Shower Gift Question

[MAKmom]

My Cousin is registered at Bed Bath & Beyond. I ordered her one of her place settings & had it shipped to her. It was a choice at check-out.

My mother is horrified I am showing up to the shower with out a gift in my hand. It is at a country club & figured she would be happy not to haul it up 1 flight to her condo.

It has shipped & the shower is this Sat. Was I wrong to do this? My cousin is 36.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

Sounds fine to me. Maybe give her a card at the shower with a note that the gift has been shipped to her.

 

[Michelle67]

I think it is fine too. I agree with you that it is nice that she won't have to haul it home, plus she is getting something that she specifically wanted. I think that is much better than showing up with whatever random gift in hand (not that there's anything wrong with that either...) A card with a note inside would be good, just so that she knows it is coming (if it hasn't already arrived by then) in case it gets lost in shipping.

 

[Angelhalo]

Sounds fine to me. Maybe give her a card at the shower with a note that the gift has been shipped to her.

Thats exactly what I was going to say

 

[MAKmom]

Thanks my Mother had me so upset.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

Thanks my Mother had me so upset.

Mothers can do that. (My mother. Not me, of course.

)

 

[MAKmom]

Mothers can do that. (My mother. Not me, of course.

)

I should not have listened to her she got her gift from QVC not the ones on the list

She said everyone loves watching the gifts opened....not me I hate it.

 

[juligrl]

A card and a note are good. Don't listen to your mother this time.

 

[SDFgirl]

At my showers, I had several people give me either gift cards or notes that an item was being shipped. I never thought a thing about it and was appreciative of anything being given.

Besides, there's only so much you can "oooh" and "ahhh" over a toilet seat cover.

 

[terri01p]

My dd received plenty of cards that the gift had been shipped, we both were thrilled not to have to carry the item out to the car..

 

[Bella the Ball 360]

Sounds fine to me. Maybe give her a card at the shower with a note that the gift has been shipped to her.

That is exaclty what I was going to say. When you walk in with a card no one knows what is in it so your mom can rest easy. Others will think you are giving her a gift of money.

 

[Stacerita]

I have done this in the past and just brought a card with me to the shower with a picture of what I had shipped. It makes it easier to not have to haul it all over the place. Don't listen to your mama.

 

[LisaZee]

I worked as a bridal consultant for Carsons for 2 years, and it was pretty standard to have china/crystal/flatware shipped from our warehouse. Most of the time, the customer/guest didn't have a choice. I have to say, lot of them - many old school - were MAD that they had to have the gift shipped, either to themselves or to the bride depending on time constraints. I always tried telling them: 1. the bride knew lots of her place settings would be shipped when she register, 2. she'll be happy to not have to haul them home, 3. the less hands that the gifts pass through, the less opportunities for something to break/be dropped, etc. Didn't matter, some of them were PO'd. The brides loved it, though. We gave out gift cards filled out with the guest's name and gift, they had the option of having that wrapped.

Long story short - your mom is not alone. But *I* think you did good!

 

[disneydave2003]

Is the shower a surprise? if it is a surprise is there a chance that the gift will get there before the shower? other than that i don't see a problem.

 

[CJMZ]

I received cards with notes and pictures in them and didn't think anything of it - sometimes when parents/in-laws purchase furniture or high ticket priced items, they pass the pictures around.

I don't like watching for hours as they open gifts, but was recently invited to a shower where it was requested we "go green" and not wrap the gifts.

She just opened the cards attached and it went quick - quick as it can be with 120 women. Loved it.

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

Well, Miss Manners (my hero) tells us in her Guide To Excrutiatingly Correct Behavior, that it is more correct to send the gift ahead.

Tell Mom that, eh? LOL!

Enjoy the get together!

 

[MAKmom]

Is the shower a surprise? if it is a surprise is there a chance that the gift will get there before the shower? other than that i don't see a problem.

It is & that is what my Mom said but she knows there will be a shower at some point before the wedding. I did this online where she can see what has been purchased everyday.

Well, Miss Manners (my hero) tells us in her Guide To Excrutiatingly Correct Behavior, that it is more correct to send the gift ahead.

Tell Mom that, eh? LOL!

Enjoy the get together!

I love it. My mother bought my children Tiffany's " Tiffany's Manners for Teenagers"