Sharing BOEs?

[DisneyLeah]

Hi all - I am a long time lurker and just a newbie to posting...

My fiancee and I are leaning very strongly toward a Wishes DFTW (actually, we can't even imagine not going with Disney), but we are really having a hard time choosing locations and deciding where to start. We've met with DFTW staff and have been told to narrow down the choices and they will provide some more info/estimates.

While discussing the options for countless hours, we've been wondering what some of the real costs look like for choosing a World Showcase ceremony vs the Pavilion and the differences between a brunch/lunch at ADH vs Cal Grill or Citricos or Living Seas. In particular, I'm curious about how much decor costs in each type of location (restaurant vs specialty venue).

For example, does it cost a lot to set up chairs and decor for a ceremony at Epcot WS (and add transportation)? Do you end up spending just as much between the higher site fee, decorations and transportation for the WP?

For receptions, has anyone tried to dance on the carpet at Citricos instead of going with Cal Grill and adding the dance floor? Whats the real differences in cost between these two places.

What all this boils down to is that I think I need to get/see some estimates from DFTW staff or other brides. Is it a no-no to ask people to share details from their BOE or Estimated Budget? I've seen some brides post parts of the BOE/Budget in their PJs, but would anyone be willing to post more info here?

If I am going about this in the wrong way, I welcome your advice and guidance! I've already learned so much from all of you!!!

thanks!
Leah