Should I go to WDW or not????

[emmagata]

I'm in the process (won't burden y'all with details) of getting out of a 14 year marriage.

My wife and her sister heading to WDW later this week for a 4 or 5 day stay at WDW (she had to get away to clear her head). She had some extra money saved (she can rub two nickels together and make a quarter!) so she decided to spend it on that.

We bought APs last year with the idea that we were going to go again this fall. Obviously that ain't gonna happen.

I've got enough frequent flier miles for several tickets and I've also got a few bucks squirreled away myself.

My question is, should I go to WDW (it would be by myself) for a few days? (I was thinking a week to two after Easter for either 4 or 5 days). My head needs some clearing too ya know.

I'm really worried that I will not enjoy it as much as previous times because I've always gone with at least one other person (my wife) or several family members.

So, what do you think?

 

[DawnCt]

Hi John, Be sure that your thoughts about going to WDW is motivated by the desire to actually be there and not because she is going. Also, you said something that I think might be critical; you are used to going there with someone else. Being there alone might be enjoyable...for a while but you will be eating dinner alone, swimming alone, riding test track alone, etc. There are some things in life that are just fun to do with one other person so I am concerned that you might not enjoy yourself. Why don't you talk a friend into going with you. Offer to cover the room and they will just have to worry about air, food and a ticket. That might be enough to entice someone into the trip. Two guys at Pleasure Island can have a good time. If not, wait until things are a bit more on an even keel for you and you actually feel like celebrating.

 

[BedKnobbery2]

If you think you can go to WDW and have a good time, I say go for it. You may opt for a shorter trip, though; perhaps just a weekend. I traveled there alone last fall, Fri-Mon, and felt it was just a *tad* too long to be there by myself...this is assuming, of course, that you're a seasoned Disney visitor. You'll be amazed at how much less time it takes to do what you want when you don't have to take anyone else's schedule/needs into consideration (bathroom breaks, food stops, rest stops). I was shocked at how easily I breezed through 3 parks in one day, seeing all that I wanted in each one.

Certainly, it sounds like you can afford it; with your airline tickets and your AP, you've got the major expenses out of the way.

Dawn's suggestion for bringing a friend along is good, too, although make sure it doesn't turn into "Giving Bob the Disney Tour". If your goal is to 'clear your head', company may interfere.

Best to you.
BK

 

[Serena]

John, I agree with Dawn. Go to WDW if you really want to be there and it will help you. Go somewhere else if it will help you.

But be careful not to base your decision on what your wife is doing.

 

[MHopkins2]

Originally posted by Serena
John, I agree with Dawn. Go to WDW if you really want to be there and it will help you. Go somewhere else if it will help you.

But be careful not to base your decision on what your wife is doing.

all around. (And at the risk of losing my DB membership card, )

I will say, though, that my best WDW trip of my whole life was when I went by myself for four days last year. There's something to be said for getting to do exactly what you want to do, when you want to do it!!

 

[emmagata]

Thanks Dawn for the reply. I don't really think all of my motivation is because my wife is going but I would probably not have thought of going now if she wasn't. I would have gone on a shopping spree with the money regardless. I did plan to go in the fall (Oct) before the AP ran out. I'm pretty close with my in-laws and I told my SIL that she should save up to go in the fall as she said she would go with me as I plan to go then even if I don't go now. I don't know if that sounds weird (going my soon to be ex-SIL) or not but there's nothing to it.

I did post a message on another board here and got a lot of support for going solo. I'm used to to being on the solitary side during most of the day because of my job. I don't work in an office with direct contact to coworkers (my Nextel is my buddy).

But I will be around a whole of other happy people so it should be contagious!

 

[minniepumpernickel]

Oh my gosh, so sorry to hear that!

Maybe you should bring a friend. I don't know, it's a hard call. The only thing I do after break ups is to exercise like crazy. It's the only way I know how to feel better.

Good Luck!

 

[DawnCt]

Originally posted by emmagata
But I will be around a whole of other happy people so it should be contagious!

That's true, happiness is often contagious.!

 

[MICKEY88]

my last 2 trips were solo trips..I too had always gone with other people, so I had the same concerns, it was definitely different, you do have the advantage of doing things at your own pace...whenever I started feeling too alone, I would find a good photo location, such as the Walt & Mickey statue in the Magic Kingdom,,when families would start taking pictures I'd offer to take one of the whole family,with their camera ....helping to create some magic for others quickly picked up my spirits, after a while of doing this I'd go on my way..

I also found it helped to strike up conversation with other people while waiting in lines..


you could always go to the singles board ,and, or the meets board and see who else might be there when you go....maybe you could hang out with fellow dissers...

 

[goofy4tink]

If you really want to go, then go. Just be aware. My dd and I went down for a pretty spontaneous trip just before Christmas. I had just lost my mom 2 months before and my dd and I were feeling pretty sorry for ourselves. So, dh said why don't you just go down to WDW for a bit. Just get away from here and relax. So, we did. But, everywhere we looked we saw my mother. She was with us for our first trip there in '99. It was cathartic but somewhat less than great. I wouldn't mind being by myself I don't think. I would just be a little worried about those 'memories' that tend to creep in at the worst times.

BTW...big hugs to you. You are walking a tough path at the moment.