Sister Wives, anyone???

[Claudia1]

Does anybody know why Janelle divorced Meri's brother? Just curious.

 

[happygirl]

Part of the reason I tune into this show is because this family seems to be a contradiction to the general view of polygomy. They are relatively normal. That surprised me and fueled my interest.

Today's episode distrubed me, though. Robyn and Christine just let their daughters move into Meri's house? They didn't even seem slightly upset about their kid wanting to live with another woman. Does anyone else find that strange? Christine even seemed happy to be getting rid of her problem kid. So odd. I can see if they were all still in the "Big House" and one wanted to move into Meri's wing of the house it might be a tiny bit different. Or even if the other mom lived down the street (that would still bug me, but at least they are within easy walking distance). But doesn't Meri live furthest from the other wives? Like a mile away? Would you be comfortable letting your 8 year old move into someone else's house a mile away from you? And they acted like it was no big deal, nothing strange about it. They just kissed them goodbye and left them there! I have a 9 year old and I'd never, ever do that. Even if I were divorced and he wanted to go live with his own father a mile away, I'd be devasated! I'd cry and miss him to death. I can't imagine my baby not living with me. Maybe I'm the weird one but that really, really bothered me.

I wouldn't let my child move away, I think it's easier for Christine and Robin to send there problems away then to deal with them. Then Meri talked to the kids and said can I have some backup here, and Christine was mad how Meri handled it she still let her move in.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

Obviously, this is a very different family than we are, or what we know. Although I can't imagine letting my child go live somewhere else, these children were raised to some extent by the other mothers anyway. Not Robyn's daughter, of course, but there's just a different mentality about what's a mother and a family. I got the impression tho that this wasn't a permanent move, and that the goal was to learn a little appreciation for their own biological mother.

As far as Kody not speaking up when Meri did when there was a problem...does everyone here speak up simultaneously with one's spouse when something arises? I also don't see a problem with the two sister wives disagreeing with the timing. They're different people, not robots. I'm extremely grateful to have a husband who's on the same wavelength MOST OF THE TIME regarding child rearing. Doesn't mean we always react the same to a situation.

Sometimes, reading this thread, I get the feeling that people are holding this family, esp the parents, to a higher standard. JMHO

 

[Family Fun Mom]

Obviously, this is a very different family than we are, or what we know. Although I can't imagine letting my child go live somewhere else, these children were raised to some extent by the other mothers anyway. Not Robyn's daughter, of course, but there's just a different mentality about what's a mother and a family. I got the impression tho that this wasn't a permanent move, and that the goal was to learn a little appreciation for their own biological mother.

As far as Kody not speaking up when Meri did when there was a problem...does everyone here speak up simultaneously with one's spouse when something arises? I also don't see a problem with the two sister wives disagreeing with the timing. They're different people, not robots. I'm extremely grateful to have a husband who's on the same wavelength MOST OF THE TIME regarding child rearing. Doesn't mean we always react the same to a situation.

Sometimes, reading this thread, I get the feeling that people are holding this family, esp the parents, to a higher standard. JMHO

I don't put my life and decisions on television for display. They do. So people will comment.

Any one else notice Janelle's kids seem the most angry? All except Robyn have teens, and they all seem to be dealing with the struggles that just about any teen would if they had to make a sudden move like that, but Janelle's kids seem to be having a much harder time with everything. I feel very bad for them.

 

[TxAnn]

Any one else notice Janelle's kids seem the most angry? All except Robyn have teens, and they all seem to be dealing with the struggles that just about any teen would if they had to make a sudden move like that, but Janelle's kids seem to be having a much harder time with everything. I feel very bad for them.

I've noticed that as well. I wonder if it's because Janelle is having such a hard time too. She has said before that she's a career driven women. Her kids might be picking up on her unhappiness.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

I don't put my life and decisions on television for display. They do. So people will comment.

Absolutely. Who said people shouldn't comment? Not me. I'm offering another view of the family/show. It's a discussion board. We're discussing.

 

[CdnCarrie]

Part of the reason I tune into this show is because this family seems to be a contradiction to the general view of polygomy. They are relatively normal. That surprised me and fueled my interest.

