Should I Plan or Not

[LWatson]

We will be just over 8yrs and no its not a 2nd wedding...I am renewing those vows that I gave to my husband on the day of our wedding. I am not asking family to pay out thousands of dollars to satisfy my whim...the thought of doing this came out after we had already asked his family to join us on my husbands R&R so that we could have a big family vacation (we asked as soon as we realized we wanted to go) and they had already agreed to go, and after we had found out that it wasnt that expensive to add to OUR stuff (we are not asking for money from anyone). We had wanted to do a VOW RENEWAL at 1yr & 5yr to have the wedding I WANTED not the wedding MY MOM wanted (I didnt choose the date, the dress, the colors, the flowers, the place, the cake, the veil, the shoes, the food...etc...I HAD ZERO INPUT) but my husband (being military) couldnt do it those years because of work. My mother in law is thrilled, DH's family who couldnt make it to the first wedding because it was so short notice are thrilled, and the only naysayers are MY FAMILY....and you.

Can I ask...how long have you been married?

Not meaning to come across as, well, mean, but I can see it for 20 or more years, but your kids are pretty young, so I don't think it's anywhere near that. And to try to get a big family cruise together for you to have a second wedding (you may only call it a "vow renewal" but it IS a second wedding) seems a bit odd.

Over the years, many many brides, me included, start to feel we would have done some things differently, but you're asking family members to pay out thousands of dollars for you to satisfy your whim

You can do what you want, but you may need to see more of their side

 

[tinkerbell 766]

You go girl!!! Have what you want and don't worry about other people (even if they are your parents!!!) or negative people (even on this board!!!!). It is about you and DH, and the people who care enough about you to know how important it is to you, will support you.

 

[Princesspunkin]

We will be just over 8yrs and no its not a 2nd wedding...I am renewing those vows that I gave to my husband on the day of our wedding. I am not asking family to pay out thousands of dollars to satisfy my whim...the thought of doing this came out after we had already asked his family to join us on my husbands R&R so that we could have a big family vacation (we asked as soon as we realized we wanted to go) and they had already agreed to go, and after we had found out that it wasnt that expensive to add to OUR stuff (we are not asking for money from anyone). We had wanted to do a VOW RENEWAL at 1yr & 5yr to have the wedding I WANTED not the wedding MY MOM wanted (I didnt choose the date, the dress, the colors, the flowers, the place, the cake, the veil, the shoes, the food...etc...I HAD ZERO INPUT) but my husband (being military) couldnt do it those years because of work. My mother in law is thrilled, DH's family who couldnt make it to the first wedding because it was so short notice are thrilled, and the only naysayers are MY FAMILY....and you.

I agree with you. Wev are having a vow renewal after three years of marriage because we had to cancel our first Disney wedding because my husband had cancer. Now that he is better, he really want us to have our dream wedding. it should not matter when you have your vow renewal or second wedding, as long as you are marrying the person that you love. We are not asking people for money or even gifts, we would just like them to share the day with us.
I do not think nothing is wrong with that.

LWatson, I hope your dream wedding is everything you dream it to be.

Dawn

 

[Chilly]

I hope you have a wonderful VR