Guilt....
Guilt....
Guilt....
If it works out for the older sibling, fine. I never said to specifically exclude an older sibling.
In fact, I have posted that we would def. consider, fully paid, bringing my grown DS and his SO on trips, one day in the near future!!!
Again, what I have posted is: "I see no absolute mandate to include a 21 year old adult".
Apparently, at the very beginning of the tread, the OP had mentioned that vacations for grown adults had not been in her expectations.
And, while I don't agree with this for younger young-adults. (18-19-20) Like others have said... Different ways for different families. (that road goes BOTH ways, people)
This is the other siblings senior trip. Not 'The Family Christmas'.
Hey, I am okay either way!
Maybe they can work things out and everyone can go..
But, heck would freeze over before I would tell the younger sibling that they weren't getting their Sr. Trip with their friend to accommodate a 21 year old adult.
That is the one option that would not be on my list, at all, ever.
That would not be okay with me, personally.
Another thing that is not okay with me, personally, is judging and 'guilting' other women/parents who do not do exactly as I would.
OP... I hope in the coming months you all can work out what is best for you!