Self Esteem

[Loves Disney]

There is this kid right? Okay and so this kid is walking down the high school hallway, the second floor, and is suddenly stopped by two different people. One of the kids is a tall, slender, boy and the other is a short and rather "plump" girl. The boy and girl appear not to know each okay? If fact, they don't. So anyway this kid was about to walk past both the boy and girl when this kid realizes that it is near impossible to do so. You see, the girl and boy remind this kid of the images seen in a mirror. Every morning this kid looks in the mirror and see this short, plump girl and this tall, slender boy...the only thing is, while this kid is trying everything to take half of what the girl is and half of what the boy is, that this kid really can't see what isn't incredibly visible...and that is, this kid's own reflection.

So anyway, this kid is there and thinks silently, "I am glad I am not that girl...look how fat!" and "I would hate being as tall as that boy, I would stand out too much." This kid tries endlessly to pass by these two kids but some force is holding the kid back, so it seems. It's almost as if this kid can't look away! Then the kids realizes that the force disallowing of a pass is the fact that this kid feels bad for the girl and boy...that this kid almost wants to cover them up as if they were a failure of the kid's own experiment...the kid's own failure to put the perfect sides of each together and disregard the rest.

The only problem now is...behind the two kids is a door labled "future". If only the girl and boy weren't in this kid's way, this kid could proudly advance onward.

 

[VolleyballQt07]

Do you have high self-esteem? Do you have low self-esteem?
Somewhere in the middle.

Do you care what others have to say about you?
Yes. Not overly so. It depends on the person, though. If a random person came up and said something negative of me, then yes, I would feel hurt. But only mildly so, whereas if someone I knew personally said the same thing (and I knew they weren't just joking), I would be nearly crushed.

Do you like your appearance?
Sometimes yes, sometimes no. I'm mostly content with my appearance, but I don't like mirrors very much - I can always find some fault here or there.

Do you like your personality?
I think so. Most of the time. I do often wish I were more talkative/social, less self-critical. And I sometimes feel like I ought to be more empathetic than I am.

i feel the same way! i am a volleyball player (pretty obvious) but they are supposed to be loud, outgoing, and willing to meet new people. i am shy, quiet, and it takes me a couple weeks/days to get used to the person/s.

 

[Babyjustrun]

Do you have high self-esteem or low?

In between. I used to have the worst self esteem. I pretty much hated myself, my life and just everyone around me. I had two friends who picked on me endlessly, nothing ever went right and no one liked me. I just couldn't take it. It was probably the worst year of my life. I can honestly say, in grade six I was emo.
Now, I'm better. I have friends who treat me with respect (they're still the same friends, but I have more, and they're nicer). & there's less drama. I know now, to look around the problem. To say, eventually, this is going to be over and it's going to be good. You have to go through the bad to get to the good. I just get down sometimes, because of what people say. I know they mean it in a mean way, but their words resound in my head and I overanalyze things. I become very quiet for a few minutes, say something stupid, and laugh and I'm over it.

Do you care what others have to say about you?

Most of the time, no. Sure, I don't feel comfortable leaving my friends or a group for a few minutes in case they may talk about me behind my back. But, why should I care what they think of me? The only time, I'll care what people think, is if they say it to my face. And then I'll have my rebuttle.

Do you like your appearance?

Yes & no. I don't like my body. I'm short & skinny, but the problem is, when I sit down, I look fat. My stomach like stretches out or something. So I look like a lard. I have to keep my arm over my stomach because I don't like it. I also hate my acne. It's not as bad anymore, but to me it's noticable. Nobody else pays attention at all, but it just pops out to me. I love my hair, and I usually look really cute in the morning, but by the end of the day my hair is gross.

Do you like your personality?

Yes & No. I like that I'm completely random. Like, I'm not dumb, and I don't act dumb, but sometimes my common sense clashes with my randomness. It makes people laugh, and that's what I live for. That's what I love to do. I hate though, that I'm shy. I mean, I don't get used to people quickly, so it takes me forever to get comfortable talking to people. That's why I have such a hard time doing extra curriculars without my friends. I find it's easier to make a friend, when you're with someone you're already friends with. Because, not all the awkwardness is distracted towards you & that person. You've got someone to help keep the conversation alive. I only know one person, that I've ever been able to talk to without having to spend a lot of time with. And he's amazing.

 

[BandGeek911]

Do you have high self-esteem? Not at all.

Do you have low self-esteem? Yes.

