Seriously?

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Just a little vent. Not related to anything about Disney or GLBT issues. Well, not exactly.

When DS was little I was good friends with a girl we'll call Jill. Jill has a DS a couple of years older than mine, and she has a DD a year or so younger. We used to get together all the time when the boys were preschool age, then we would still get together for birthdays, 4th of July, that sort of thing as the kids got older.

When DS was going into 2nd grade we moved across town. Didn't ever see Jill & her family, but she would still e-mail once in awhile. Mostly forwards of e-mails, not personal messages. Now, ALL THIS TIME she has been asking me to buy stuff from her kids. Magazines, Girl Scout cookies, whatever. And most of the time I bought stuff because I felt bad saying no. Time went by and we stopped talking entirely. Her kids are really into sports, they were always busy, we just didn't have anything in common anymore. Friendship basically came to an end, but I would still get stuff IN THE MAIL asking me to buy stuff from her kids. I threw the stuff in the trash. If we aren't friends anymore I don't feel obligated anymore!

2 years ago she called to ask me to buy Girl Scout Cookies. I told her my mom had stage III breast cancer. She never called again to ask about my mom. She has MET my mom, but never called or e-mailed to see how things were going.

Today I got an e-mail from her DS, who is now a Sr. in high school. It was a generic e-mail asking me to buy stuff to support his Boy Scout troop.

You know what? That was a TACKY thing to do. It was BEYOND tacky. You don't go for a couple of YEARS without contacting someone and then send a generic solicitation. Sure, Scouts do some good things. They also discriminate against gay men. NO, I will NOT be buying anything!

I will resist the urge to send a nasty message back.

 

[C&G'sMama]

Definitely Tacky. People never cease to amaze me. Delete the email and send out good vibes to the universe.

 

[Holly]

Tacky for sure.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Definitely Tacky. People never cease to amaze me. Delete the email and send out good vibes to the universe.

Done, and done.

 

[PghLybrt]

I would be upset too! Not for the emails soliciting you to buy stuff ( i am sure you are just in a "list" and she gives no thought as to who is on that list) . I would be upset for never checking on your Mom! I can only imagine. I maye not like my Ex but I still ask after the family!

Sorry!

As for the Boy Scout stuff....don't get me started!!! My GF will no longer let me talk to them when she sees them in front of stores asking you to buy stuff.

 

[DisneyWorldbuff]

Sad when some people are so self-consumed and then they pass that trait onto their children. Looks like you can leave behind someone who was not a good freind to begin with. Good luck!

 

[robinb]

Definitely tacky. BUT ... I know that a lot of websites will harvest your email addresses from your yahoo or gmail account to send solicitations to people. Like how Facebook trolls through your yahoo email contacts and matches them up with people already on Facebook. I was just on a website that offered something like that: "Tell your friends about XYZ!" and of course I said "No way will I give you access to my email account!". I would not be surprised if the Boy Scouts have something like that. I guess what I'm trying to say is that the email may have been automated from the scouts and he/she didn't even actively give them your email.

I do think if this bugs you, you should email to the son and tell him to please remove you from his mailing list. You will probably have to tell the Boy Scouts the same thing.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Definitely tacky. BUT ... I know that a lot of websites will harvest your email addresses from your yahoo or gmail account to send solicitations to people. Like how Facebook trolls through your yahoo email contacts and matches them up with people already on Facebook. I was just on a website that offered something like that: "Tell your friends about XYZ!" and of course I said "No way will I give you access to my email account!". I would not be surprised if the Boy Scouts have something like that. I guess what I'm trying to say is that the email may have been automated from the scouts and he/she didn't even actively give them your email.

I do think if this bugs you, you should email to the son and tell him to please remove you from his mailing list. You will probably have to tell the Boy Scouts the same thing.

Hmm. I guess it's possible, but if they allowed the system to access the ENTIRE e-mail address book/contacts without regard to WHO they sent it to, then it's just as tacky. There are A LOT of people in my e-mail contacts that I wouldn't dream of sending a request like that to. You would have to go through and hand pick the people to receive the message. And if they hand selected me to receive it, it was tacky.

I am not going to get into it with the son. I am sure he's a good kid, yadda yadda. I deleted the e-mail, and if there are more I will delete those, too.

