Heather:
If you were closer to Charlotte, NC, I would have the perfect dentist for you. My dentist is great. I had a HUGE dental phobia, and went to him when I needed a root canal. He knew of my fear, and never once made me feel bad about it. I brought my walkman, my husband, and he gave me Valium. He's really gentle and caring.
I've gotten a lot better with my fear, to the point where I can go for a cleaning, and maybe a basic filling, without too much anxiety. But now I might need a crown. He recently just took all of the additional schooling he needed to do sedation dentistry, so he said I could be sedated if I want. It's just me, but I don't know if I'd want to be sedated...I'm just not sure. But, if nothing else, he will DEFINITELY be prescibing me some Valium...no doubt about that!!