Do you care what others have to say about you? I try not to let them know....if it's negative.

Do you like your appearance? Not really XD

Do you like your personality? Kinda sorta. XD

 

[TheGirlin14G]

Do you have high self-esteem?
Do you have low self-esteem?
I think I have fairly high self-esteem.. I'm not afraid to try new things, meet new people, and I'm confident in my abilities.

Do you care what others have to say about you?
I'd love to say I don't, but inevitably I always do.. but I don't get dressed in the morning thinking, "I hope they'll like my shirt".. I look in the mirror and think, "Do I like how I look? Is this how I want to present myself to the world?"

Do you like your appearance?
There is a lot I can improve(I'm a little on the "fairly un-skinny" side) but I do the best with what I have.. I used to hate my face - all I could think about was my big Italian nose that doesn't really fit my face since I have pale skin, red hair, and green eyes.. but I don't know - I guess I grew out of that..

Do you like your personality?
I do like it.. I'm kind of passive - but I'm working on it... I used to be very shy but I'm not quite as quiet anymore.. most people are surprised I'm going to school for musical theater because I am so shy.. they can't see me being loud and assertive on stage - but I command more attention on stage than I ever do in person..

 

[U Just Got PUNKD]

Do you have high self-esteem?
To Be honest, I think I do have High self-esteem.
Do you care what others have to say about you?
No.
Do you like your appearance?
Yes.
Do you like your personality?
Yes.


I think how I am. And if people don't like just deal with it. Mmk. Thanx.

 

[SplshMtnLvr28]

Do you have high self-esteem? Yep.

Do you have low self-esteem? Nope.

Do you care what others have to say about you? Usually.

Do you like your appearance? I love my face. The rest, not so much.

Do you like your personality? I love my personality.

 

[dmslush]

low. pretty low.

depends on who the person is

nope

not really.

i am paranoid. i think that everyone hates me. if i tell someone an anaswer to a question and i know it's correct but someone else says another answer i know is wrong i will still start questionong myself and saying oh maybe the other person is right.
i don't like walking through big crownds or past gruops of teenagers on my own either i think theu're all looking at me even when noone is and they're all thinking errr look at her look at how she is dressed so last season and errr how ugly is she. and i try to explain myself a lot like if i wear a top i like but dont think my mates will i'm like oh i didnt want to but my decent ones are for some reason all in the wash.

i'm just paranoid i guess

Hi! Sparx's mom here. I don't usually post over here, but your post just kind of stood out to me. I just wanted to let you know that feeling like everyone is looking at you is actually a perfectly normal part of adolescence. It is actually called imaginary audience. That basically means that you feel like you are on stage and everyone is watching your every move. Most people feel like that from time to time!! And nine times out of ten, all those kids that you are worried are looking at you, well, they are worried that you are looking at them!! So, try not to worry so much.

 

[Sparkle_Cherry]

Q: Do you have high self-esteem?
A: I wish

Q: Do you have low self-esteem?
A: I have very low self-esteem.

Q: Do you care about what others have to say about you?
A: I think that it really depends on who the person talking about you is, and what they're saying. But yes, it definitely bothers me about what people are saying about me.

Q: Do you like your appearance?
A: No. There is so much I wish I could change about myself, but most of all I have always wanted to be one of those short, 80 pound popular girls at my school. The summer after grade 7, I only ate dinner and sometimes not even that meal if my parents weren't home to notice; I also did over 250 crunches a day. My weight drastically dropped, and I have no idea what my lowest was, but by the time grade 8 came around I was under 100 pounds and 5'7''. Now I have gained some weight and I'm around 120 pounds, but I'm 5'10''. So yeah, I guess you could say I am not happy with my appearance; I spend at least 30 minutes a day just looking in the bathroom mirror at myself and wishing I were somebody else

Q: Do you like your personality?
A: I don't know, I don't really know what my personality is. I'm a little shy, but when I'm around my friends I'm crazy.

~C.B.

 

[coolshannie]

Q: Do you have high self-esteem?
A: I wish

Q: Do you have low self-esteem?
A: I have very low self-esteem.

Q: Do you care about what others have to say about you?
A: I think that it really depends on who the person talking about you is, and what they're saying. But yes, it definitely bothers me about what people are saying about me.

