Sept 18 2010 WB TransAtlantic Pirates/Capt Jacks Re-Repoing Repossession Cruise Pt.6

[birkner]

It is supposed to be the worst pain after bone cancer. Child birth is a doddle I can tell you. He has my sympathies. Hopefully he is over the worst now.

They didn't see gallstones on my first ultrasound scan, thought they did on the second one, then didn't again on the MRI. However, as they thought it was almost certain it was a gallstone that caused the attack they took the gallbladder out so it wouldn't happen again. Better not to have more attacks as it could(though by no means definite) progress to chronic and that isn't good at all.

I spoke with Joe this morning. He says that Doctor is trying to schedule him for another MRI as both previous ultrasound and MRI did not show any gallbladder issues. Also, doctor does not like looks of his liver. When I asked what that meant, he said, I don't know.

I asked if he wanted me to come up (200 miles) and ask questions, he said no, I would rather do this myself. All I can do is offer to help or do research. He is a very private person, doesn't have any real other family and is very stubborn about things. He has alienated most of the rest of our family by his behavior over the years but his is my late sisters husband no matter what else or how he behaves.

 

[gismo1554]

Another good reason to stay clear of cleaning!!!

LOL I know! can i convince dan i can never clean again?

 

[gismo1554]

I spoke with Joe this morning. He says that Doctor is trying to schedule him for another MRI as both previous ultrasound and MRI did not show any gallbladder issues. Also, doctor does not like looks of his liver. When I asked what that meant, he said, I don't know.

I asked if he wanted me to come up (200 miles) and ask questions, he said no, I would rather do this myself. All I can do is offer to help or do research. He is a very private person, doesn't have any real other family and is very stubborn about things. He has alienated most of the rest of our family by his behavior over the years but his is my late sisters husband no matter what else or how he behaves.

I guess sometimes people just want to be on their own to get through things! It might be his way of coping! He knows you're there which is the important thing!

 

[granmaz]

I spoke with Joe this morning. He says that Doctor is trying to schedule him for another MRI as both previous ultrasound and MRI did not show any gallbladder issues. Also, doctor does not like looks of his liver. When I asked what that meant, he said, I don't know.

I asked if he wanted me to come up (200 miles) and ask questions, he said no, I would rather do this myself. All I can do is offer to help or do research. He is a very private person, doesn't have any real other family and is very stubborn about things. He has alienated most of the rest of our family by his behavior over the years but his is my late sisters husband no matter what else or how he behaves.

Well at least he know you are there for him and are willing to go if he needs you. That is all you can do at the moment Noel. It is lovely that you care so much.

 

[steamboat will]

Well i got my MRI results today. Well there is nothing broke, ligament damage or tendon damage. They found a slight sprain and fluid in the wrist. This did show on the last MRI and this one shows that it healing. They think that the fluid is causing the pain and swelling. They give me pills for that and they told to give it another 6 to 8 weeks.. It has already been 8 weeks. At least I'm not on any restrictions and I should be healed by the time of the cruise.


Stephen

Hi Stephen So glad your arm is healing, Can't believe it's 8 weeks since the accident, i remember reading about it when it happened.

Please promise us you won't try to do and cartwheels on deck

OH NO!!!!!!!!!!! In the last 24 hours, someone booked the seat next to me on my flight from PHL to BCN. I was so hopeful it would stay open.

you never know, it might be Brad Pitt who just booked that seat...

English to American translation ALERT: I think hen wekend = all girls weekend. Correct me if I am wrong.

"Hen weekend" it the UK version of a a BATCHERLOREET weekend

SW

 

[FrauP]

I remember watching a Disney show as a child on Saturday afternoons and there Chip and Dale were referred to as Chip and Chap. I can even still remember the theme tune for their cartoon.
Corinna

We are both right. I had to check via wikepedia.
First they gave them "German" names, and later they were called Chip & Chap.

 

[orlandothebeagle]

Dan had issues with gallstones too! He was in agony! It aint good. Somehow he managed to pass them without needing surgery but it was touch and go!

When I was about 18 my mum had kidney stones, I thought she was going to die right in front of me, she was grey,clutching herself and collapsed on the floor. I didnt know what was wrong, it was terrible.

 

[alexandmaddie]

I'm sorry, Kristi! If I had seen this before I was working on the updates, I would have automatically included you on this most recent list.

That's okay!

Kristi

 

[eeyorelvr10]

The width of the FE is supposed to be eight inches.

Thanks!

