Seats on the bus

[LilyWDW]

This attitude of "I'm not giving up my seat" is such a northern attitude. I would be willing to put money on most people that have said they wouldn't give it up are from the north. People from the south would more than gladly give you their underpants if they thought you needed worse than they did-they would give you the seat. It's a cultural thing.

Considering I lived 18 years in the North and 11 years in the south, there isn't that much a difference. At least not as big of one that people seem to make it out to be. Jerks are still jerks, no matter where you are from.

Stereotyping for the lose.

 

[meredith1]

Oh Please meredith1, keep dreaming. A "fine southern" gentleman knocked my husband over to get on the tram to Epcot last Christmas. People are people....and rudeness is not geographic.

It's just my everyday life experience and I'm not from the South....it's all learned behavior. We live in a me, me, me society-as evidenced in a majority of these posts. It's just the way it is. No need to get nasty.

 

[stargazertechie]

This attitude of "I'm not giving up my seat" is such a northern attitude. I would be willing to put money on most people that have said they wouldn't give it up are from the north. People from the south would more than gladly give you their underpants if they thought you needed worse than they did-they would give you the seat. It's a cultural thing.

Manners and a sense of right vs. wrong aren't divided North vs. South. Anyone who thinks the way you do has never read a history book

 

[delmar411]

The new golden rule apparently reads, "I've got a seat -- you can stand."

This literally made me LOL

We give up seats when needed. Of course that's a personal judgment call (not everyone standing, wants to sit) but it's how I was raised and how I'm raising my kids. I'd prefer my kids offer up their seats to someone who says no thanks, than just have them sit there and ignore someone who seems to be in more need of a seat than they are. I certainly don't sit on the bus picking out the people who 'should' have given up their seats but didn't!

 

[Magpie]

This attitude of "I'm not giving up my seat" is such a northern attitude. I would be willing to put money on most people that have said they wouldn't give it up are from the north. People from the south would more than gladly give you their underpants if they thought you needed worse than they did-they would give you the seat. It's a cultural thing.

As if!

I'm Canadian, as "Northern" as you like, and "give up your seat to those in need" is actually POSTED in all our busses. It's considered common courtesy around here, and young people foolish (or oblivious) enough to stay parked on their butts often warrant letters to the editor of the local paper.

But hey... it'd be a fun poll! Off to create it. (I hope this doesn't get me in trouble.)

 

[KellyNY]

This attitude of "I'm not giving up my seat" is such a northern attitude. I would be willing to put money on most people that have said they wouldn't give it up are from the north. People from the south would more than gladly give you their underpants if they thought you needed worse than they did-they would give you the seat. It's a cultural thing.

Using same logic then, would you assume that every parent getting on a full bus is from south as well.

 

[Tigger2252]

This attitude of "I'm not giving up my seat" is such a northern attitude. I would be willing to put money on most people that have said they wouldn't give it up are from the north. People from the south would more than gladly give you their underpants if they thought you needed worse than they did-they would give you the seat. It's a cultural thing.

Really?.....Wow. I am a born and bred northerner and believe it or not we too have mothers that taught us manners. I find your comment highly insulting. My family, including my children, will gladly give up our seat to someone in need. We are happy to offer them to seniors, pregnant women, and anyone else that appears to have a physical need for them.

Someone that chose to drag a young child around until they are exhausted doesn't get granted the right to a seat because of their poor judgment. There have been many times that we have not wanted to stand so we waited for the next bus to get a seat. To my knowledge that is an option open to everyone. Even people with exhausted children.

 

[eelderm1]

My son is 18 and able bodied and always gives up his seat for elderly, women, children , etc. I am 36, I look young and I look very healthy . However, I am not healthy! I have had multiple surgeries on my leg due to multiple tumors. If I had to stand on a bus I would loose my balance and fall. I walk with a cane and use scooters at Disney. I would never expect anyone to give me there seat. I would just wait for the next bus because I have to sit! Or we just drive our own car. People are so judgemental! Drives me crazy!

 

[Bonnie151]

This attitude of "I'm not giving up my seat" is such a northern attitude. I would be willing to put money on most people that have said they wouldn't give it up are from the north. People from the south would more than gladly give you their underpants if they thought you needed worse than they did-they would give you the seat. It's a cultural thing.