 

[Sphyrna]

The whole kids selling stuff seems to be getting out of hand. Seems like they're always selling stuff!! I understand clubs and organizations need to raise money for their projects and stuff. But with so much going on these days it seems like it never stops. I think we have a policy at work stating we're not allowed to send out emails to everyone saying they're selling such and such for their kids whatever.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

DS's school just asks for money.

 

[C&G'sMama]

Yeah Sphyrna, I agree. At DD's former school they sold all kinds of stuff. We've had no fundraisers in the 3 years at her current school. Her Irish Dance School is talking about selling Calendars with pictures local pubs and coupons in it but it's not mandatory and short from buying one ourselves we probably won't participate. The kids can use it to help defray the cost of camp and dresses (I'd rather just hand over the money).

At our work you can put candy bars and fliers in break rooms. I never feel obligated to buy. But I've never been very good at sales so I usually just hand over cash.

 

[Mathfailure]

I agree with the tacky vote; however, the not contacting you about your Mom's illness would be the deal breaker on further contact.

Can you note her stuff as spam on your email?

I did that with a few annoying folk, makes a day just a tiny bit easier.

Kathleen

 

[DVCDan36]

I am sorry that your "friend" couldn't be a decent human being and inquire about your mother's situation, even if she got a little off track, when she did have a chance, she should have at least apologized for not asking about your mother.
I don't blame you for not wanting to support someone that failed to support you. I remember I had this co-worker that was selling tickets for his ATV club, I, of course, bought a ticket. A few months later I was raising money for the National Kidney Foundation and asked if he would like to buy a ticket from me. He scoffed in my face and told me no, he doesn't buy tickets. I was glad when he came to me a few months later asking for me to buy something else. Glad I could tell him that I don't support d...., that's what jocks are for. Boy was he mad.

Anyways, being new to this thread, How is your mother doing?

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

I am sorry that your "friend" couldn't be a decent human being and inquire about your mother's situation, even if she got a little off track, when she did have a chance, she should have at least apologized for not asking about your mother.
I don't blame you for not wanting to support someone that failed to support you. I remember I had this co-worker that was selling tickets for his ATV club, I, of course, bought a ticket. A few months later I was raising money for the National Kidney Foundation and asked if he would like to buy a ticket from me. He scoffed in my face and told me no, he doesn't buy tickets. I was glad when he came to me a few months later asking for me to buy something else. Glad I could tell him that I don't support d...., that's what jocks are for. Boy was he mad.

Anyways, being new to this thread, How is your mother doing?

My mom finished her radiation in Feb. 2009, and she is currently doing quite well. Thanks for asking!

You know, I can't recall EVER asking Jill to buy anything from DS. When we used to see each other frequently DS went to a private school where they didn't do the "go out and sell stuff" type of fundrasiers. Once he switched to public school we just didn't really participate in selling stuff. The elementary sold poinsettia plants that were actually really nice, but if I asked her to buy one I don't think she did. Anyway, she always made sure BOTH of her kids asked me to buy stuff. Since I only have ONE kid it was never a very fair arrangement!

 

[mickeysaver]

Yes, your former friend is super tacky for sending that out to you. And kudos for the remarkable self restraint.

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

So I guess replying with, "Do I know you?" would be returning tacky for tacky and not something we dignified folk do, huh?

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

So I guess replying with, "Do I know you?" would be returning tacky for tacky and not something we dignified folk do, huh?

Probably.

 

[soulmates]

I'm SO sorry about your mom, glad she's doing better. As for the solicitation, happends everywhere. I get hit up ALL the time by people at work. I've learned to become REAL vocal. Now when DD has a fundraiser, I go straight to the very people I've given money to for their kids and say, "Guess what, time to pony up and order from my kid". I do it in a joking way, but to date, nobody ever says no. Fair is fair. I would however, NEVER ask friends who don't have kids or people that I no longer talk with. That is just as you said, TACKY!

 

[jjjmranch]

I agree that the generic selling email is super tacky. I've come across some of them and quite frankly, haven't bought one thing that way. I'd much prefer they ask in person.

I'm glad to hear your Mom is doing well. Cross that person off your list!

 

[OrlandoMike]

I would however, NEVER ask friends who don't have kids....

Hey! Dont judge us!

I love to buy crap from peoples kids! Especially food! And God help you if your High School band is having a car wash! I roll down the window, crank some drum corps, and usually drop a $20!