For me personally it has nothing to do with being (over) protective. I wouldn't have an issue with signing #1 or #2, but #3 takes it too far. There is no reason for the school to have access to those things, whether they intend to use them or not. Its the principle of the matter that they seem to think they are entitled to personal medical info. I as a parent will inform the school of anything they need to know regarding my child.
That is because you are a good mom. I'm a Peds NP, and used to be a boarding school nurse. So probably a different situation, because the staff I worked with had to be the "parent". When a kid came to me - a lot of the time it was routine, but at least two or three times a week I had to send kids to the hospital, and several times a year I had to make decisions that at times were life and death. I had kids literally crash on me. I ran a service full clinic at the school I worked with. It was stressful.
Several times, I had children who had major medical problems show up to the school without medicines. The parents did not tell the school in advance that the the children had chronic health issues - like diabetes. Further, several times, I had children show up where their parents had failed to disclose their condition because they were afraid we would reject the child's application to our school. We took medically complex children. But they would just sent them on a hope and a prayer - and the kid would literally crash after they had been there a week or so. This did not just happen to one kid, but several.
And it would be my job to dig through their paperwork and see that mom or dad didn't disclose. This would happen as I was trying to get records for a kid that was sick, getting sicker, or for a kid who was at an ER or who was admitted to a hospital.
And then it would be my job to get their records from where they used to live. I used a form that gave me permission to get whatever records I needed - educational, healthcare - anything. Because these were teenagers, they were usually able to tell me what clinics they had gone to recently. I started there. If the kid didn't know, I would call the parents / family and I would usually get that information - if they weren't forthcoming, the staff would usually talk to them and discuss sending that kid back home when they were stable. Usually they were concerned and they would start to tell me the information, though.
Then I would get everything faxed to me, and then I would somehow piece together a recent medical record. Then, I could paw through that and figure out what in the world I could do with this kid; what their previous routine meds were supposed to be, and what I needed to do. I found all kinds of things that as a boarding school nurse, that I HAD to know. And the dorm staff who took care of the kids and gave them their medicines? They needed to know too.
The population I work with is disadvantaged and tends to get disjointed care in the first place, so getting a good history is very hard.
I think that the people in this thread are being very hard on school nurses in general. I have been there and if you are a real school nurse (and I'm not talking the secretary who has been trained to put a band-aid on someone) and if you are really having to treat a kid - you need real information sometimes. And it stinks not to have it - especially if parents are not forthcoming. The people on the dis are generally middle class, involved parents. Not every parent is forthcoming about their child's medical history... and sometimes in healthcare, nurses have to track down records and try to treat a kid without hurting them. Who knows what sort of school nursing is going on in the OP's school - but if it was a full service clinic like the type of clinic I ran, previous records are VERY, very important.
OK, off my soap box!!