Today's episode distrubed me, though. Robyn and Christine just let their daughters move into Meri's house? They didn't even seem slightly upset about their kid wanting to live with another woman. Does anyone else find that strange? Christine even seemed happy to be getting rid of her problem kid. So odd. I can see if they were all still in the "Big House" and one wanted to move into Meri's wing of the house it might be a tiny bit different. Or even if the other mom lived down the street (that would still bug me, but at least they are within easy walking distance). But doesn't Meri live furthest from the other wives? Like a mile away? Would you be comfortable letting your 8 year old move into someone else's house a mile away from you? And they acted like it was no big deal, nothing strange about it. They just kissed them goodbye and left them there! I have a 9 year old and I'd never, ever do that. Even if I were divorced and he wanted to go live with his own father a mile away, I'd be devasated! I'd cry and miss him to death. I can't imagine my baby not living with me. Maybe I'm the weird one but that really, really bothered me.

Did you not hear Christine discuss how she as a child got along better with her "other mother"? And through that relationship it helped her respect her own mother better.

And it's not "someone else's house" to them. It's a close member of their family, not a stranger. Sure the girls think of it as a fun sleepover. And I'm sure they see their moms daily. I thought it was very sweet actually.

And for all we know it only lasted couple nights until the novelty wore off, the girls got homesick and went home again.

 

[ADisneyQueen]

i don't think they were really moving in for a long period of time. Breann and robyn both talked about how she would not stay at Meri's every night. When Christine said Ysabel was "moving in" with Meri she put her hands up to make quote signs which made me think it was just for a week or two like visiting a grandma or aunt.

I wouldn't let my kids even think they were moving in with someone else. But they are a different family.

 

[momrek06]

There is no way my kiddo(s) would be going to live with anyone else. Ever.

I have 3 sisters and 2 very very good close friends. We all had kiddos at the same time. Now none of them are married to my DH but we were as close as the Sister Wives if not closer. BUT there is no way I would say to my DS, pack up as your Auntie is going to have you move in with her for awhile because we don't see eye to eye.

You, as the parent figure how to make it work in your own home with your own children.

My youngest was our resident "house devil street angel" … and yet we talked and talked and talked it out all of the time. I mean from basically BIRTH my Michael was a HUGE pain in the butt. But as his Mom, I hung in there and I made our lives altogether in the house work. I mean from the time he spoke, if my other son, Chris called DH "dad", Mike had a FIT and insisted DH was ONLY his dad and Chris could NOT call DH dad …. ugh, trying to explain at 2yo that DH was both your dad and Chris' dad … I mean stuff like that.
My Mom was visiting from out of town and she suggested to him that he should put mittens on before he goes out in the cold and he up and KICKED her in the shin. WHO DOES THAT at 2.5yo. Man o man, I loved him like you cannot imagine but I had rules and we, DH & I through thick and thin made it all work!!!

What was crazy was once Mike walked out our door, he was the sweetest kiddo ever. He had ONE million friends and the parents would always say what a lovely boy, Mike is. I would laugh to myself knowing that he was indeed our "house devil street angel" … !!! Its an ole Irish saying and he is our Michael Patrick (I am Irish).

So Christine and Meri agreeing to this arrangement to me is just odd. Ysabel should stay home with her parents (Mom) and figure TOGETHER how they will make their lives work. Together.

 

[MichelleVW]

Finally watched the last episode and here's my thoughts.

I don't think the "moving in" was that much of a big deal. To me it just seemed like the girls were going on an extended sleepover. It would be like me sending my girls to stay with their Aunt for a few weeks...they loved it and so did my sister. Plus they are only a mile or so away...not very far.

I think Robyn sent her daughter to "live" with Meri so she might feel more like "family". She was blubbering at the end of the show about how her kids feel like outsiders and she was hoping they would fit in more by now. Uh hello lady, those kids are outsiders, the other kids have always been a family and your kids are the "steps". It takes awhile for families to figure out how to function in a step family position, not magically overnight because you have you kids call Kody "Daddy" and say "family" all the time. I have been married 7 years and at first my girls who were 12 and 14 were not crazy about their step dad. I know they weren't comfortable thinking about him as "family" for a few years. It took a while but finally 7 years later we are at a place where both girls think of John as family. We were nowhere near there in the first year.

I think Logan is a very mature and sensible boy. I loved when he told Hunter, "you ARE being disrespectful!!" I know Hunter is hurting, but it's time to stop acting like a big baby about it. Moving when you are a teenager sucks big time, my girls had to do it many times, My oldest went to 3 different high schools and her senior year wasn't the best because of it, but instead of being a mopey baby about it, she joined the theater group since she could no longer cheer and made the best of it.

oh..and no way would I have driven my car through that water to get to the camping spot!!

