Screaming children will not be tolerated!

[Wishing on a star]

Ohhhh good grief jodifla,
let's not even go there...

 

[taylor3297]

If you have ever been to this restaurant, it is a small place. Also, inside they do have some funny signs posted, one said something like (Whining will be an extra $10).

The last time I ate there the food was good and I will go back and take my kids. If one of them decide to have a melt down, I will do what I normally do, take the child outside until they calm down. If theyd don't calm down I will step inside realy quick and ask for my food to go.

 

[jodifla]

Okay, I kind of get what you are saying....

However, what I almost wrote in that post, but failed to do so, was this:

How else do you freakin' say it?????
I really and truly and honestly and 100% believe that something like:
"Out of respect for all our patrons, we hope that all parents will make sure that their little snowflakes behave appropriately..."
would not make one iota of difference at all.

I think the overall reaction would be complete and total disregard..
or even

While I do agree that this is a very strongly worded policy-message.
I believe that this was born out of complete and total necessity.

Stores don't have signs that say "Please do not steal"
They say, very clearly "SHOPLIFTERS WILL BE PROSECUTED".

I think once you have the a "please" sign up there, the management has every right to say, "See that sign? We'll pack up your food and meet you up front to pay the bill. Please come again when your child is feeling better."

For me, I see a sign that has "will not be tolerated," and I'm completely turned off.

 

[iwrbnd]

Just watched the video on cnn where she says "I will be my son's voice, just like Rosa Parks I will not get out of my seat" so basically she is saying that she refuses to move if her child is screeming. That is rude to everyone else.

I agree! There are some other stories in the news right now, along with this one, that make me want to scream "Just because you have the right to do something doesn't mean you should!"

We are constantly telling our children "Think of others." It's one of the biggest lessons we want our children to learn! This lady needs to learn it, too!

 

[jodifla]

If you have ever been to this restaurant, it is a small place. Also, inside they do have some funny signs posted, one said something like (Whining will be an extra $10).

The last time I ate there the food was good and I will go back and take my kids. If one of them decide to have a melt down, I will do what I normally do, take the child outside until they calm down. If theyd don't calm down I will step inside realy quick and ask for my food to go.

And that's a totally reasonable thing.

I must not go out to eat enough....when I do, I don't see all these wild, screaming children that are apparently everywhere these days.

 

[golfgal]

How many shrieks is a child allowed in your book? One? Two? Or do you have a zero tolerance policy.

For me, if a parent can get a child calmed in a minute or two, it doesn't bother me. Longer than that, than they should take them out.

I'd also give a pass to a grocery store, although I'd be cutting that trip short and heading to the checkout aisle. And the other big thing is traveling. Can't just throw that baby/toddler/small child off the moving airplane.

That is the whole crux of this thread--parents NOT attempting to DO anything to quiet their child. If a parent is trying it doesn't really bother me as much because if a parent is trying and doesn't succeed, the usually take them out because they GET that their child is annoying everyone else. It is the ones that ignore their children that bother me after the second screech, scream, whatever.

 

[ols386]

That is the whole crux of this thread--parents NOT attempting to DO anything to quiet their child. If a parent is trying it doesn't really bother me as much because if a parent is trying and doesn't succeed, the usually take them out because they GET that their child is annoying everyone else. It is the ones that ignore their children that bother me after the second screech, scream, whatever.

This is it. If a child is screaming/yelling, it's pretty obvious if the parent is trying to get them calmed down or not. And if they don't get them calmed down, then taking them out of the situation is required, at least for a few minutes until they get control.

 

[kaytieeldr]

Yet I have been informed that it is rude of me to allow him to play games at the table.

Suggested audible response, "Thank you for your opinion."
Suggested muttered response, out of earshot, "I don't remember asking for advice, but thanks anyway."

 

[kaytieeldr]

How about Please take your screaming child outside? How about something a bit funny?

It's the "will not be tolerated" part that's annoying to me. My son is well beyond a screaming phase, and when he did we certainly removed him from restaurants, but the way this message is written is nothing to applaud.

In fact, if I came I came across any message in a restaurant where part of the phrase is "will not be tolerated" I'd go elsewhere. Green-headed monsters will not be tolerated, Really rich people will not be tolerated, etc. Says everything you need to know about the management.

Really?

