I do still vote for option "e" for original poster, but I will also agree that not all guests would be worthy of this option! When my mom came for a few days, she bought a meal, but by and large, it was our treat. I know that if we could ever get my PILs to come down, we would be fighting over the check -- they are always trying to pay for everything. We are constantly hiding money in each other's purses, pockets, etc. For a while there, my son was making a SERIOUS allowance because they were giving the money to him (to then give to us) but it never made it past his piggy bank!!
We do treat our
DVC home like a home -- meaning, as one person noted, if you wouldn't charge for a guest in your "home", why would you do it in your home-away-from home? But what happens is this: the guest just doesn't realize the full extent of the "gift" you've given, and therefore comes to believe you can get these sorts of accommodations any ol' time. THe points, banking, borrowing, dues, all that is LOST on them. I can recall that when my sister joined DVC, she was torn whether to get an extra night added to her stay (she was getting a 2br and 2 studios for our families, that generous soul!) I thought, big whoop, what's one extra day? Do IT! (The day in question -- Christmas Day, and it was on a Friday. I think that day alone cost as much as the prior week summed together!!) Now that I'm in DVC, I can see her concern!
We invited family to go with us one year, and made the trip somewhat gratis (they paid for some meals). However, we then found that there might be an expectation on their part to accompany us on every trip. We love these people, but we have only so many points, and our fam of 5 will only increasingly consume a 2br, and plus, we have other family to consider, or maybe even just using the pts on our immediate family only! For this next trip they are joining us, we told them we were "tight" on pts. (Which is true -- we had every intention of staying for 2 weeks, but didn't have the pts to have them there for 2 weeks!) They were most willing to accept some share of the burden (even offering to rent pts). So dh and I did our calculation and said, here's the deal -- we can give you 8 nights out of our 2 weeks. We decided that alongwith the usual few meals, we would let them pay for one night's accommodation (the first night out of the now 9 total that we are together). I showed them what it would cost for us to get 2 rooms at BC, then what it would cost for a 2br at BCV, then what it would cost if we could get a 2br at BCV using a dvc discount. The 25% off discount at BCV through DVC is the best deal, actually, but even so, they were stunned to learn the price!
Until then, room prices were pretty much unknown to them, especially DVC room prices. And the points thing still makes their eyes glaze over. I think knowing what a room costs in cash is a very easy, quick lesson in the value of our pts that anyone could understand. We're hoping after this trip that maybe we'll have another DVCer in the family... it sure would make things easier if they had their own pts! Maybe then we could combine for a great big grand villa stay...
Since there are 8 of us going, picking up the dinner tab is very appreciated. Enjoy yourselves!
I'm dreading when they have kids cause I can guess they'll be asking us for points often. Plus, this trip since there are more of us I have to use more points. Talk about pain!!! 
