WARNING DIATRIBE!! or something like it.
Ok, I need to vent for a minute. XH is driving me crazy. We are selling our house as part of the divorce decree and having a hard time agreeing about anything (house price, how long to keep it at the price before lowering it, etc.) So we've been trading emails back and forth about it all morning. What irritates me is that he just expects me to agree to everything he wants. He thinks he should be able to order me to do things without getting my input or opinion. FYI, this is how he was in our marriage, too, treating me like some kind of fembot automaton who should only be allowed to say "yes master." in other words, super controlling. And while I did my best during the marriage, I can't just agree to everything now. I have to think about what's best for DS and me.
Thanks for listening. I actually feel a little better.
Sorry your going thru such a hard time, putting things to an end.
My ex and I stuck it out as long as we could and agreed it just wasn't going to work.
What was most important was that the kids were taken care of and that it was as invisible to them as possible. All my daughter needed to know is that I didn't live there any more but I would be there any time she needed and that her mother and I were eye to eye about everything. We get along great now, she is remarried again, and it doesn't bother me because everything I do is for my daughter. Mama got the house, the boat and the child support and I got the easiest life for me and my daughter considering the situation.
Enough about my situation, what I am saying is you both agree that it isn't going to work for you and it is over so now you need to agree its not about you two anymore.
You both need to make it as seemless for DS as possible. Its his life too and he should not have a bad thought or feeling to take away from this.
His dad(assumption?) needs to put him high on the priority list and show up for school functions and support an activites he is involved in and not balk at anything you might request of him for his son.
Sorry if this sounds a little bossy and demanding but parenting between broken homes is so horrible in america. I can't stand it when fathers are dead beats and you have to get the attorney general to get a dime out of them. I also don't like it when mom plays hard ball about visitation times and every last dime they can squeeze out of dad. (Not implying anything here, merely just venting about the most common scenario)
I can honestly say my ex and I have no court orderd papers about the house or child support. I know my responsibilites and so should everyone else.
I wish you the best of luck with putting this behind you and getting on with your life and your DS's life.
I too, am here if you need to talk. I know I am realtively new, but the rest is good history.