Disney Ella
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I know you are sick of hearing about school situations so I will try to make this short.
I have twin nine-year-old (4th grade) daughters. My second daughter has a little bit of trouble on and off with math. Last year when she started having trouble, I bought a copy of her math book and started working with her. She improved and finished the school year with a B in math.
Yesterday, this DD brought home a paper saying she was selected to participate in the basic skills pull out group due to a low ASK3 test score in math. All that was given was a number with no explanation as to where she fell in the testing. I found the scoring manual on the Internet and discovered that her score was within the proficient range. DD was so upset about the possibility of being in this group and she is afraid of the woman who teaches it. As she had a B in math previously and was at least proficient on the standardized testing, I saw no reason for her to be in this group and explained my reasoning in a letter.
The woman who teaches this group called me today and was, in my opinion, antagonistic and abrasive. She said the reason DD was selected to be in this group was because the classroom teacher said that DD failed the first chapter test. This teacher said that the principal said that DD is going to be in the group and that is that! DD did fail the chapter test because she only had 15 minutes to complete it due to her inschool flute lesson and hurried through the test so she wouldn't have to stay after school.
DD's teacher has never mentioned anything to me about problems or I would have already begun to work with DD again. I know that if I start working with DD again, she can bring her grade up. Both DH and I managed to get through college and while I don't remember calculus, I think I can still handle fourth grade math.
The main reason that I don't want to force DD to do this is that I don't want people to refer to the twins as "the smart one and the other one." These labels tend to become self-fulfilling prophecies. If I can't get DD up to speed, then of course I would hire a tutor for her, but I don't see how the school can force me to put her in this group. She is already a nervous child and I don't want to make things any worse for her.
Can the school force me to do this?
I have twin nine-year-old (4th grade) daughters. My second daughter has a little bit of trouble on and off with math. Last year when she started having trouble, I bought a copy of her math book and started working with her. She improved and finished the school year with a B in math.Yesterday, this DD brought home a paper saying she was selected to participate in the basic skills pull out group due to a low ASK3 test score in math. All that was given was a number with no explanation as to where she fell in the testing. I found the scoring manual on the Internet and discovered that her score was within the proficient range. DD was so upset about the possibility of being in this group and she is afraid of the woman who teaches it. As she had a B in math previously and was at least proficient on the standardized testing, I saw no reason for her to be in this group and explained my reasoning in a letter.
The woman who teaches this group called me today and was, in my opinion, antagonistic and abrasive. She said the reason DD was selected to be in this group was because the classroom teacher said that DD failed the first chapter test. This teacher said that the principal said that DD is going to be in the group and that is that! DD did fail the chapter test because she only had 15 minutes to complete it due to her inschool flute lesson and hurried through the test so she wouldn't have to stay after school.
DD's teacher has never mentioned anything to me about problems or I would have already begun to work with DD again. I know that if I start working with DD again, she can bring her grade up. Both DH and I managed to get through college and while I don't remember calculus, I think I can still handle fourth grade math.
The main reason that I don't want to force DD to do this is that I don't want people to refer to the twins as "the smart one and the other one." These labels tend to become self-fulfilling prophecies. If I can't get DD up to speed, then of course I would hire a tutor for her, but I don't see how the school can force me to put her in this group. She is already a nervous child and I don't want to make things any worse for her.
Can the school force me to do this?

