Should I quit my gym??

[Agri]

Well, since she is going to preschool in the fall I would continue with the gym NOW so she can get used to being away from you. Starting out at 20-30 minutes at a time will be a lot easier than jumping in with 1/2 a day.

ETA: Do you always give in to her because her tantrums are "fierce and you can't handle them"? If so you need to stop that now. It will only get worse.

This. So much this.

Unless your daughter has special needs that would make being separated from you an undue hardship, she needs more experience being away from you. I'd stick with the gym just for that reason alone. If its that severe now, she's going to have a hard time starting preschool.

 

[mefordis]

I know that is the right thing to do - my mind knows. But like anyone else I am adverse to stress and pain and find myself taking the "easy" way out to avoid pain. Her screams literally hurt my ears.

She isn't special needs but she has me by the cajones (if I had any) and she knows it. I tend to not give her everything she wants, no way, but knowing that NOT going to the gym and waiting to work out at night will avoid the stress of her crying at the gym, them paging me, cutting my workout short and feeling resentful for that ... I just avoid all of that to avoid the anxiety and stress.

Does this make sense?

This. So much this.

Unless your daughter has special needs that would make being separated from you an undue hardship, she needs more experience being away from you. I'd stick with the gym just for that reason alone. If its that severe now, she's going to have a hard time starting preschool.

 

[Agri]

I know that is the right thing to do - my mind knows. But like anyone else I am adverse to stress and pain and find myself taking the "easy" way out to avoid pain. Her screams literally hurt my ears.

She isn't special needs but she has me by the cajones (if I had any) and she knows it. I tend to not give her everything she wants, no way, but knowing that NOT going to the gym and waiting to work out at night will avoid the stress of her crying at the gym, them paging me, cutting my workout short and feeling resentful for that ... I just avoid all of that to avoid the anxiety and stress.

Does this make sense?

So keep going to the gym.

You're allowing her to continue to scream to get her way. Annoying now, but imagine that when she's older. No offense, but you're her mom. Parenting is stressful. It's going to be more stressful when she's older and still screaming because that is the way she's learned to get her way in life.

If you don't keep taking her to the gym, then put her in a room where she can't hurt herself and let her cry it out. Put on headphones do drown out the sound. The longer you keep giving into her behavior, the longer its going to be an issue.

 

[JuanLagarto]

If you go to gym to have a better body then don't pay for it cause it is a wate of time and money. If you go to gym because you want to be healthy and do some exercise then you can go out for a walk, run or play any sport. anyway save your money and have fun with sport

 

[sparklynails23]

She's little, and she wants to be with you. If she's starting school in the Fall, why rush her? Let her make the adjustment when school starts. They have more experience with miserable kids and won't be paging you to come get her. Maybe she just doesn't like the childcare area or childcare providers at the gym.