Singles Social Club: It's Always 5 o'clock here!

[DisneydaveCT]

so how is everyone's week so far? mine is getting crazy!!! 4 days left til I am a floridian

Here is an early welcome to Florida. Where in Florida will you be living beginning the end of this week?

 

[DCTooTall]

Hey guys, pretty new to the posting thing... this thread always seems to be the most lively... figured it would be a good place to start! I am so disappointed to read your post about facebook... I absolutely hate the timeline pages... they are awful!!!!! I don't think I will stick around on fb if they enforce this on everyone either.

to the group. We always love having new people join us! Pull up a chair, pour yourself a drink, and feel free to jump right in!

As other have said.... We don't bite.... unless asked.

Well then get outta the house and go have some fun!

Would love too. Unfortunately I have spent a lot of time On-Call over the past month over the weekends (my normal rotation... and then covering for a coworker so he could go to Disney).... and then $$$ also is a factor since I'm trying to pay off a couple things and then make a Disney road trip sometime in March. (which means I'd have to renew my AP's)

Mine's gone great so far! Today especially so. Got the computer problems fixed at work, found out my pay got approved so I am getting a pay check this week, I'm officially working swing shift starting Monday and we got approved for our house! Only bad thing is my fiance' and I decided to push the wedding back to next spring sometime(probably April).

congrats! looks like everything is starting to fall into place nicely. And a spring wedding would be nice. more time to save, and nice weather.

(Just don't do what my parents did and get married on April 1st. The constant "I was gonna say 'APRIL FOOLS!' at the altar!" jokes can get old after awhile. )

Welcome! Feel free to jump in whenever. We're a pretty random bunch and we don't bite..... Hard anyways

Speak for yourself. sometimes leaving marks can be fun.

 

[disneypryncess]

This is the greatest thread I have ever found on the DIS. I have no idea what's going on for the most part, but I'm picking my way through the pages and loving it lol

Welcome, neighbor!!

 

[ortholablady]

Hope I can vent here a little. The highlight of my week or low light really is DH just left after coming by to talk and I guess I really will be getting divorced. I guess I knew after 3 1/2 years we would but I kept hanging on to the hope that he would decide we should work it out. I knew it was coming but it still really hurts you know? He is a really good guy and has actually taken good care of me the last few years but unless he gets some counseling he will never be happy. He seems to blame all his unhappiness on me and I won't take all the blame. Ugh! I won't go on.....
On the bright side I am leaving early Sunday morning for WDW for 6 days. I am looking forward to it now more than ever.

 

[taramoz]

Hope I can vent here a little. The highlight of my week or low light really is DH just left after coming by to talk and I guess I really will be getting divorced. I guess I knew after 3 1/2 years we would but I kept hanging on to the hope that he would decide we should work it out. I knew it was coming but it still really hurts you know? He is a really good guy and has actually taken good care of me the last few years but unless he gets some counseling he will never be happy. He seems to blame all his unhappiness on me and I won't take all the blame. Ugh! I won't go on.....
On the bright side I am leaving early Sunday morning for WDW for 6 days. I am looking forward to it now more than ever.

Sorry about what you are going through, but Disney therapy is in rder, glad to hear you are getting some soon!

 

[disneypryncess]

Hope I can vent here a little. The highlight of my week or low light really is DH just left after coming by to talk and I guess I really will be getting divorced. I guess I knew after 3 1/2 years we would but I kept hanging on to the hope that he would decide we should work it out. I knew it was coming but it still really hurts you know? He is a really good guy and has actually taken good care of me the last few years but unless he gets some counseling he will never be happy. He seems to blame all his unhappiness on me and I won't take all the blame. Ugh! I won't go on.....
On the bright side I am leaving early Sunday morning for WDW for 6 days. I am looking forward to it now more than ever.

I'm so sorry....I can't imagine what you must be going through. I'm glad that you have a trip coming up to look forward to. I hope it gives you the break you must need!!

 

[ortholablady]

Thanks! Yeah 20 years together 18 married. It really sucks. But the trip will really help and I'm meeting up with my brother who is also going through a divorce. I wish I was able to be where he is with it. He's not officially divorced yet but over it and ready to move on. I can't seem to get there.

 

[ortholablady]

So when was that trip some of you around here are planning? I think I'm going to buy an AP on this trip.

 

[DCTooTall]

So when was that trip some of you around here are planning? I think I'm going to buy an AP on this trip.

Sorry to hear about all the crap, but think of the bright side.... You have all us wonderful Disney Peeps to keep you company.

....and you are now free to hit on some of the Prince's while down at the world.


The big Disney meet we are planning currently looks to be somewhere around Oct 13th. Exact details are still being worked out.

 

[ortholablady]

Sorry to hear about all the crap, but think of the bright side.... You have all us wonderful Disney Peeps to keep you company.

....and you are now free to hit on some of the Prince's while down at the world.