 

[HannaBelle]

[FONT=&quot]Hunter is being a brat, but I really feel for him. If they did not even go fishing until after 10, what is the point? It is a heck of a lot more fun to get out there 1st thing, enjoy the peace and the sunrise. Cody dropped the ball on getting some quality time with his older teens.[/FONT]
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[FONT=&quot]I can also see how it would be very easy to project a lot of his anger on to Robin and her kids since all of this change happened at the same time she joined the family. It is not her fault. Cody and wives made the choice to go public pre-Robin, but she would be an easy target for his angst. The majority of teenagers are not rational and cannot see past the end of their own noses.[/FONT]
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[FONT=&quot]These kids had three moms from birth. Cody married all of his wives before any of them had kids, so the addition of Robin and her kids is huge.[/FONT]

 

[MichelleVW]

[FONT=&quot]These kids had three moms from birth. Cody married all of his wives before any of them had kids, so the addition of Robin and her kids is huge.[/FONT]

It's totally huge....I don't know how they expected them to just "blend".

 

[happygirl]

I wonder if Robyn kids went back to her ex, I wonder if Robyn would leave Kody to be closer to her kids

 

[momrek06]

I don't think the "moving in" was that much of a big deal. To me it just seemed like the girls were going on an extended sleepover. It would be like me sending my girls to stay with their Aunt for a few weeks...they loved it and so did my sister.

BUT that is not it at all. It was not to be an extended girl's sleepover … Ysabel and Christine both discussed openly that they do not get along and that they BOTH agreed that it was better to move in with Meri for awhile.

This was not like a girl's fun sleepover … this was about a mother and an 8yo daughter not getting along that they need to separate …. Even Kody stated that Ysabel disrespects Christine.

Michelle, I don't think this is anything like going to an Aunt's house esp if your Sister felt the reason you were sending one of your girls to HER house for an extended stay was because she was disrespecting you.

 

[MichelleVW]

BUT that is not it at all. It was not to be an extended girl's sleepover … Ysabel and Christine both discussed openly that they do not get along and that they BOTH agreed that it was better to move in with Meri for awhile.

This was not like a girl's fun sleepover … this was about a mother and an 8yo daughter not getting along that they need to separate …. Even Kody stated that Ysabel disrespects Christine.

Michelle, I don't think this is anything like going to an Aunt's house esp if your Sister felt the reason you were sending one of your girls to HER house for an extended stay was because she was disrespecting you.

We're going to have to disagree because I just don't see it as that big of a deal. During my divorce the stress on my kids was unbelievable and they went to stay with my mom to get away from the drama for a few weeks, if their dad hadn't been such a big jerk (hence the drama) I would have sent them away for the entire summer to get away from the stress and have a happy summer. Yes...that situation a little bit different than the kid being a brat and disrespecting her mother, but maybe the stress of Robyn and the new baby is causing the kid to act out and they just need a break.

 

[CdnCarrie]

BUT that is not it at all. It was not to be an extended girl's sleepover … Ysabel and Christine both discussed openly that they do not get along and that they BOTH agreed that it was better to move in with Meri for awhile.

This was not like a girl's fun sleepover … this was about a mother and an 8yo daughter not getting along that they need to separate …. Even Kody stated that Ysabel disrespects Christine.

Michelle, I don't think this is anything like going to an Aunt's house esp if your Sister felt the reason you were sending one of your girls to HER house for an extended stay was because she was disrespecting you.

We can not assume we know all that is going on by a few minutes of edited tv. No one seemed upset by it so if they aren't why are we?

 

[momrek06]

We can not assume we know all that is going on by a few minutes of edited tv. No one seemed upset by it so if they aren't why are we?

Umm, well Christine seemed upset when all the Adults were sitting on the couch discussing it. Kody said something along the lines of …………..
"Christine gets disrespect from Ysabel, and it's the funniest thing ... " Christine immediately looked at him almost with anger and corrects him and says. "It is not the funniest thing."

 

[ADisneyQueen]

I just watched the newest episode where a couple from their church in Utah is visiting. It just sickened me that they( the couple) both thought they should find another wife for the family b/c it was the "truth" and the right thing to do. You could tell their hearts really weren't in it and even Christine said they weren't ready. It just seemed like they were raised in and belonged to this church, but they couldn't bring themselves to practice the beliefs. They were in their late 30s and had 6 kids, it seems late to be bringing in a sister wife for the first time. Can you imagine how the wife would feel? Even the husband said he felt strange thinking about courting another woman while married. That's because you're making the wrong decision and it isn't the right thing to do to your wife.

This episode just really bothered me.

 

[BriarfoxinWA]

I know I kept thinking that the other couple seemed so conflicted about bringing in another wife. I just felt like, deep down they knew it was not for them but the peer pressure was getting to them.

 

[averill94]

OT - what is with the "tank top over long sleeves" look?

Thought it was just Meri but Christine wears it too.