Single, but will not make solo trips

[Keneke]

I find it very hard to do many group-oriented things in my single, somewhat hermit-ish life. I haven't seen a romantic movie in a theater in awhile, and I don't sit down at restaurants alone. It's not that my life is lonewly by any means, it's just that people want to steer me in other directions. Disneyworld? Fuggedaboutit! I can't really take my friends or family (they're not into it) and it feels like my singleness will stretch onward. Does anyone here long to go to a Disney park, but hold back because you don't want to go alone?

Oh, and I think I may have a hard time going to a single's meet at WDW. It just would seem weird to me.

 

[ugadog99]

I'm not very social, but I would definitely do Disney by myself. I would enjoy watching others around me and would like to just do "my thing" for a change. As for meets, though, I can't do those. I'm just way too shy to do that.

 

[Poohsmommi]

I find it very hard to do many group-oriented things in my single, somewhat hermit-ish life. I haven't seen a romantic movie in a theater in awhile, and I don't sit down at restaurants alone. It's not that my life is lonewly by any means, it's just that people want to steer me in other directions. Disneyworld? Fuggedaboutit! I can't really take my friends or family (they're not into it) and it feels like my singleness will stretch onward. Does anyone here long to go to a Disney park, but hold back because you don't want to go alone?

Oh, and I think I may have a hard time going to a single's meet at WDW. It just would seem weird to me.

I don't know that I would go by myself either. Well, I would go for a day ... but to take a trip by myself, I just don't think I would do it. I am single, but I have a daughter, so I have an "excuse" to go to Disney I do know what you mean, though, about feeling weird. I try to meet up with folks on this board, but it just never seems to happen for one reason or another. We also take frequent cruises, and I do sign up for the meet and mingles on the cruise ships, but inevitably, most people are coupled up and prefer to socialize with other couples.

 

[rebecca06261]

All of my family lives in Huntsville, and will be up there this coming weekend so I have a new plan for you! You + Me = New Disney BFF
That way you never have to do a solo-trip or go with people who don't love disney as much as you

 

[suzycute]

Hi! I longed to go to a Disney park on my own but hated the thought of eating by myself or meeting up with other people on their own. The whole reason I chose WDW for a solo trip is I wanted to go away on my own but didn't want to talk to others. I really didn't want to meet other singles. Going to WDW means you can be with people but not with them, if you see what I mean - in that way, it's perfect.

You don't have to sit and eat alone is a restaurant (although I did on a few occasions - took a good book and my trip diary to complete and it was fine) - you can eat counter service. Loads of people ride as singles on rides for various reasons and I never felt out of place.

I'd say "go for it" - at worst it would be a learning experience that you could just chalk up - but at best, you could have a great vacation and wonder why you hadn't been before. I went solo from the UK which meant flight, time change, arriving at strange hotel and negotiating my way round the transport system on my own. But I loved it - and can't wait to do it again (only downside is that my family have hijacked the dream and so won't be going solo again till 2010)!!

 

[chyam]

Do you realize how much of life you are missing out on??? I too am single, and alot of times I enjoy being alone, but I will not let life pass me by because I can't do something on my own! No one knows what tomorrow will bring! Disney is probably one of the easiest and safest places to go solo, and if you just sat back and looked you would see many others solo there, it's just that when we are with family and friends there we don't notice many of the others also in the parks. When it comes right down to it, you need to be comfortable with yourself to be truely happy. I have no problem talking to anyone and have made more friends by myself than if I were with a group, being open to new and different things is part life, I will not put myself in danger but I will not also shelter myself from life and the things that I enjoy.

 

[Keneke]

All of my family lives in Huntsville, and will be up there this coming weekend so I have a new plan for you! You + Me = New Disney BFF
That way you never have to do a solo-trip or go with people who don't love disney as much as you

Oh no! The one weekend I am uber busy (volunteering for charity, singing at a wedding, etc) is the one weekend you are visiting! How often do you visit you family, eh?