Q: Do you like your appearance?
A: No. There is so much I wish I could change about myself, but most of all I have always wanted to be one of those short, 80 pound popular girls at my school. The summer after grade 7, I only ate dinner and sometimes not even that meal if my parents weren't home to notice; I also did over 250 crunches a day. My weight drastically dropped, and I have no idea what my lowest was, but by the time grade 8 came around I was under 100 pounds and 5'7''. Now I have gained some weight and I'm around 120 pounds, but I'm 5'10''. So yeah, I guess you could say I am not happy with my appearance; I spend at least 30 minutes a day just looking in the bathroom mirror at myself and wishing I were somebody else

Q: Do you like your personality?
A: I don't know, I don't really know what my personality is. I'm a little shy, but when I'm around my friends I'm crazy.

~C.B.

I used to feel that way, I wanted to be just like everyone else, I wanted to be one of those preppy girls who seemed to have it all.. But then i realized that those girls who were super skinny and taller then me.. ( ive always been shorter and smaller then everyone else for simple reasons of being an extremely premature child.) must have really bad self-esteem to make fun of others and to talk about everyone including there own ' friends ' And eventually it hit me, why do i want to be like them? I also eventually made amazing friends who like me for who i am not for my appearance, because there was a time that i hated my appearance and i hated going to school because i hated being outside of that what seemed a tight knit box. But for me everything seemed to get alot better once i got to highschool.. Anyways my point is, Your friends love and care about you for who you are, not for what you look like. So, stop staring at yourself in the mirror so long, put on a smile and say i like who i am because I'm a good person. People will respect you for that, if they take the time to get to know you. Because you know what? Those so called ' popular ' girls aren't worth your time, and most likely one day they will be wishing they have the life you are leading by then.

 

[Sparkle_Cherry]

I used to feel that way, I wanted to be just like everyone else, I wanted to be one of those preppy girls who seemed to have it all.. But then i realized that those girls who were super skinny and taller then me.. ( ive always been shorter and smaller then everyone else for simple reasons of being an extremely premature child.) must have really bad self-esteem to make fun of others and to talk about everyone including there own ' friends ' And eventually it hit me, why do i want to be like them? I also eventually made amazing friends who like me for who i am not for my appearance, because there was a time that i hated my appearance and i hated going to school because i hated being outside of that what seemed a tight knit box. But for me everything seemed to get alot better once i got to highschool.. Anyways my point is, Your friends love and care about you for who you are, not for what you look like. So, stop staring at yourself in the mirror so long, put on a smile and say i like who i am because I'm a good person. People will respect you for that, if they take the time to get to know you. Because you know what? Those so called ' popular ' girls aren't worth your time, and most likely one day they will be wishing they have the life you are leading by then.

I know that you're right, but its just so hard for me to like myself for who I am. I'm kind of like CrazyChik, I always feel like people are watching me. I'm constantly fiddling with my clothes and trying to get my hair to cooperate. But one day in Grade 8 last year I thought to myself, I don't even care about what people look like when I talk to them, so maybe they don't care what I look like either.

I have a real problem with eating in front of the girls at my school too; when I'm with my friends or people I feel comfortable with I can eat a whole pizza or have a carton of icecream to myself if I'm hungry ( LoL, sad I know. I'm a size 3 pig ). But when I'm at school and I'm eating something I feel like people are thinking: ''oh my god, Caitlin's eating a huge lunch today.''

I know its probably not true, but I can't help feel self-conscious about it. I'm sure alot of other people feel the same way sometimes too.

~C.B.

 

[coolshannie]

I know that you're right, but its just so hard for me to like myself for who I am. I'm kind of like CrazyChik, I always feel like people are watching me. I'm constantly fiddling with my clothes and trying to get my hair to cooperate. But one day in Grade 8 last year I thought to myself, I don't even care about what people look like when I talk to them, so maybe they don't care what I look like either.

I have a real problem with eating in front of the girls at my school too; when I'm with my friends or people I feel comfortable with I can eat a whole pizza or have a carton of icecream to myself if I'm hungry ( LoL, sad I know. I'm a size 3 pig ). But when I'm at school and I'm eating something I feel like people are thinking: ''oh my god, Caitlin's eating a huge lunch today.''

I know its probably not true, but I can't help feel self-conscious about it. I'm sure alot of other people feel the same way sometimes too.

~C.B.

I know how you feel, yet then again things are so different now.. Me and my friends take for eachothers lunches and pig out like every day lol.. pretty much we dont really care what other people think of us.. but we have alot of friends from the band.. and band people.. well we are crazy and love to go to in and out burger.. i dno.. i think just.. im not sure.. i suppose its a part of growing up, we all feel insecure at some point but at another point we grow out of this and say i dont care what people think of me.. because i have people who really care about me..

