Sibling's relationships

[zalansky]

Ahhhhh, young love! Most people grow out of this phase of their lives, and realize how foolish they were when they were that young. Sounds like she "needs" a guy in her life to make herself feel whole. Again, hoping she will grow out of that phase. I know I sure did. Please, pass this on to her, someone very wise gave this to me when I was abot your sisters age and dating a major loser that I felt I simply could not live without:

~ Comes the Dawn ~
After a while you learn the subtle difference
between holding a hand and chaining a soul....
And you learn that kisses aren't contracts
and presents aren't promises....
And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning
and company doesn't mean security....
And you begin to accept your defeats
with your head up and your eyes open
with the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child....
And you learn to build all of your roads on today,
because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans....
After a while, you learn
that even sunshine burns if you get too much,
so plant your own garden and decorate your own soul,
instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers....
And you learn that you really can endure,
that you really are strong
and you really do have worth!

 

[BeckWhy]

I agree with MM..she knows of what she speaks. Be there for your sister when she needs you, but try to avoid being wrapped up in her drama. Only she can change things in her life.

(btw, I am a mom of a 19yo DD, 16yo DS and 12yo DD...usually the drama is a maturity thing and hopefully your sister will out grown it...and she probably will out grown him too)


Good luck with it!

I hope she grows out of it... because she's a cute kid.. she may not be the brightest light bulb, but she's good looking... I think she can do way better.

 

[BeckWhy]

Ahhhhh, young love! Most people grow out of this phase of their lives, and realize how foolish they were when they were that young. Sounds like she "needs" a guy in her life to make herself feel whole. Again, hoping she will grow out of that phase. I know I sure did. Please, pass this on to her, someone very wise gave this to me when I was abot your sisters age and dating a major loser that I felt I simply could not live without:

~ Comes the Dawn ~
After a while you learn the subtle difference
between holding a hand and chaining a soul....
And you learn that kisses aren't contracts
and presents aren't promises....
And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning
and company doesn't mean security....
And you begin to accept your defeats
with your head up and your eyes open
with the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child....
And you learn to build all of your roads on today,
because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans....
After a while, you learn
that even sunshine burns if you get too much,
so plant your own garden and decorate your own soul,
instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers....
And you learn that you really can endure,
that you really are strong
and you really do have worth!

I like that. In high school I could never understand why girls would subject themselves to "bad" relationships. I was in one myself my freshman year of college. It really wasn't much of a relationship, I was in WNY and he was in Jersey... But he would be like supper sweet to me in person.. but all his friends (who I guess also wanted me?) would tell me all the stuff that would happen when I was not around. That didn't last long. I'll tell you what though, that did have an effect on my thought process. When I first started dating my current boyfriend, I had trust problems. We fought a lot broke up a few times and got back together... then somewhere along the line that thought process passed me and I'm still with him and we are happy and going to Disney World in Sept together for our first vacation and anniversery trip!

Anyways.. I appreciate everyones support. I posted on here because I knew there are so many people that someone out there would have the knowledge and help me get through this. Perhaps, I knew what I should do all along, I don't know. But sometimes it takes a complete stranger who knows nothing to open your eyes. Thank you.


Edit: Oops! I didn't really mean for me to start rambling which is what I alwasy do.. but I am going to print that out when I get on my desktop. I haven't figure out how to network the laptop so I can print off it.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

You don't have to be mean to your sister or Jake. Just be polite and emotionally take yourself out of her drama.
If they want to play "Jerry Springer" there is nothing you can do.