I don't agree. When I took my kids to Boston when they were 4 & 7 I was GOBSMACKED by the number of people who offered my children a seat while we were riding the T, even during rush hour! I had one person who wouldn't take no for an answer and finally insisted that I take their seat because "your little girl might come sit on your lap if she sees you sitting".

I think it's a "I'm on holiday and I'm hot and cranky and tired, so I'm not offering my seat up" decision. (and to be clear, while I was overwhelmed by the kindness in Boston, not just over the seats but other situations as well, my children are more than capable of standing and I don't think it's rude to not offer a seat)

 

[JimmyJackJunior]

This attitude of "I'm not giving up my seat" is such a northern attitude. I would be willing to put money on most people that have said they wouldn't give it up are from the north. People from the south would more than gladly give you their underpants if they thought you needed worse than they did-they would give you the seat. It's a cultural thing.

I too have lived in both the south and the north. My experience is exactly the opposite. Based on my one week trip to Disneyworld a few years ago, I found Floridians as the least courteous people I have encountered in my life. My wife felt the same. There have been exceptions in both the north and the south but as a rule of thumb, I would have gone the other way.

 

[kat3668]

This is why I now rent a car!!!

 

[Nicoleclaw]

This attitude of "I'm not giving up my seat" is such a northern attitude. I would be willing to put money on most people that have said they wouldn't give it up are from the north. People from the south would more than gladly give you their underpants if they thought you needed worse than they did-they would give you the seat. It's a cultural thing.

Well, I'm from Jersey, actually the Jersey Shore which may make it more surprising, and I would give my seat up. I think most of my friends would have the same mindset as me as well. However, I would have to draw the line at underwear.

 

[Guyton dis lover]

Well, I'm from Jersey, actually the Jersey Shore which may make it more surprising, and I would give my seat up. I think most of my friends would have the same mindset as me as well. However, I would have to draw the line at underwear.

Bad manners are bad manners. It does not matter where you are from. I am a southerner what say you?

 

[NikitaZee]

1) No problem with this.
2) You should have taken the kids back before they got sleepy.
3) Not my fault you waited so long.
4) And, now want a seat someone else has.
5) The seats are for everyone, sleepy or not.

NOTE: Pregnant women, the handicapped, or the elderly are exceptions.
They should be granted a seat.

Yes, to all of this!
I also don't hold my 4 year old on my lap on a crowded monorail. One of his favorite things to do is ride the monorail 'like a big boy'. We'll even wait for the next one so he can sit rather than stand - it's like a ride to him. If I get a dirty look behind that (and I have), I'm prepared to glower right back.

 

[Zuzu03]

Yup, another Canadian here who will absolutely get up and offer her seat. As will my husband from Ohio. But quite honestly, I'm not going to judge if someone doesn't do it, I'm just responsible for what I do. That is all.

 

[meredith1]

Well, I'm from Jersey, actually the Jersey Shore which may make it more surprising, and I would give my seat up. I think most of my friends would have the same mindset as me as well. However, I would have to draw the line at underwear.

LOL @ Nicole-my apologies that I offended some. Again, just my experience.

 

[torinsmom]

I too have lived in both the south and the north. My experience is exactly the opposite. Based on my one week trip to Disneyworld a few years ago, I found Floridians as the least courteous people I have encountered in my life. My wife felt the same. There have been exceptions in both the north and the south but as a rule of thumb, I would have gone the other way.

I don't think Florida is considered the South, as many of the people living there were not born and raised there. Kind of like the city of Cary, NC(Containment area for relocated yankees) That being said, I was born and raised in the South and feel that if I waited for a bus I could sit on, I am going to sit. I am very courteous in most instances, but I don't think standing on buses is safe. I will hold your child, or hold onto your stroller though.

 

[5forDis]

I cannot believe this thread is still going...29 pages later.

As a 'dim' parent/'dumb' parent who got on ONE crowded bus at Disney (then made the decision to rent a car to avoid repeating the mistake because despite what has been said in this thread, I actually care about the safety of my children)...I hope most of you that are bashing the OP and other 'dumb parents' realize that the people who happen to post about the bus issues are usually experiencing it for the first time. They post about it because they surprised by the cattle-like manner of shuffling between the parks. If they only used the Disney website to plan their vacations, they wouldn't realize that the 'free' transportation is not so fabulous.

