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I need some opinions. I am nor sure if I just think my brother is weird, because to me it is extreme, or if this is what many dad of little girls are like. I know my Dh is not like this.
My brother and his wife have an only child, a girl. She is going to be 6yo in January. This little girl is there universe. Her mother is a little obsessive about her, she has never been left with anyone....and they take her to every function/party they are invited to, regardless if kids are invited or NOT. My brother has ended up like his wife, which surprises myself and my other siblings, because we were raised in house full of 12 kids....so we know better than anyone, that you don't need to be around your kid 24/7.
Anyway, I could go on all night...but my big concern is the extreme my brother has gone. My BIL told me he had a conversation one day with my brother. He said my brother was going on and on and on about how he did not want his daughter to grow up and get a boyfriend. I know all dad don't like the thought of their little girls growing up, and some are real strict, but I don't know many who will start worrying when the child is only 5yo. My BIL just told him he needed to live for today, and let her be FIVE, and not worry about what may happen in 10-15years. I honestly think my brother loses sleep over the thought of her having a boyfriend.
Last night, I called my brother to see how is Christmas went. I asked about his DD, and he told me someone gave her, *gasp* MAKE-UP. Now, it is child make-up. But bother does not care. He is not happy about it at all. I tried calming him down, and rationalizing with him. I pointed out how our dad forbid us girls to wear make-up, and the result was, we would sneak it on outside of the house. I asked him if he wanted his daughter to sneak behind his back. I told him if he let her "play" with make-up now, the novelty of it will be worn off by the time she is a teenager, and she won't go overbaord with it. She will know how to use it, and they can help her learn the correct amount to wear. He would not hear of it. He was really mad. I change the subject.
We then start talking about TV shows the kids watch. His DD does not watch Full House, but he said she has to watch Fresh Prince of Bel Air. She loves that show. I said, without THINKING, that she probably has a little crush on Will Smith. ...WHOOPSIES. Wrong thing to say. I said it because I think it would be cute if she had a little crush on him. Well, that was too much for my brother. He was actually speechless.
How can I have normal conversations about the kids growing up, if he freaks out at every mention of his daughter growing up, in every sense of the word.
Do you know anyone like this, or is he in a class of his own? I have my own DD, and I can't imagine stressing and worrying about her teen years right now, she is only 7. I will have enough of that soon enough. Right now, I am enjoying her being 7.
My brother and his wife have an only child, a girl. She is going to be 6yo in January. This little girl is there universe. Her mother is a little obsessive about her, she has never been left with anyone....and they take her to every function/party they are invited to, regardless if kids are invited or NOT. My brother has ended up like his wife, which surprises myself and my other siblings, because we were raised in house full of 12 kids....so we know better than anyone, that you don't need to be around your kid 24/7.
Anyway, I could go on all night...but my big concern is the extreme my brother has gone. My BIL told me he had a conversation one day with my brother. He said my brother was going on and on and on about how he did not want his daughter to grow up and get a boyfriend. I know all dad don't like the thought of their little girls growing up, and some are real strict, but I don't know many who will start worrying when the child is only 5yo. My BIL just told him he needed to live for today, and let her be FIVE, and not worry about what may happen in 10-15years. I honestly think my brother loses sleep over the thought of her having a boyfriend.
Last night, I called my brother to see how is Christmas went. I asked about his DD, and he told me someone gave her, *gasp* MAKE-UP. Now, it is child make-up. But bother does not care. He is not happy about it at all. I tried calming him down, and rationalizing with him. I pointed out how our dad forbid us girls to wear make-up, and the result was, we would sneak it on outside of the house. I asked him if he wanted his daughter to sneak behind his back. I told him if he let her "play" with make-up now, the novelty of it will be worn off by the time she is a teenager, and she won't go overbaord with it. She will know how to use it, and they can help her learn the correct amount to wear. He would not hear of it. He was really mad. I change the subject.
We then start talking about TV shows the kids watch. His DD does not watch Full House, but he said she has to watch Fresh Prince of Bel Air. She loves that show. I said, without THINKING, that she probably has a little crush on Will Smith. ...WHOOPSIES. Wrong thing to say. I said it because I think it would be cute if she had a little crush on him. Well, that was too much for my brother. He was actually speechless.
How can I have normal conversations about the kids growing up, if he freaks out at every mention of his daughter growing up, in every sense of the word.
Do you know anyone like this, or is he in a class of his own? I have my own DD, and I can't imagine stressing and worrying about her teen years right now, she is only 7. I will have enough of that soon enough. Right now, I am enjoying her being 7.
