Sept. 2009 @ WDW! Be a Pop Tart 2009~come share your(Bounce Back or NOT)Dates !!!

[angwill]

Melissa,
You are way too hard on yourself. Spending a lot of money and time to hop to TX for a weekend to attend the wedding of someone you haven't spent time with in about 20 years is not something many people would do. She was your best friend many, many years ago which in my book earns her a card. lol You are far from a horrible person and just your trying to find ways to be there prove that your not.

 

[Kristineamb]

Melissa,
You are way too hard on yourself. Spending a lot of money and time to hop to TX for a weekend to attend the wedding of someone you haven't spent time with in about 20 years is not something many people would do. She was your best friend many, many years ago which in my book earns her a card. lol You are far from a horrible person and just your trying to find ways to be there prove that your not.

Melissa,
I agree with Ang....you should NOT feel obligated to attend this wedding at any cost!

 

[SlightlyGoofy]

Melissa, I have a sort of different take on your former friend's wedding. Many folks, not saying that she is doing this BUT, send out a lot of invitations to folks they do not really expect to attend. No cost to them and a good prospect of a nice present. When it comes to certain members of my family I just send the present, it is so much cheaper and easier. I know you will make the right decision based on what is good for you and your family. I would not want you to have to dip into important (Disney) money. BTW, I did a beer run for Diva K and her friends so there was no alcohol at MK, unless one of those ornery ladies snuck it in.

Ang, it would not have occurred to me to change ticket days around. If I did that it would not work. Good to know that the old rule of checking in during the open dates and being able to stay through the closed dates. This upcoming trip I was charged extra for weekends. That is not enough to bother me though. Even staying for two weekends that is only $40 more.

BTW, have some good news to share. This upcoming move is all in the hands of Fate and today Fate gave me a winning hand. I got a notification from our insurance company that they have okayed our hail damage claim. First one we have ever filed, in our entire lives. They inspected and found that there was damage. I would have had to replace the roof in the next few years so now I only have to come up with a smaller part of it. A new roof might sell the house better. I may even be able to get a better bid so it will not cost them as much. I am not one for pocketing the difference. That seems like stealing to me.

Slightly Goofy

 

[jmskinner]

BTW, have some good news to share. This upcoming move is all in the hands of Fate and today Fate gave me a winning hand. I got a notification from our insurance company that they have okayed our hail damage claim. First one we have ever filed, in our entire lives. They inspected and found that there was damage. I would have had to replace the roof in the next few years so now I only have to come up with a smaller part of it. A new roof might sell the house better. I may even be able to get a better bid so it will not cost them as much. I am not one for pocketing the difference. That seems like stealing to me.

Slightly Goofy

Actually it is good that you do this. I use to work in insurance and one of our company's required us to climb on the roofs to inspect for damage before we could cover a home. This stopped many people from buying homes. We also were able to pull what is called a "C.L.U.E." report that showed any claims paid on a property or on an individual. Had several instances where a client had been told the roof was 6 years old, but the current owner had received thousands just a year or two earlier. We kept track of the dates of hail storms, so we could tell if it was a hail claim.

Thanks Ang, Diva K, and SG on the advice about the wedding. I am leaning against going. We have kept in touch, and she is marrying another friend from high school, but to drag Jacob around like that really is crazy. I think she originally planned on me being in the wedding, because she texted me soon after being engaged to find out if I could make it. She may not have been though, just what I was thinking. She was one of my bridesmaids. I feel I do need to give her a call and not just send back the RSVP declined.

I just realized another expense we have coming up that may end up being very large. With Jonas' daughter turning 18 in October, he is starting the motion to stop child support. Don't worry, not leaving her high and dry, he gave her his GI Bill to pay for college and we deposit money on a debit card twice a month. So he has to go to NC and hire an attorney.

 

[SlightlyGoofy]

Melissa, is this a case where you are mandated to pay support until she graduates college? I knew a woman once, nothing like your case at all, who made her kids go to college even though they barely graduated from HS to keep getting support. If you are not divorced 18 seems to be the age where it can stop no matter what. I think that unless the child gets good grades in school and would be likely to have gone to college then the father should not have to pay. Could be mother too though come to think of it. JMO

It sounds as if you guys are taking good care of her and she will do well from all you have told us about her. Sounds like a nice young lady. Maybe she will go to college nearer you?

I hope it all turns out well and you do not have to break the bank for the legal stuff.