"Obnoxious drunks will not be tolerated"
"Smoking will not be tolerated"
"Abusing our staff will not be tolerated"
"Vandalism will not be tolerated"

Do you see a problem with blanket statements? No, the policy shouldn't be stated in a humorous way. It's a serious policy and needs to be stated clearly. Don't patronize the restaurant. It's in North Carolina; odds are you'd have never gone there anyway.

 

[MushyMushy]

Just watched the video on cnn where she says "I will be my son's voice, just like Rosa Parks I will not get out of my seat" so basically she is saying that she refuses to move if her child is screeming. That is rude to everyone else.

What a nutter.

 

[cheermom1]

I think it is a wonderful Idea. My dh and I have 5 kids and NONE of them would think about doing it now. When dh and I first got together his boys were horrible and we fought and fought till one day one an couple came up to us and said how wonderfully behaved my kids are and the others need to take a lesson form them. It embarrassed him soo bad that he started making them behave.

It is so sad that it has to be posted as a reminder for parents to be parents!

 

[NikitaZee]

This thread reminds me of a little vintage toy store in NYC called 'Love Saves the Day'. They had a sign on the front door that said 'Unattended Children Will Be Sold As Slaves'. I loved the humor of it - although I'm sure some did not - but the message was clear!

 

[jodifla]

Really?

"Obnoxious drunks will not be tolerated"
"Smoking will not be tolerated"
"Abusing our staff will not be tolerated"
"Vandalism will not be tolerated"

Do you see a problem with blanket statements? No, the policy shouldn't be stated in a humorous way. It's a serious policy and needs to be stated clearly. Don't patronize the restaurant. It's in North Carolina; odds are you'd have never gone there anyway.

I think all of the statements are obnoxious. It shows to me the owner doesnt have a very good handle on her restaurant. Most people are not problems....and anyone who is should be handled invisibly.

Most signs just say "no smoking" or "this is a non-smoking facility." I've never seen "Smoking will not be tolerated." It's just a jerky way to put it.

 

[Hannathy]

I think the problem is with the antagonistic way this message is written. Plenty of ways to write this without this approach.

This shows the mean-spiritedness of the restaurant owner, and I'd just go elsewhere.

No more mean spirited than sitting there with your screaming brat and driving the other customers away.

 

[jodifla]

No more mean spirited than sitting there with your screaming brat and driving the other customers away.

And who says I ever did that?

 

[Hannathy]

And who says I ever did that?

I never did don't know why you think that BUT you did say the owner was mean spirited and I pointed out no more mean spirited than the customers who don't control their children.

 

[kaytieeldr]

And who says I ever did that?

Nobody says YOU did. But you're refusing to patronize a restaurant because of the wording on a sign the owner felt compelled to post because, apparently, parents were allowing their children to scream long and loud enough to disturb other patrons.

There's no right to dine in a restaurant. Any parent who feels their child should be permitted to scream, screech, etc., throughout a meal is welcome to permit that behavior at home.

 

[jodifla]

Nobody says YOU did. But you're refusing to patronize a restaurant because of the wording on a sign the owner felt compelled to post because, apparently, parents were allowing their children to scream long and loud enough to disturb other patrons.

There's no right to dine in a restaurant. Any parent who feels their child should be permitted to scream, screech, etc., throughout a meal is welcome to permit that behavior at home.

Actually, I'd skip that restaurant because of the manner of the sign. Like most people, dining with a shrieking child is quite low on my list of good times, even with good seafood and beer.

I, personally, just hate the wording of the sign, so I'd go elsewhere with my money.

 

[Magic Mom]

This thread reminds me of a little vintage toy store in NYC called 'Love Saves the Day'. They had a sign on the front door that said 'Unattended Children Will Be Sold As Slaves'. I loved the humor of it - although I'm sure some did not - but the message was clear!

I've seen a sign that said "Unattended children will be given massive amounts of caffeine and a free puppy."

 

[sunnyday123]

Actually, I'd skip that restaurant because of the manner of the sign. Like most people, dining with a shrieking child is quite low on my list of good times, even with good seafood and beer.

I, personally, just hate the wording of the sign, so I'd go elsewhere with my money.

I don't understand how the wording of the sign is offensive. What would have been a better way to write it? There wasn't a mean face drawn on it, or a picture of a specific kid.