I think it is always difficult when an adult child comes home as one tends to revert to parenting them. She is used to coming and going as she pleases. I tend to be more concerned with her being on time and not making so much noise. Typical mother/daughter relationship.

Since DH and I are not especially fond on BF, it contributes to the tension.

HA! Got you beat, oldest DD's BF got kicked/forced out because his GF (my DD) was:

A) White (she's 1/2 Mexican, 1/2 white)
B) Because she's a bad influence
C) Was converting him to English (they went to Spanish Mass)
D) And apparently she has powers and was brainwashing him
E) She was making him into a drug user

the truth:

A) She looks white but was raised by my mom while I was at work hence she's totally hispanic in culture
B) She was a CCD teacher for 5 yrs (all the way from her JR yr in HS) and has paved the road for my other daughter to do volunteer work.
C) She asked him to attend Christmas Eve mass instead of midnight Spanish mass
E) She's an asthmatic and has never done drugs or smoked.

The BF really is a nice guy and when he was forced out, we had no choice but to let him into the house. They sleep in separate bedrooms while they stay here but she is going to College at CSUN (Northridge) and she has her own apt. Oh yeah, she's 18 months from graduating but she's still a bad influence.

The finally straw for me was when said BF told DD that his mom had his and his ex's photo wrapped in herbs and cord (ancient power spell) in the hopes that he would break up with my DD and go back to his ex.

My youngest said, "Really? How's that working out for her?" For some reason, this really made us all laugh. As I've said before, of all 3 of my kids, my oldest DD, is the more mature and level-headed one of my 3 kids - she's very family oriented and is in fact studying to get her degree in child development against all of our wishes. So now, we just laugh about it but I dare say, I can't help but be worried about the future. One can never discount the childhood influences. I've worked very hard to raise my children to be tolerant (even though I may not always be) but to be excluded because she's white? OH? Did I mention, the BF's parents and siblings HAVE NEVER EVEN MEET DD in person. Amazing huh? And here I thought my parents were the biggest biased people on earth. Makes me realize what I finally had. They are not without their faults and may not like someone but at least they are polite and meet our friends, BF's prospective future spouses.

Sad part is, BF acknowledges that we are so Mexican in our traditions it will be sad. DD says his family is not invited to the wedding should they get married. All this and they've been together 11 months. SIGH. Nothing I can do but wait it out. If I push too hard, it will move her right into his arms and she's determined to get her education. Told you she was level-headed. Especially on our dime!

I asked if he wanted me to come up (200 miles) and ask questions, he said no, I would rather do this myself. All I can do is offer to help or do research. He is a very private person, doesn't have any real other family and is very stubborn about things. He has alienated most of the rest of our family by his behavior over the years but his is my late sisters husband no matter what else or how he behaves.

I guess sometimes people just want to be on their own to get through things! It might be his way of coping! He knows you're there which is the important thing!

At least you offered, continue to offer intermittantly, when he really hits the end of his rope, he will ask. Love your way of thinking as many people would just let him go. Your a very special person and you are probably blessed to have very many special friendship surrounding you. Takes a bigger person to reach out and continue to stay in touch. God Bless you.

 

[alexandmaddie]

See you in Montreal ) yup it is the same flight. Right now we are in row 19 but I think that might change when I call. Did you book through Disney?

Yea, we're on the same flight! No, we didn't book through Disney. We are taking a very convoluted route to get to Barcelona, but it was unbelievably cheap.

Kristi

 

[eeyorelvr10]

That's okay!

Kristi

Kristi

I know your name looks familiar, I think we may have sailed together in the past. Have you done any other "special" cruises? I mean longer than 7 days? I know I know you from another cruise. Or maybe I was lurking?

Sorry, excuse my brain - its shot.

 

[orlandothebeagle]

Thanks!



HA! Got you beat, oldest DD's BF got kicked/forced out because his GF (my DD) was:

A) White (she's 1/2 Mexican, 1/2 white)
B) Because she's a bad influence
C) Was converting him to English (they went to Spanish Mass)
D) And apparently she has powers and was brainwashing him
E) She was making him into a drug user

the truth:

A) She looks white but was raised by my mom while I was at work hence she's totally hispanic in culture
B) She was a CCD teacher for 5 yrs (all the way from her JR yr in HS) and has paved the road for my other daughter to do volunteer work.
C) She asked him to attend Christmas Eve mass instead of midnight Spanish mass
E) She's an asthmatic and has never done drugs or smoked.