SG

 

[jmskinner]

Well, when Kara's mother made it so we had to have a custody agreement, her mother didn't even think about college. She was more worried about who would get to take her to WDW first. Her attorney was telling Jonas' attorney how he wanted to strangle the woman. She wasn't being very rationale at the time and only did this once she heard I was pregnant, they were never married.

I don't think we will have a problem, once this GI Bill is approved and everything. Jonas kept telling Kara to look into what she needed to do and finally when the college asked for money, she did her part and got the process going.

She is going to Eastern Carolina University, which by the way, use to be the #1 party school. It was #1 for so many years, it was retired from the list. Dad just loves this! Of course, she can't even get into clubs yet since she is still only 17.

SG, I sure hope everything goes well for you with selling the house and getting to live your dream down here. You should be able to find a great deal on a home.

 

[SlightlyGoofy]

Melissa, I had a pretty darned good opinion of Jonas before this and now I really think he is aces. I do not have much respect for a man who does not care for his children, no matter their birth circumstances. He has been a wonderful dad, any old body can be a father. Takes but a few seconds for the one and the other lasts a lifetime and is well worth the effort.

Party school huh? Now, if he is paying should he not have a say? Well, David Letterman went to one and only got mediocre grades and has done pretty well for himself. The now funds scholarships for only 'c' students too.

I would love to have seen a lawsuit based on fighting out who was going to get to take her to Disney first. I am willing to bet it would not be the first nor the last either.

Reckon the mom was overcome with jealousy. Is normal but hopefully one would get over it at some point in time.

Our move is all depending on Fate. It was Fate that led us here and it worked out well. You never know what life has in store. Probably for the best. I will know in November if it would work for the both of us. Tom does not drive and so he is dependent upon me for everything and here he can walk across the street and a couple of other places. I am hoping it is so down there. He will be getting worse at some point and not be able to go anywhere and I need him where I can care for him. No way could I lift him in and out of this house. He is not apt to do anything for himself as some do. I will have to carry his oxygen. I have had to carry his chair when we went places his entire life already. I am no longer able to do that either though.

SG

 

[jmskinner]

Melissa, I had a pretty darned good opinion of Jonas before this and now I really think he is aces. I do not have much respect for a man who does not care for his children, no matter their birth circumstances. He has been a wonderful dad, any old body can be a father. Takes but a few seconds for the one and the other lasts a lifetime and is well worth the effort.

Party school huh? Now, if he is paying should he not have a say? Well, David Letterman went to one and only got mediocre grades and has done pretty well for himself. The now funds scholarships for only 'c' students too.

I would love to have seen a lawsuit based on fighting out who was going to get to take her to Disney first. I am willing to bet it would not be the first nor the last either.

Reckon the mom was overcome with jealousy. Is normal but hopefully one would get over it at some point in time.

Our move is all depending on Fate. It was Fate that led us here and it worked out well. You never know what life has in store. Probably for the best. I will know in November if it would work for the both of us. Tom does not drive and so he is dependent upon me for everything and here he can walk across the street and a couple of other places. I am hoping it is so down there. He will be getting worse at some point and not be able to go anywhere and I need him where I can care for him. No way could I lift him in and out of this house. He is not apt to do anything for himself as some do. I will have to carry his oxygen. I have had to carry his chair when we went places his entire life already. I am no longer able to do that either though.

SG

Well thanks SG. I think he is a good man myself, if I may say so. Not perfect though.

You do so much for Tom. I hope somewhere in himself he knows how special you are. Can't remember if I have asked this before, could he drive a golf cart? Just wondering if one of the communties that allow that would help? Guess a wheelchair could be driven that way also.

You are so right about fate. When it comes to moving I understand that. About 20 years ago I never thought I would leave my little town, now look at me.

I think coffee is ready. I need a cup this morning.

 

[SlightlyGoofy]

Sorry to be so late but I am running far behind in my computer stuff.

No, Tom could not ride a golf cart unless there were no other vehicles allowed at all. He does not like to pay attention to details, like staying on your side of the road, stopping at signs, etc. etc. One recent trip I took him on the cars at the parks, the ones that the kids drive, and we barely made it back to the starting line and that was because of the cars behind us hitting us forward. He could not keep it on the track. If he applies himself he can do things but he prefers not and since he has basically never had to he does not.

I got him, directly from his parents, at near 40, he worked at a place with very liberal rules and got away with murder there, others got away with even more, and since I am very responsible he has never had to be accountable here either.

