, Christine and Robyn were raised in polygamist families; they all know what they signed up for. It might not be perfect, but it seems no less successful than many other marriages.

 

[willowsnn3]

Any one catch the debut of "My Five Wives" last night?

 

[CdnCarrie]

Any one catch the debut of "My Five Wives" last night?

Yup I saw it. I thought it was sad when they said they didn't have many friends left since they left their church.

 

[jdb in AZ]

Yup I saw it. I thought it was sad when they said they didn't have many friends left since they left their church.

Suppose you were their closest neighbors and you were having an adult dinner party. Would you invite the husband and all five wives?

 

[CdnCarrie]

Suppose you were their closest neighbors and you were having an adult dinner party. Would you invite the husband and all five wives?

No probably the wife I was friends with and Brady.

They live on the AUB compound so I don't they neighbours are the issue. It's their split with the church.