Should I cancel?

[clkelley]

So sorry for your loss. I don't think you should cancel either. You need the break.

However, on the practical side of things. I don't know what tickets you have, but to feel less like you wasted money if you don't go to the parks, reduce the tickets you've purchased to 1-day tickets for everyone. Then once you arrive, you can upgrade the tickets to whatever amount you all feel like going to the parks. If you don't feel like going to the parks at all, then just leave yours alone. You will have a 1-day ticket that will be good forever. Your family can upgrade to whatever amount of days they want.

 

[ihearttink]

I would like to thank everyone for your replies and kindness.

I am seeing a therapist right now. In fact she is the one who advised me to see my doctor for an antidepresent.

Billnang, I don't think I will stay at Dixie Landings (n/k/a POR) again. That trip with DH, DD and Mom was just magicial. I don't want to change that in any way. DH picked the BC because it is our favorite resort and he thought if we stayed at POR it would be too much of a reminder of our loss.

tinkerbellmagic, you jus brought a smile to my face. The one and only time I saw the Electric Parade was with mom. She absolutely loved it. I had forgotten this.

RMulieri, I will wait until the 45 day mark to make my final decision.

To everyone who has lost a friend or member of their family, my heart is with you and in my prayers.

 

[mdsouth]

I say, go ahead. Remember your mom at WDW. Cry a little when you need to, smile a little when you want to and laugh a lot with your family knowing your mom is with you all, in your hearts as well as spirits.

I whole-heartedly agree with this quote. I think you should go and just take it a moment at a time. Don't worry that you don't feel like planning the trip like you usually do. This will be a different trip than the past. Relax and let your DH make the plans.

Remember, you can relax at WDW too and it is not a waste of money. Take the time to really enjoy the themeing of the resort and pool.

You have my sympathy.

My own father passed away very unexpectedly in Feb this year. My extended family had been talking about taking a trip all together to the beach and renting a beach house. The beach is only a few hours from where my brother lives with his family. My mother, and my other siblings and I live far awayfrom my brother and only see him once a year if we are lucky.

I have decided to go on the trip even though my father will not be with us. It was my father that would have been the first one in the ocean and the pool. He was one to play in the water like a kid. He loved the beach, the water, the pool. I have had a hard time planning the trip. Before, I was really looking forward to it because I knew he would have so much fun! I cry at times as a think about the trip and even as I type this. But, for me and especially my mother and kids, the trip is something that we need at this time. It will be a time to spend together as a family. I am sure that there will be tears at times, but I also think it is a good way to celebrate my father's life and his passion for living. Hopefully, we will make some new memories as well.

I also wanted to share my sympathy to the another poster in this thread that lost someone. The poster wonders whether or not a return to the Poly would be a good thing to do. I suggest that instead of staying at the Poly this first time back, the poster should think of this trip as a wonderful opportunity to try a different resort. That is one of the wonderful things about WDW there are lots to explore!

 

[LoraJ]

I am so sorry for your loss.
Two years ago, my FIL became very ill. We had a trip planned to Disney and postponed it to the fall because we thought maybe he would be more stable then. Well, he never got better and passed away in July. Our trip to Disney that fall was a great form of therapy. We really needed it. I think going to WDW can really help you and your family.

I also went to WDW a week after 9/11. I live right outside NYC and saw too much with my own eyes. It was like a war zone around here being so close to ground zero. I was very conflicted about going. My friend bailed on me and I was afraid to fly. I ended up renting a car and driving down by myself and took the train back. It was such great therapy for me. Once I got out of New Jersey I could see that the rest of the country seemed a bit more normal and life went on. It took me out of the "we're all doomed" mentality to an "I think we'll be okay" one.