The BF really is a nice guy and when he was forced out, we had no choice but to let him into the house. They sleep in separate bedrooms while they stay here but she is going to College at CSUN (Northridge) and she has her own apt. Oh yeah, she's 18 months from graduating but she's still a bad influence.

The finally straw for me was when said BF told DD that his mom had his and his ex's photo wrapped in herbs and cord (ancient power spell) in the hopes that he would break up with my DD and go back to his ex.

My youngest said, "Really? How's that working out for her?" For some reason, this really made us all laugh. As I've said before, of all 3 of my kids, my oldest DD, is the more mature and level-headed one of my 3 kids - she's very family oriented and is in fact studying to get her degree in child development against all of our wishes. So now, we just laugh about it but I dare say, I can't help but be worried about the future. One can never discount the childhood influences. I've worked very hard to raise my children to be tolerant (even though I may not always be) but to be excluded because she's white? OH? Did I mention, the BF's parents and siblings HAVE NEVER EVEN MEET DD in person. Amazing huh? And here I thought my parents were the biggest biased people on earth. Makes me realize what I finally had. They are not without their faults and may not like someone but at least they are polite and meet our friends, BF's prospective future spouses.

Sad part is, BF acknowledges that we are so Mexican in our traditions it will be sad. DD says his family is not invited to the wedding should they get married. All this and they've been together 11 months. SIGH. Nothing I can do but wait it out. If I push too hard, it will move her right into his arms and she's determined to get her education. Told you she was level-headed. Especially on our dime!






At least you offered, continue to offer intermittantly, when he really hits the end of his rope, he will ask. Love your way of thinking as many people would just let him go. Your a very special person and you are probably blessed to have very many special friendship surrounding you. Takes a bigger person to reach out and continue to stay in touch. God Bless you.

Families eh
Your daughter sounds very special.

It is such a shame, cause I dont get on with my mil, we tolerate each other, I really tried to start with for Lens sake, but now I dont bother, she lives right opposite my Mum and I go to my mums 3 times a week(sometimes a day) and hers once a year and thats a chore, it is only recently she has taken Lens pic with his x wife down from the wall, she has no pics of us but many of her other son and his partner,sad thing is, I am very friendly and open person and we could have been friends but you can only try so many times before thinking, stuff it.
Maybe she thought I was a bad influence.....which I obviously am

 

[eeyorelvr10]

Families eh
Your daughter sounds very special. THANK YOU!

It is such a shame, cause I dont get on with my mil, we tolerate each other, I really tried to start with for Lens sake, but now I dont bother, she lives right opposite my Mum and I go to my mums 3 times a week(sometimes a day) and hers once a year and thats a chore, it is only recently she has taken Lens pic with his x wife down from the wall, she has no pics of us but many of her other son and his partner,sad thing is, I am very friendly and open person and we could have been friends but you can only try so many times before thinking, stuff it.
Maybe she thought I was a bad influence.....which I obviously am

I know, exactly how you feel. But the thing you need to remember is that you never gave up. I have a similar situation with my MIL. Although she's never been rude, she has made an effort to get close to her other son's GF and or spouse. I've outlasted (23 yrs come Dec 1) all of them and we are still only distant acquaintances. I finally gave up all attempts when her other son, my BIL, verbally attacked me and probably would have physically attacked me if my girl's hadn't stepped in and physically had to push him away from me. (Truth be told I wish he had, then I could have let lose) Ugly long story but it was at my DFIL's wake. So after 23 yrs, I finally told DH, I'm done. I won't be rude but that's it. I've my head against a wall so long I can't do it anymore. I'm civil and I smile and I interact but I won't be going over to her house (my DH is the oldest of 2 boys) anymore. And my BIL is not allowed at the house until he apologizes to my girl's for his behavior in person. One DD is 23 and the youngest is underage (17) so until she turns 18, I've got control. A sad fate this is and I keep telling myself I must forgive but you know, at some point in time, you just got to say - enough is enough. Like you - I'm only 1 minute walking distance from her house.

I put it off to jealousy in that I'm very close to my mom. I used to call her every single day and stop by every single day when I was working but as my youngest has grown up, I've veered away a bit but that doesn't mean I'm not close. We are extremely close and she still yells at me and I still take it. Guess that's our lot in life huh? She's cute - all 5' of her. We spoil her rotten (my mom) and all my kids, even my 6'2" son calls her once a week to check on her. There's no subsitute for good old-fashioned mom-isms. There's a saying in Spanish that may not translate well but here's my interpretation of it - it loses a little of its cadence when translated but it's similar to the English one I've heard of:

English:

"A Daughter's a daughter for life, but a son's a son until he takes a wife."

