My personal opinion, for what it's worth...............
I think changing schools would make your DD become resentful. I think removing activities that it sounds like she truly enjoys & looks forward to would hurt her to the point of her becoming angry & possibly hateful towards you.
I used to be so concerned about my 3 DD's grades. Always pushing for the honor roll or high honor roll. My comments were, "You'll be disappointed in yourself if you don't make that honor roll". But would they be disappointed or would I be disappointed?
Our community posts the names of students that make the honor roll in each grade - in order of rank. I would get that paper & read all the names to see what kids made it & who didn't. Give me a break, who really cares.
Now, 2 of my DD's do very well, one exceptionally well, the other needs to work harder to get her 89, 90 or 92 average. Could she get a 95 or 96 if she worked even harder & was more organized? Sure, but she has a heart of gold. She is the most compassionate, loving & caring out of my DD's. When you need something you ask her; she goes out of her way to help people; she is loved by all her teachers. Someone could say something nasty to her & she will turn around & do something so kind for them it would make you cry.
Bottom line, I'm sure she will be just as successful as my other 2 as life goes on even if her grades weren't as high as theirs. She will be a happy, well rounded, loving & caring individual that will go far in life. Possibly happier than her sisters.
I have FINALLY come to realize that their happiness is much more important than the grade they bring home. Oh, & if she doesn't get as much scholarship money as the other 2, then so be it. Once again, her happiness is much more important than money.
Please remember what is really important. A 3.2 is not a bad grade & forgetting an assignment is not the end of the world. Removing her from her friends & activities she loves could cause resentment for a long time.
I think changing schools would make your DD become resentful. I think removing activities that it sounds like she truly enjoys & looks forward to would hurt her to the point of her becoming angry & possibly hateful towards you.
I used to be so concerned about my 3 DD's grades. Always pushing for the honor roll or high honor roll. My comments were, "You'll be disappointed in yourself if you don't make that honor roll". But would they be disappointed or would I be disappointed?
Our community posts the names of students that make the honor roll in each grade - in order of rank. I would get that paper & read all the names to see what kids made it & who didn't. Give me a break, who really cares.
Now, 2 of my DD's do very well, one exceptionally well, the other needs to work harder to get her 89, 90 or 92 average. Could she get a 95 or 96 if she worked even harder & was more organized? Sure, but she has a heart of gold. She is the most compassionate, loving & caring out of my DD's. When you need something you ask her; she goes out of her way to help people; she is loved by all her teachers. Someone could say something nasty to her & she will turn around & do something so kind for them it would make you cry.
Bottom line, I'm sure she will be just as successful as my other 2 as life goes on even if her grades weren't as high as theirs. She will be a happy, well rounded, loving & caring individual that will go far in life. Possibly happier than her sisters.
I have FINALLY come to realize that their happiness is much more important than the grade they bring home. Oh, & if she doesn't get as much scholarship money as the other 2, then so be it. Once again, her happiness is much more important than money.
Please remember what is really important. A 3.2 is not a bad grade & forgetting an assignment is not the end of the world. Removing her from her friends & activities she loves could cause resentment for a long time.
