Should I feel guilty about this?

[CEDmom]

The youngest child always gets the shaft. He might as well start learning that now . Seriously though, I wouldn't sweat it. Just get a cute cake from the bakery and enjoy yourself.

 

[tigercat]

It's okay to just buy him a cake, he is too young to know...of course later in life he will like it that you did that as he can then use this on you all the time. It was dd#1 that had a problem. I didn't breastfeed her (I was told that she would die if I did but that is another story) but I did breastfeed dd#2 and ds. Every change she gets she tells everyone that of all the kids she was bottlefed. She loves to lord it over me.
tigercat

 

[Planogirl]

Eh, find a good bakery and buy him a cake. They will decorate it nicely too and I bet that he'll like that.

 

[Stacerita]

Grrrr! Here comes the guilt again...

No worries. Buy the cake from the store. He is young and probably would never know the difference. Let the guilt come when they are old enough to give it to you themselves. There were proabably a few things over the years I could have felt guilty for, but I didn't. The sweetpea pours on the guilt when she feels it is needed. Like the one year I promised to make her fetticcini for her birthday dinner. I had every intention to do so, but turns out I had contracted Hepatitis and it was on her birthday that the sypmtoms showed up and I ended up so sick that I was wishing for death. So I never made it for her since I ended up sick for the next few months. Even now, a few years later she will still bring it up and say "do you remember that year you didn't make me my birthday dinner?....i do". Yeah, she knows how to pile on the guilt.

Buy him the cake.

 

[amburger]

He's still pretty young. Like others said, he won't notice the difference and I'm sure he could care less anyways.

 

[SunshineOR]

You all must be great cake decorators/bakers! One of my kids would be jealous if the other one got a store cake. My cakes tend to be dry and I'm horrible at decorating. I always end up letting them "help" because early on I realize that the decorating is a disaster and I'd like to blame it on my kids.

My dds' favorite birthdays are the ones we've had in restaurants where they get the slice of cake with a candle and the server sings the birthday song. They think it's way cooler than when Mom bakes one of her pathetic cakes. Or maybe it's because I'm happy too and not stressing out while the house is covered with frosting while we try to fill in the center of the cake where it has collapsed and the guests are coming in an hour!!!

 

[YourMajesty]

I vote for buying the cake and skipping the guilt. I don't think buying a store bought cake should count for much guilt. I was just talking to my mom about the world revolving around the firstborn...but what do you do to change the birth order? I only have two so I guess I fall in that catagory of the second getting the shaft. I don't really agree with the earlier poster about them not remembering unless they had the same non-party for the firstborn because they wouldn't remember. My sister always has a party for her first and second together (3 years and 1 day apart) but the party is always planned around the oldest(he had three by himself and then 3 all about him with a splash of the sibling). She thiniks it ok since the scond won't remember but you know she will sit around and talk about it someday....just like this thread....we all know the birth order differences!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

So part of me is saying "nothing wrong with a store bought or bakery bought cake) while the other part is saying "no fair...you do it for the girls...suck it up and get it done".

What do you think?

I think you should tell the part of you that is saying "no fair" to be quiet.

Seriously, think of it as baby steps to becoming normal. Cut yourself a break!!! It won't be the last time you will have to make changes to get things done, trust me. The things I do today with my 9 & 14yodd's sometimes boggle my mind. But I have learned that my fantasy rarely matches reality. We shoot for getting there and getting it done these days.

Now if you said "no cake" then you should feel "guilty".

 

[grlpwrd]

Yes, stores sometimes give a small cake for a 1st birthday. You might want to check into it though it would feed only a few or be used just for the birthday kid. Buy a bigger one for the guests.

Don't sweat it...

 

[DisneyLovingMama]

I only have two and my little guy has already gotten the shaft. The three of us were sick on his birthday, so we never got a cake and I never gave him his presents. Finally, two weeks later, I got the "first birthday" pictures and cake. I do think I made him cupcakes for his class, but honestly I cannot remember right now (it was only 3 months ago!!).

I do have to say that DS has as many pictures as DD. I just love taking pictures and he's always doing something funny!!

Enjoy the store-bought cake!!