The big Disney meet we are planning currently looks to be somewhere around Oct 13th. Exact details are still being worked out.

Thanks I think some Disney Peeps are exactly what I need! Haha! Hitting on some Prince's may do me some good too.
And October 13th may work for me. I wanted to go to Food and Wine again this year.

 

[disneygrl03]

Hope I can vent here a little. The highlight of my week or low light really is DH just left after coming by to talk and I guess I really will be getting divorced. I guess I knew after 3 1/2 years we would but I kept hanging on to the hope that he would decide we should work it out. I knew it was coming but it still really hurts you know? He is a really good guy and has actually taken good care of me the last few years but unless he gets some counseling he will never be happy. He seems to blame all his unhappiness on me and I won't take all the blame. Ugh! I won't go on.....
On the bright side I am leaving early Sunday morning for WDW for 6 days. I am looking forward to it now more than ever.

I'm new to the group, but I am so sorry to hear that. I know how painful that can be I clearly don't know the situation... but good for you for not taking all the blame for his unhappiness... no one can do anything about someone who is unhappy until they realize that their unhappiness is coming from the fact they just aren't happy in life themselves... it's a lot easier to blame someone else for the fact that they are unhappy than actually realize it's self inflicted. I have dealt with this many times in past relationships, but have come to realize they were harboring deep hurts and wounds from past experiences that I could never heal and because of it they were just unhappy with every aspect of their lives... including relationships no matter how hard we tried to make it work. That's just my take on similar situations.

I know it's not easy and only time will heal all that.... WDW will definitely make it better, have a drink and enjoy yourself! I know as a woman how important it is to vent too lol so vent away!

 

[ortholablady]

I'm new to the group, but I am so sorry to hear that. I know how painful that can be I clearly don't know the situation... but good for you for not taking all the blame for his unhappiness... no one can do anything about someone who is unhappy until they realize that their unhappiness is coming from the fact they just aren't happy in life themselves... it's a lot easier to blame someone else for the fact that they are unhappy than actually realize it's self inflicted. I have dealt with this many times in past relationships, but have come to realize they were harboring deep hurts and wounds from past experiences that I could never heal and because of it they were just unhappy with every aspect of their lives... including relationships no matter how hard we tried to make it work. That's just my take on similar situations.

I know it's not easy and only time will heal all that.... WDW will definitely make it better, have a drink and enjoy yourself! I know as a woman how important it is to vent too lol so vent away!

Thanks so much! Everyone here has been really great tonight. And I think you got it just right. I think he does have deep hurts from the past that have nothing to do with me that contributed to this. I know we had some issues and I take responsibility for my contribution but they should not have caused the end. We had a good thing, it's so sad he's not willing to give it another try.

 

[taramoz]

Thanks! Yeah 20 years together 18 married. It really sucks. But the trip will really help and I'm meeting up with my brother who is also going through a divorce. I wish I was able to be where he is with it. He's not officially divorced yet but over it and ready to move on. I can't seem to get there.

The Disney trip will definitely help, and don't worry, you will eventually get to the place where you are ready to move on, don't try to rush it, it comes. I went to WDW about 1 month after my ordeal (divorce) was final with my DD, it was super healing for us both, and time is magic. I am now where your brother is, but it took time, and I am glad I took the time to find myself. Think of the positives about what is happening, it helps.

 

[TexasDisneyBelle]

Thanks so much! Everyone here has been really great tonight. And I think you got it just right. I think he does have deep hurts from the past that have nothing to do with me that contributed to this. I know we had some issues and I take responsibility for my contribution but they should not have caused the end. We had a good thing, it's so sad he's not willing to give it another try.

I'm sorry you're having such a tough time right now. A lot of us have been through divorce and it does get better. But it definitely takes time to heal and move on.

You should definitely try and come to the meet in October.

 

[ortholablady]

The Disney trip will definitely help, and don't worry, you will eventually get to the place where you are ready to move on, don't try to rush it, it comes. I went to WDW about 1 month after my ordeal (divorce) was final with my DD, it was super healing for us both, and time is magic. I am now where your brother is, but it took time, and I am glad I took the time to find myself. Think of the positives about what is happening, it helps.

I'm having a hard time finding anything positive about this. He really is a good guy and treated me well. We really got along well and didn't fight. It all has to do with me not getting along great with his son and yet my stepson (now 29) and I seem to have pretty much made amends. Even got a Happy Mother's Day text from him. Doesn't sound like much but it meant alot. But there is just no talking to DH his mind is made up. And it's not like there is someone else. He wants to be alone! I know I don't have much choice but to accept it. What's meant to be will be I guess.
Thanks for listening!

 

[ortholablady]

I'm sorry you're having such a tough time right now. A lot of us have been through divorce and it does get better. But it definitely takes time to heal and move on.

You should definitely try and come to the meet in October.

Thanks! I think I am going to try to make the meet in Oct. I'll have a few days vacation and was planning on trying to do Food and Wine anyway.

