Should I bring my Mom? (long-sorry)

[r3ngels]

We are going to WDW in June (Me, DH, DD7, DD4, DD2). This is our 1st trip with just the 5 of us. My parents are DVC and we go with them and all brothers, SIL, nieces and nephews. There is 15 of us that go ever other year (April 2005 is our next group trip).

When we booked my dad was saying that he brings us to WDW every other year but we don't invite him with us... he was kidding but mom said oh I wish I was going...

Since they use their points for us to stay at BWV every other year, I felt like I should invite them, so I called back and asked them if they want to go with us for part of our trip. I thought that would be great because my girls could have time at WDW with grandparents with out sharing them with others but We also got time without anyone just the 5 of us.

Here is the problem... my dad really doesn't want to go he was really just kidding (Can you beleive someone not wanting to go to WDW??? that's a problem within itself) but said to my mom that she should go with us... that means she would be there the whole time she is not a very good independent traveller. She might fly out by herself if we brought her to the airport and she got a nonstop flight. She said she would pay for a connecting room and watch the kids so we could go out just the 2 of us. My parents live in a different state so the girls don't get to see her that often and adore her. I feel I would hurt her feelings putting her on a plane and sending her home early. But I wanted time just "us". She is really easy going- she's a disney follower and I am the disney leader. She really is a help with the girls and my DH really doesn't care if she comes or not.

What should I do... I know this is long but I am so torn??? We need to call and book another room while there are still good rates for our trip.... HHHHEEELLLLPPPP?!?

 

[safetymom]

Invite your mother.

 

[ILoveWDW2003]

Can your mom entertain herself while at Disney? Would there be any way that the 5 of you could do some things without her?

 

[MAGICinMYHEART]

Invite your Mom, she doesn't leave you at home...You will still have time alone with your family, if you plan it. You might even tell her you want to have time with just your children...This is your Mother she will understand.

I would enjoy the alone time with my Mother more than anything else.

 

[luvpooh]

is there any way that she can come later into your trip so that you had your family time before she got there, so you don't feel like you're sending her home without you and that you're all leaving together?
I would ask her along. You don't know what's going to happen in life, so you should take advantage of opportunities when they come along, IMHO.

 

[travellady]

Invite her - the kids will soon be grown and all moments together are precious. And, you and your husband can get some alone time - seems like a deal to me.

 

[crazyforgoofy]

If she's as good a mom/grandma as you say I'd certainly invite her. But as luvpooh said I suggest you ask her to arrive after you've been there for part of the trip. That way you get time with your hubby and kids first.

Lucky you to have parents who live WDW too.

 

[jarestel]

Since she lives in another state, you pretty much have plenty of time with "just us" anyway. I say invite her along and have a great time!

 

[Luv2trav]

I agree with others... Invite you mother.... She has been generous enough to take you to Disney and you should return the favor... In addition time is so precious and you should take advantage of the time you have with your mother and her grand children... What better place to do that than Disney?

 

[lUVTOGO]

I would invite her. Let the kids spend quality time with her. She might want to spend some time by herself also, she can go to the pool, shopping . Life is too short, spend time with mom while you can.

 

[susy]

I think you've already decided and want some confirmation-go call her!!!

 

[CamColt]

Since it sounds as though there are no issues with getting along, then I say go for it.
After 5 trips to WDW with our kids and others, our 6th was finally just the 4 of us. While it was nice, I wouldnt say it was any better or worse than when others come with us. It actually felt a little lonely at times. We have gone just us and my mother(my Father is Disneyed out too, I feel your pain ) and we had a great time. We are in a similar situation as you for this summer. Only my mother is coming along and she is watching the kids 1 night for us to go out on our anniversary. Im thrilled!
In the end the help that she will give with the kids, and the time the kids spend with the Grandma would probablly outweigh any benefits of your going as just a family. Good luck deciding.

 

[bhillier]

bring mom along. You may even find that she gets tired out and wants to return to the room for a rest. In fact you ought to think about doing something that the two of you can share like a special lunch/tea or spa tx, get nails done.....something fun. i believe that my parents won't live forever so enjoy/include them in my family's life as much as possible.

 

[imallset]

no question..........Invite her, enjoy the precious time that you have with your mother and your children have with their grandmother. There is always time for "us" time if you take it.

 

[blondie2356]

Hello all;

I say ask her to go. My mom is coming for the first time ever to wdw with is in August. She is like a kid she likes roller coaster and scary rides. I think my mom will love wdw. Ask your mom to go with you

kay

 

[evilqueenfan]

Invite your mom. Every trip we take, I wish my mom was here to be able to invite. Enjoy her while she is here and let your children make all those precious memories with her. That is all my kids have now. Life goes by way to fast. Enjoy her now.

 

[DukeStreetKing]

Your mom brought you into the world, you can at least bring her to the World.

Seriously, it sounds like your mom would be a great help watching the kids so you could have some adult-only time. Also, since your kids don't get to see her very often, it would be great for them, too.

I'm sure your mom and your kids would have a ball together. There is just endless possibilities for groups of all ages.

Take your mom and have fun.

 

[Mercy]

Well in your post you said you already invited your parents, I think it would be kind of hard to un-invite them now. That would probably open up another whole set of problems.

Since you seem to have a good relationship with your mom and you don't get to see her that often, this might be a good time with just your family and her (without other extended family). Right now my mom has brain cancer ... I would love to be planning a trip with her along. You really never know how long you will have your mom around. Build the memories while you can.

 

[kda]

How wonderful to include your parents in your vacation plans, after they have generously included you and your family in theirs. Hope you have a fantastic trip!

 

[BrerRabbit_fan]

I say invite her for the whole trip. Your girls are very young and you will have lots of opportunities to go. Let the girls have memories of her, life is short.

Both my grandmothers weren't alive by the time I was born so I feel very strongly about this.