Spanish (intrepretation) :

My daughter's children are my grandchildren while my son's children, you assume are your grandchildren.

Its funnier in Spanish and while it makes you ponder, its one of those things that time has proven, a mother-daughter relationship is really special. I'm so happy that there others who are able to forge that special friendship with a MIL or a DIL, and I hope to one day be a person that can make that special friendship. Right now, things dont look too good for me. Just kidding, I'm a good person - honest I am. A little and air-headed some days but I'm good at heart.

Life is about having fun and the DIS makes me laugh so that's my excuse for jumping on and off all day.

 

[eeyorelvr10]

Families eh
Your daughter sounds very special.

Maybe she thought I was a bad influence.....which I obviously am

NO NO NO - its not you - its everyone else around you.

That's my story and I'm sticking to it. We escape our Disney world to experience that horrible thing other's call life but then we quickly return to Fantasyland. Or at least I do.

 

[birkner]

HA! Got you beat, oldest DD's BF got kicked/forced out because his GF (my DD) was:

A) White (she's 1/2 Mexican, 1/2 white)
B) Because she's a bad influence
C) Was converting him to English (they went to Spanish Mass)
D) And apparently she has powers and was brainwashing him
E) She was making him into a drug user

the truth:

A) She looks white but was raised by my mom while I was at work hence she's totally hispanic in culture
B) She was a CCD teacher for 5 yrs (all the way from her JR yr in HS) and has paved the road for my other daughter to do volunteer work.
C) She asked him to attend Christmas Eve mass instead of midnight Spanish mass
E) She's an asthmatic and has never done drugs or smoked.

The BF really is a nice guy and when he was forced out, we had no choice but to let him into the house. They sleep in separate bedrooms while they stay here but she is going to College at CSUN (Northridge) and she has her own apt. Oh yeah, she's 18 months from graduating but she's still a bad influence.

The finally straw for me was when said BF told DD that his mom had his and his ex's photo wrapped in herbs and cord (ancient power spell) in the hopes that he would break up with my DD and go back to his ex.

My youngest said, "Really? How's that working out for her?" For some reason, this really made us all laugh. As I've said before, of all 3 of my kids, my oldest DD, is the more mature and level-headed one of my 3 kids - she's very family oriented and is in fact studying to get her degree in child development against all of our wishes. So now, we just laugh about it but I dare say, I can't help but be worried about the future. One can never discount the childhood influences. I've worked very hard to raise my children to be tolerant (even though I may not always be) but to be excluded because she's white? OH? Did I mention, the BF's parents and siblings HAVE NEVER EVEN MEET DD in person. Amazing huh? And here I thought my parents were the biggest biased people on earth. Makes me realize what I finally had. They are not without their faults and may not like someone but at least they are polite and meet our friends, BF's prospective future spouses.

Sad part is, BF acknowledges that we are so Mexican in our traditions it will be sad. DD says his family is not invited to the wedding should they get married. All this and they've been together 11 months. SIGH. Nothing I can do but wait it out. If I push too hard, it will move her right into his arms and she's determined to get her education. Told you she was level-headed. Especially on our dime!

My DD Jennifer's father is Hispanic. He only dates and marries Anglo woman so not a problem in his family. All the women in his life have been blonde and blue eyed. However, I do know they can pretty set in their ways about traditions. Okay so on with my family story.

I divorced him and married my second husband (who died in 1980) when I found out that he had been married once before me, had a child with another woman while he was with her and was cheating on me. DD's sperm donor (that is what she calls bio dad) then married third wife to whom he is still married. DD knows two older siblings and they have stayed in contact. No contact with younger two siblings.

About two years ago, I found both of the siblings on FB. Gave DD their names and she FB them a message. Turns out whole family had been keeping the secret of the other three kids by three different woman. Seems like mom and dad had some 'splain to do. Wasn't pretty as they had to tell whole story, cheating and all because of first two boys birth dates.

After the initial shock and some family drama, the siblings met and have become close. I have met both of them and can't say enough nice things about them. DD told them though bio Dad wanted to meet up with her again, NO WAY!! They keep their relationship separate.


At least you offered, continue to offer intermittantly, when he really hits the end of his rope, he will ask. Love your way of thinking as many people would just let him go. Your a very special person and you are probably blessed to have very many special friendship surrounding you. Takes a bigger person to reach out and continue to stay in touch. God Bless you.