 

[DCTooTall]

I'm having a hard time finding anything positive about this. He really is a good guy and treated me well. We really got along well and didn't fight. It all has to do with me not getting along great with his son and yet my stepson (now 29) and I seem to have pretty much made amends. Even got a Happy Mother's Day text from him. Doesn't sound like much but it meant alot. But there is just no talking to DH his mind is made up. And it's not like there is someone else. He wants to be alone! I know I don't have much choice but to accept it. What's meant to be will be I guess.
Thanks for listening!

Bright side? Those are my Specialty!

Let's see....

You are now free to play the field and have some fun?

You guys are now free to just be great friends without the marriage issues getting in the way.

You no longer have to deal with guy bathroom smells on a regular basis.

You don't need to feel bad about having a girls night.

You are free to drool over the hot guy down the street without feeling bad.

You can take full advantage of single rider lines at Disney

You can skip ahead of most of the switchbacks when they start looking for that 1 or 2 people to fill out a row at the parks.

You don't need to worry about being dragged to guy movies if you don't want to.

If there is a mess that you need to cleaned up, you are the one who made it.

No more faked headaches.

You get full control over the TV Remote




hmmm... want some more?

Thanks! I think I am going to try to make the meet in Oct. I'll have a few days vacation and was planning on trying to do Food and Wine anyway.

That's one of the reasons for the timing. THAT, and MNSSHP and hopefully I can get some people to join me at Halloween Horror Nights as well.

 

[ctnurse]

Hope I can vent here a little. The highlight of my week or low light really is DH just left after coming by to talk and I guess I really will be getting divorced. I guess I knew after 3 1/2 years we would but I kept hanging on to the hope that he would decide we should work it out. I knew it was coming but it still really hurts you know? He is a really good guy and has actually taken good care of me the last few years but unless he gets some counseling he will never be happy. He seems to blame all his unhappiness on me and I won't take all the blame. Ugh! I won't go on.....
On the bright side I am leaving early Sunday morning for WDW for 6 days. I am looking forward to it now more than ever.

I'm sorry, that you are going through this. Feel free to vent, as many of us have been through divorce. Enjoy your trip to Disney, take the time to think and do whatever you want, it maybe exactly what you need to start building your new life.

I know that you don't think this now, but once you are done with this part of your life, you might find someone else that you want to have a relationship with. I am a big believer that everything happens for a reason. Your soulmate might be waiting for you, when you find someone that makes you so happy, and wants to be with for you, it is the best feeling in the world.

It would be great if you could make the Oct. meet. It is marked on my calendar, and I know that there are several of us planning on it.

Good luck and .

Bright side? Those are my Specialty!

Let's see....

You are now free to play the field and have some fun?

You guys are now free to just be great friends without the marriage issues getting in the way.

You no longer have to deal with guy bathroom smells on a regular basis.

You don't need to feel bad about having a girls night.

You are free to drool over the hot guy down the street without feeling bad.

You can take full advantage of single rider lines at Disney

You can skip ahead of most of the switchbacks when they start looking for that 1 or 2 people to fill out a row at the parks.

You don't need to worry about being dragged to guy movies if you don't want to.

If there is a mess that you need to cleaned up, you are the one who made it.

No more faked headaches.

You get full control over the TV Remote




hmmm... want some more?



That's one of the reasons for the timing. THAT, and MNSSHP and hopefully I can get some people to join me at Halloween Horror Nights as well.

Love the list DC, I hope all is well

 

[DisneydaveCT]

I would only add one more to DC's list. She is now free to find her Disney Prince and have a magical life.

CTNurse is correct that when you have gotten past the divorce you'll be able to find that Prince. And when you are ready to begin that search you will have your friends on this thread. In addition, there is a Disney loving singles group over on Facebook that would welcome you to their group as well.

 

[ortholablady]

I'm sorry, that you are going through this. Feel free to vent, as many of us have been through divorce. Enjoy your trip to Disney, take the time to think and do whatever you want, it maybe exactly what you need to start building your new life.

I know that you don't think this now, but once you are done with this part of your life, you might find someone else that you want to have a relationship with. I am a big believer that everything happens for a reason. Your soulmate might be waiting for you, when you find someone that makes you so happy, and wants to be with for you, it is the best feeling in the world.

It would be great if you could make the Oct. meet. It is marked on my calendar, and I know that there are several of us planning on it.

Good luck and .


Thanks! I really thought he was my soulmate. This was my second marriage. I foolishly got married the first time very young, I was 19. OMG what was I thinking?! He cheated on me more than once and that ended after 8 years. Then I met my husband and always kind of felt like God looked down and said these 2 belong together. But I know after 3 1/2 years I have to move on. My heart is having a hard time with that.
I really am grateful for everyone's responses. It has definitely made me feel better. I would love to meet everyone in October. I marked it on my calendar too.