 

[magik]

I've been to Disney by myself once (I was in Orlando for a work conference and took some extra days for vacation afterward), and it was actually kind of nice compared to the times I've been with my family or friends. Definitely a different experience. I felt I was more leisurely by myself. I ate where I wanted to eat without having to negotiate with others. I rode the rides I wanted to ride and saw the things I wanted to see without feeling like 'oh, I guess I'll skip that because no one else in the group wants to ride/see that.'

That being said, I like going with other people too. I think if you really, really do not want to go alone, maybe you can find a friend who would go with you, even if it's not their first choice. Or make new friends who are into Disney and would be willing to go with you (I know, easier said than done).

 

[Keneke]

I think what the issue with me is is that any sort of splurge on myself isn't warranted unless I can share it with others. I often end up giving my close friends lots of free meals because I don't want to eat at a nice restaurant alone.

Am I co-dependent on people, maybe? I'd like to think I'm not - I do fine by myself at home, but when it comes to spending money, I can't seem to do that for myself all the time. A Disney trip has always been my ultimate experience and #1 vacation destination, so it sometimes feels like I would be cheapening it by not waiting for someone to come along and share it with.

 

[jordancej]

You should go for it!! I just got back from a 7 day trip to WDW solo, and even celebrating my 40th b-day!! It was so cool, i was able to talk to lots of people from all over the world!! I never felt alone....

 

[rebecca06261]

Oh no! The one weekend I am uber busy (volunteering for charity, singing at a wedding, etc) is the one weekend you are visiting! How often do you visit you family, eh?

I usually make it up there once a month for a three day weekend! Grandparents live in Jones Valley (or on the mtn. but on jones valley dr.) and mom lives down S. Pkwy not far from lowes! See- now you don't have any excuses!

 

[rebecca06261]

I think what the issue with me is is that any sort of splurge on myself isn't warranted unless I can share it with others. I often end up giving my close friends lots of free meals because I don't want to eat at a nice restaurant alone.

Am I co-dependent on people, maybe? I'd like to think I'm not - I do fine by myself at home, but when it comes to spending money, I can't seem to do that for myself all the time. A Disney trip has always been my ultimate experience and #1 vacation destination, so it sometimes feels like I would be cheapening it by not waiting for someone to come along and share it with.

I understand this. I don't know that it is necessarily co-dependence, rather than "I don't like going to decent restaurants alone" syndrome. Frankly, I'm very independant, I love solo-trips, but I HATE going to decent restaurants alone. I always feel like people are looking at me and not in a good way. My point is, if I had my rathers, I'd go to Disney with someone who loved it too, but would hate to go with someone I had to drag there. However, since there are times when this just won't happen, then I would go all by myself, knowing that the experience will be different. Not worse, just different. If you have any doubts, don't do it. You'll dwell on the fact that your alone and it'll just make matters worse. Me? I'd dwell on the fact that I was alone and run around naked in my hotel room (j/k)

 

[jamstew]

I find it very hard to do many group-oriented things in my single, somewhat hermit-ish life. I haven't seen a romantic movie in a theater in awhile, and I don't sit down at restaurants alone. It's not that my life is lonewly by any means, it's just that people want to steer me in other directions. Disneyworld? Fuggedaboutit! I can't really take my friends or family (they're not into it) and it feels like my singleness will stretch onward. Does anyone here long to go to a Disney park, but hold back because you don't want to go alone?

Nope -- I got back from my second solo trip last week and will be taking another one in September. I'm totally comfortable eating at TS restaurants alone, but I've been doing it for a long time. At Disney restaurants especially, I've found the waitstaff to be extremely friendly and helpful. I met and dined with other Dis-sers from all over the place, of all ages, and not all singles. It was a wonderful experience.

 

[jamstew]

You should go for it!! I just got back from a 7 day trip to WDW solo, and even celebrating my 40th b-day!! It was so cool, i was able to talk to lots of people from all over the world!! I never felt alone....