Thanks for the lovely words. He will always be my sister's husband and my nephew's father. I do try as much as I can. He is a sad, lonely man who stopped living really when my sister died. He was not able to make it as an actor and that really was the beginning. Joe saw so many of his friends like Robin Williams make it and he just didn't have the drive or something.

 

[MagicMe]

Well, I just have to pipe up and mention what a fantastic MIL I am!!!. Okay - don't believe anything TheDisneyGirl02 says unless it's good!

I have two DS (no girls) but I am very lucky with my first DIL (she likes Disney so that's a big plus ). Seriously, she is a sweetheart and you are all going to fall in love with her.

The youngest had some nice girlfriends but he now has a wonderful young lady and they seem very well suited for each other (although it's only been about 8 months). I guess a telling sign is that he has remarked several times "she's so much like you"!!!

After raising them on my own (a single parent since the youngest was 9 months old), I'm just happy that both men are good guys and have found such great companions.

Let's face it - as a parent, we just want them to be healthy and happy!

 

[birkner]

Families eh
Your daughter sounds very special.

It is such a shame, cause I dont get on with my mil, we tolerate each other, I really tried to start with for Lens sake, but now I dont bother, she lives right opposite my Mum and I go to my mums 3 times a week(sometimes a day) and hers once a year and thats a chore, it is only recently she has taken Lens pic with his x wife down from the wall, she has no pics of us but many of her other son and his partner,sad thing is, I am very friendly and open person and we could have been friends but you can only try so many times before thinking, stuff it.
Maybe she thought I was a bad influence.....which I obviously am

I can not imagine you MIL not just loving you!! You have such a great wit and I am sure a personality to match. I don't have a MIL, John's mother passed away in 1978. His stepmother Doris is nice enough but not a warm person. John was raised by his mother and stepfather as his parents divorced when he was 4. Doris resents my husband as I have been told as paying child support and helping his family financially put a financial strain on their family.
My SIL Sheryl once told me they used to visit John's maternal grandmother every few weeks to exchange pictures and drop off a check to be sent from Ohio to California. There is a lot more to the story but you can imagine it was not an easy time for a non working Doris with three young children, having to always provide for another child first before he own children.

 

[orlandothebeagle]

Ofcourse you are?

 

[orlandothebeagle]

I can not imagine you MIL not just loving you!! You have such a great wit and I am sure a personality to match. I don't have a MIL, John's mother passed away in 1978. His stepmother Doris is nice enough but not a warm person. John was raised by his mother and stepfather as his parents divorced when he was 4. Doris resents my husband as I have been told as paying child support and helping his family financially put a financial strain on their family.
My SIL Sheryl once told me they used to visit John's maternal grandmother every few weeks to exchange pictures and drop off a check to be sent from Ohio to California. There is a lot more to the story but you can imagine it was not an easy time for a non working Doris with three young children, having to always provide for another child first before he own children.

There is always such a bigger story, Thats why I love my Mum and never hold grudges, her mum died when she was just 8,life just too short.

Who knows, but I love my dis mil's

 

[birkner]

Well, I just have to pipe up and mention what a fantastic MIL I am!!!. Okay - don't believe anything TheDisneyGirl02 says unless it's good!

I have two DS (no girls) but I am very lucky with my first DIL (she likes Disney so that's a big plus ). Seriously, she is a sweetheart and you are all going to fall in love with her.
I feel the same way about my SIL, I couldn't have picked a better one if I tried.

DIL left my GK's for two years to "find herself" She tried women, men and drugs. Nothing worked. Since she couldn't make it on her own, she came home. Oldest boy and youngest boy had the hardest time while she was gone. Middle one is fine, does well in school and life. It has had a more profound impact on the other two. It's not that I don't like her, I just don't like the way she treats my son or the kids. That being said, it is my son's choice and I keep my mouth shut. She doesn't like to share him or GK's with our family so I don't get to see them often. It is just easier to work within her restrictions for now.


The youngest had some nice girlfriends but he now has a wonderful young lady and they seem very well suited for each other (although it's only been about 8 months). I guess a telling sign is that he has remarked several times "she's so much like you"!!!


After raising them on my own (a single parent since the youngest was 9 months old), I'm just happy that both men are good guys and have found such great companions.

Let's face it - as a parent, we just want them to be healthy and happy!

We do want them to be healthy and happy. My only concern with DD's BF is he is not very driven. She work two jobs, studies and is very career driven. He doesn't seem to care if he works a little or a lot. She is very social. He would rather stay home and play video games. They do like to go to football, baseball and other sporting events together. I am sure they have other things in common. I just don't see him as the "forever" one.