He has simple wants and needs, except for some outrageous talk, which I have learned to ignore. Could be so much worse.

I cannot help but wonder how much different it would have been if there had been some help in his youth and, if I had known what I was in for, if I would have done it.

Tom has absolutely no idea what I, or anyone else does for him. He is a child. Has been forever and will not change. If and when I die he expects that his much younger brother will take over where I left off. Nothing to worry about, for him.

SG

 

[Kristineamb]

Sorry to be so late but I am running far behind in my computer stuff.
No, Tom could not ride a golf cart unless there were no other vehicles allowed at all. He does not like to pay attention to details, like staying on your side of the road, stopping at signs, etc. etc. One recent trip I took him on the cars at the parks, the ones that the kids drive, and we barely made it back to the starting line and that was because of the cars behind us hitting us forward. He could not keep it on the track. If he applies himself he can do things but he prefers not and since he has basically never had to he does not.
I got him, directly from his parents, at near 40, he worked at a place with very liberal rules and got away with murder there, others got away with even more, and since I am very responsible he has never had to be accountable here either.
He has simple wants and needs, except for some outrageous talk, which I have learned to ignore. Could be so much worse.
I cannot help but wonder how much different it would have been if there had been some help in his youth and, if I had known what I was in for, if I would have done it.
Tom has absolutely no idea what I, or anyone else does for him. He is a child. Has been forever and will not change. If and when I die he expects that his much younger brother will take over where I left off. Nothing to worry about, for him.
SG

 

[jmskinner]

Sorry to be so late but I am running far behind in my computer stuff.

No, Tom could not ride a golf cart unless there were no other vehicles allowed at all. He does not like to pay attention to details, like staying on your side of the road, stopping at signs, etc. etc. One recent trip I took him on the cars at the parks, the ones that the kids drive, and we barely made it back to the starting line and that was because of the cars behind us hitting us forward. He could not keep it on the track. If he applies himself he can do things but he prefers not and since he has basically never had to he does not.

I got him, directly from his parents, at near 40, he worked at a place with very liberal rules and got away with murder there, others got away with even more, and since I am very responsible he has never had to be accountable here either.

He has simple wants and needs, except for some outrageous talk, which I have learned to ignore. Could be so much worse.

I cannot help but wonder how much different it would have been if there had been some help in his youth and, if I had known what I was in for, if I would have done it.

Tom has absolutely no idea what I, or anyone else does for him. He is a child. Has been forever and will not change. If and when I die he expects that his much younger brother will take over where I left off. Nothing to worry about, for him.

SG

Reading all of this about Tom, I have read about others just like him in my sensory processing books. He is very fortunate to have you and I know he doesn't realize that. And I know there are many out there that aren't that fortunate.

 

[Minnie&Nana]

MERRY CHRISTMAS, POP Tarts!!

Hope you all have a warm fuzzy day with your family and friends!

 

[SlightlyGoofy]

M&N, thank you for the best wishes. I hate to tell you but the fuzzy comes along later, about a month or so later when you find the food under the couch.

Happy New Year!

Slightly Goofy

 

[Minnie&Nana]

M&N, thank you for the best wishes. I hate to tell you but the fuzzy comes along later, about a month or so later when you find the food under the couch.

Happy New Year!

Slightly Goofy

What a Goof!!!!

 

[SlightlyGoofy]

M&N, and you are shocked?

SG/Linda

 

[Minnie&Nana]

M&N, and you are shocked?

SG/Linda

Garsh, no!!!

 

[FigmentFinder]

Thought I would bump this old thread to see if any former POP people were going in September again?

 

[kaytieeldr]

Eh, not unless I find a winning lottery ticket

 

[FigmentFinder]

Eh, not unless I find a winning lottery ticket

http://www.powerball.com/pb_home.asp

Powerball is 160 million. Good luck.

 

[SlightlyGoofy]

Hey guys!!!!!!

I would dearly love to there this September as I so enjoyed the pool meets and meeting both you guys, even if you might not remember me.

I am now a Florida resident, almost. We sold our home, to the first person who looked at it, and had an auction of all our worldly possessions two days later and packed the few remainders in our car and came on down here and are now a bit over an hour from WDW.

Put an offer in on a condo the other day and are waiting to hear back so I will be busy buying furniture and getting everything in order in September but are planning on booking a November and February trip ASAP.

Maybe September will be possible next year. Hoping one or both of you win the lottery and then you can buy me a meal.

Slightly Goofy/Linda