Sorry to have missed you! There were about 10 of us who met one night (May 6 I think) at Epcot just to see hi. We ended up hanging out for a couple of hours and watched IlumiNations. There were folks from Maine, California, New York, Pennsylvania and Texas (me)

 

[Sha]

I just spent a weekend with friends at WDW and do not feel it was a true solo trip. I have done a couple day trips and one true weekend solo... and it was fine. I do like to share what I am seeing with others, but to be able to do whatever floated my boat at the time was nice. And that happened this weekend too. I was able to change my mind in regards to doing planned group activities. I loved to be able to meet new people and see friends I have made from past trips. And then start planning another trip... or 3 with them already

 

[Stacy's a freak]

Do you realize how much of life you are missing out on??? I too am single, and alot of times I enjoy being alone, but I will not let life pass me by because I can't do something on my own! No one knows what tomorrow will bring! Disney is probably one of the easiest and safest places to go solo, and if you just sat back and looked you would see many others solo there, it's just that when we are with family and friends there we don't notice many of the others also in the parks. When it comes right down to it, you need to be comfortable with yourself to be truely happy. I have no problem talking to anyone and have made more friends by myself than if I were with a group, being open to new and different things is part life, I will not put myself in danger but I will not also shelter myself from life and the things that I enjoy.

Amen Sista! Or Brotha? Anyway, I couldn't agree more! If I had waited for a spouse or boyfriend to do things, I would still be waiting! I was was married for 7 years! So don't be afraid - WDW is actually the perfect place to be a solo. It's clean, safe, and populated so even though you might be a solo, you are never truly alone ... unless you're in your room

 

[Keneke]

Me? I'd dwell on the fact that I was alone and run around naked in my hotel room

That sounds like an excellent idea next time I am at WDW, and have some privacy!

 

[Sha]

Me? I'd dwell on the fact that I was alone and run around naked in my hotel room (j/k)

That sounds like an excellent idea next time I am at WDW, and have some privacy!

LMAO... I was letting that slide when I saw it earlier... but now just to remind others to close the curtains or at least the sheers/blinds

 

[sunnyday123]

Do you realize how much of life you are missing out on??? I too am single, and alot of times I enjoy being alone, but I will not let life pass me by because I can't do something on my own! No one knows what tomorrow will bring! Disney is probably one of the easiest and safest places to go solo, and if you just sat back and looked you would see many others solo there, it's just that when we are with family and friends there we don't notice many of the others also in the parks. When it comes right down to it, you need to be comfortable with yourself to be truely happy. I have no problem talking to anyone and have made more friends by myself than if I were with a group, being open to new and different things is part life, I will not put myself in danger but I will not also shelter myself from life and the things that I enjoy.

I so totally agree with you!! My family is all European-and until a few years after I divorced they just felt you HAD to have a man. I went out of my way to prove them wrong, did all kinds of stuff by myself. Now my Mom and Aunts wish they were me!!! Don't get me wrong, being in a relationship that is good is great, but don't ever think you can't do something because you are single. Alot of times when I meet friends out, I go a little earlier just to "mingle". You really do meet way more people that way. Just take baby steps at first. You can do it!!!

 

[marypoppinswannabe]

I find it very hard to do many group-oriented things in my single, somewhat hermit-ish life. I haven't seen a romantic movie in a theater in awhile, and I don't sit down at restaurants alone. It's not that my life is lonewly by any means, it's just that people want to steer me in other directions. Disneyworld? Fuggedaboutit! I can't really take my friends or family (they're not into it) and it feels like my singleness will stretch onward. Does anyone here long to go to a Disney park, but hold back because you don't want to go alone?

Oh, and I think I may have a hard time going to a single's meet at WDW. It just would seem weird to me.

You know, I feel this way as well. But just about Disney. I have traveled all over the US alone and had a party all by myself. But, something about going to Disney by myself seems depressing.