 

[meeshheartsdisney217]

Do you have high self-esteem?
Um I really wished I do, and most of the time i do. i'm not afraid to do things, i love being different, but sometimes i just get too down on myself to get back up. that's why you have friends.
Do you have low self-esteem?
somtimes i do. i just don't show it as much as others do.
Do you care what others have to say about you?
actually, i truely don't. hey, you can talk about me behind my back, but that just shows how much you really are jealous of me and how i act. if i do something that's worth talking about, then it must have affected you, so it just makes me feel good. haha a little weird ik.
Do you like your appearance?
not really. but i've learned to live with it and like it. i mean no boys are coming and telling me how gorgeous i am, but i get some compliments.
Do you like your personality?
I do actually. I think i am a very fun person to be around, and if your not having a fun time, then i must be doing something wrong. Life is too short not to have fun and just worry about what people think of you. They're just people, all that matters is what you think of yourself. I love to laugh, and anyone who doesn't, really needs to get a reality check.

 

[Sparkle_Cherry]

I know how you feel, yet then again things are so different now.. Me and my friends take for each others lunches and pig out like every day lol.. pretty much we dont really care what other people think of us.. but we have alot of friends from the band.. and band people.. well we are crazy and love to go to in and out burger.. i dno.. i think just.. im not sure.. i suppose its a part of growing up, we all feel insecure at some point but at another point we grow out of this and say i dont care what people think of me.. because i have people who really care about me..

I guess you're right; I'll grow out of it eventually and I should in mind what you said. I do have people that care about me and I shouldn't care what other people think. Thanks for the insight, I'll try and be more positive about myself. After all, I'm not exactly hideous. LoL

~C.B.

 

[HSMndLKfan92]

I seriously needed this thread.

Reading other peoples' posts just kind of. . .

I don't know.

I've been in a weird mood lately.

And this thread has given me inspiration.

 

[polysisterchick]

Do you have high/low self-esteem?
it's pretty much half and half.

Do you care what others have to say about you?
nope. well, if they say something behind my back i would like to know what that person said but past that... pshhh. whatever

Do you like your appearance?
I like everything but my nose.

Do you like your personality?
yes, that's pretty much the main thing i will always like about myself

 

[AngienLuLu]

Do you have high self-esteem? Yes

Do you have low self-esteem? No

Do you care what others have to say about you? No, unless it is important

Do you like your appearance? Yes

Do you like your personality? Yes​

 

[Sparkle_Cherry]

There is this kid right? Okay and so this kid is walking down the high school hallway, the second floor, and is suddenly stopped by two different people. One of the kids is a tall, slender, boy and the other is a short and rather "plump" girl. The boy and girl appear not to know each okay? If fact, they don't. So anyway this kid was about to walk past both the boy and girl when this kid realizes that it is near impossible to do so. You see, the girl and boy remind this kid of the images seen in a mirror. Every morning this kid looks in the mirror and see this short, plump girl and this tall, slender boy...the only thing is, while this kid is trying everything to take half of what the girl is and half of what the boy is, that this kid really can't see what isn't incredibly visible...and that is, this kid's own reflection.

So anyway, this kid is there and thinks silently, "I am glad I am not that girl...look how fat!" and "I would hate being as tall as that boy, I would stand out too much." This kid tries endlessly to pass by these two kids but some force is holding the kid back, so it seems. It's almost as if this kid can't look away! Then the kids realizes that the force disallowing of a pass is the fact that this kid feels bad for the girl and boy...that this kid almost wants to cover them up as if they were a failure of the kid's own experiment...the kid's own failure to put the perfect sides of each together and disregard the rest.

The only problem now is...behind the two kids is a door labled "future". If only the girl and boy weren't in this kid's way, this kid could proudly advance onward.

I am very confused; what is this story about? And who?

~C.B.

 

[coolshannie]

The story is about a teen, (like the teen in all of us) That is so consumed about his appearance and what others think of him, that he cant even see his own identity and therefore cant go on with his life, because his appearance is consuming all of his thoughts..

 

[BabyPiglet]

Do you have high self-esteem?
In past years I've been kinda self-concious but this year i'm like who cares?

Do you have low self-esteem?
No

Do you care what others have to say about you?
Not really, unless it's good!

Do you like your appearance?
Yes ithink I look very pretty. I've come to really find my self and my look this year.

Do you like your personality?
I love my personality especially how I can just laugh things off.