It sounded great to us---until we had to use it. Most of us find alternatives after experiencing such 'magical' transportation.

My post has been twisted quite a bit. I was 6 months pregnant at Disney (not 9 months). It was a choice we made to go on the trip. I don't regret it---I was healthy and in good shape. My balance was off a bit, though, just from the shift of my body, and that was my husband's concern regarding the bus situation and standing. We definitely didn't expect anyone to jump up and give us a seat. My husband was just so surprised that no one did as I was visibly quite pregnant. In hindsight, we should have waited for another bus because I do think it is a safety issue. We didn't realize how crowded it was when we got on and we were not sure when the next bus would appear. The buses were sporadic...45 minutes, 1 hour, then I have no idea what happened because WE RENTED A CAR.

Taking children to Disney Under Age 5
I don't consider myself a glutton for punishment. We've been taking the children to Disney since they were toddlers (the two older ones were 14 months & 2 years on the first trip to Disneyland---no buses ). It is a great place to vacation with children.

Those of you who choose to wait until your children are 5 yrs of age, do so for whatever reasons you think are necessary. Not all children are hypersensitive to the "hyperstimulation", emom, & when travel is routine, they roll with it.

We've always found trips to Disney to be very easy with the children---young and now even easier as school-aged children. I have never been with a small infant and probably wouldn't attempt it. 6 months & older is how we've done it, but I don't judge families there with babies younger. How in the world do I know their circumstances? Much like all of you say not judge an entire bus of people because they all must have health issues.

I am from the North (have lived in the South) and I was raised to hold the door, give up my seat for someone who might need it more than I do...always for elders...& my little Northerners are raised the same (the boy and the girls). I would never complain to my children about the people on the bus for not giving a seat or glare at anyone. I have no idea why they are remaining in their seat & I will give the benefit of the doubt. I will not be convinced, though, that there was an entire bus with hidden disabilities that we just happened to get on. Spare that excuse. I respect those of you that just honestly say: I waited longer, I snagged a seat while you were lugging the children and stroller in the other door, I am tired, my feet are killing me after walking around the parks, etc.. I don't think the OP was really trying to make anyone feel guilty, but it is interesting how many of you have taken it as a direct insult to you, personally.

This is such a minor transgression to a wonderful vacation for everyone, why can't we all agree to disagree? It fascinates me to read the responses and see how this thread has taken on a life of its own.

 

[sfbank]

Well we are up north too, well north of Florida, in Iowa. DH and I both grew up learning manners as well. That is the Midwest mentality. People help people. Personal choice I will agree but do not lump "northerners" into one category. Both of us, as well as DD, age 13, have given up our seats multiple times, and I have been through two brain surgeries. It is all personal choice some will give up their seats, some physically can't and some choose not too with the nah nah mentality of getting there first. Nobody is going to change another person's perspective either. We can all agree to disagree.

 

[Jey12]

Oh my we've gone from parents with little kids vs. tired adults, to invisible disabilities vs. a blister, to female vs. male, now to north vs. south, but I think is the topper is southern underwear. Honestly I think it's bad manners to offer up your underwear, if you feel someone really needs some go buy them new ones, giving away used underwear is far from polite.


Might as well join in again, midwestern woman here with a small child. Yes I'd offer up my seat if I felt someone needed it. No I'm not going to take a poll and see what person in front of me is most deserving of my seat. No I don't want a pat on the back as a few posters have claimed the reason behind someone offering a seat, yes I feel it's good manners, no I don't find it bad manners if you don't, yes it's how I was raised, no I don't think a thing about anyone not giving up their seat, no I wouldn't expect someone to give their seat to me, yes I have medical issues that would make standing difficult on a bus somedays, yes I still would offer up the seat if I felt the situation was called for, yes I will get on a bus and stay on it if it's standing room only, yes if it's as big of an issue as many have made it into I will just take a cab back to our resort, no I do not feel offering up my bus seat at the end of the day for a 10 minute ride is equal to giving someone my seat on Space Mountain, yes there is a difference between standing in line and standing on a bus (oddly enough I'm one of those that is in more pain standing in line than on a bus), yes I prefer pepsi over coke, yes I like dogs better than cats and no I DO NOT share my underwear even if I think someone might need it. Anything else I might have missed or does that just about cover it?