Save the drama for yo' Mama!!

[Ashbiez]

*warning - I ramble on... a LOT... in this post*

Okay first, can I just let out a frustrated scream??

AAAARRRRGHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!

Ah. Much better. Okay so I'm going on a trip in 7 days and there's starting to be SO MUCH DRAMA. I just need to get it off my chest to the un-involved as well as ask for some advice - PLEASE!!

So here's the deal:
My BF and I are going to Florida next Wednesday. A guy friend of the BF is getting married on Thursday on a Carnival Cruise and we were lucky enough to be invited to come along with them. There's going to be a pretty large group of friends going along.

Now, we decided to add 5 days of Disney on to the trip after the 4 day cruise (to the bahamas! woo!). So all together its a 10 day vacation.
The wedding is 1 day - actually its the MORNING of the first full day of vacation.

The couple getting married has decided to start throwing fits all over Facebook (yes it is as immature as it sounds) because everyone is counting down until "vacation" rather than to their wedding. Yes, their wedding is the "reason" for the trip. But in reality we would have taken a vacation - most likely to WDW - this year anyways, so their wedding only dictated the timing of the trip. Not the trip itself. I have been biting my tongue because I tend to be an instigator of drama sometimes (apparently my sarcastic tone doesn't always come across so well in these situations... lol). I really feel as though this is a preview of what's to come during that 4 day cruise with this group though.

I'm sorry, but who (aside from immediate family or members of the wedding party maybe) actually excitedly counts down to someone else's wedding? One of my very best friends got married last fall and I was super excited... but I wasn't counting down the days on facebook about it (except to write on her wall "oooh one more week until you are a mrs" etc). This just seems silly.

Since I usually add to drama (because its fun and hilarious) or just walk away from it (because once it stops being fun its just annoying) - I really need advice on how to keep biting my tongue with this kind of poop. When we're laying by the pool my plan is to just pop in my iPod headphones and tune it out - but at dinners, etc I'll be going crazy!

Well, thanks for listening and thanks for any advice that comes my way!

 

[Ashbiez]

60+ views and no one has input? oh well.

 

[PammieJ]

Let's wonder if anyone who is so immature as to post rants about this topic on FB is old enough to actually get married? If that's all she has to worry about, I predict a short marriage.

I would totally, totally ignore this behavior, and have a good time.

 

[Ashbiez]

I know, isn't it ridiculous? You'd think with a wedding in less than a week she'd be busy doing other things besides facebook! haha.

I agree with the short marriage!
Thanks for the response. I realized that just writing it all out made me feel better about it. And I've decided to just laugh it all off.

After all, it is my vacation too and I want to have fun - even if they want petty drama to ruin their wedding

 

[mster425]

I think you don't have responses because no one wants to trash your friend

I have to try SO HARD not to respond to the crap people post about on their FB. Do I and your second cousin need to know about your gyno appt?

I cannot stand people who make drama out of nothing. HOWEVER, she's your friend so you should cut her some slack since planning a wedding/getting married is a little stressful- you can make fun of her for it AFTERWARDS


Good luck and enjoy your VACATION!!

 

[Ashbiez]

Thanks - I agree with the TMI on facebook sometimes! I don't really need a play-by-play of your day... haha

And she's not my friend. Not at all. I used to be best friends with the groom until he started dating her. She then decided he could no longer have friends who were girls - no joke. Only reason I was invited at all was because my BF is still friends with him.

 

[mster425]

she sounds super. some people just can't not start stuff.

no female friends- ultimatums are awesome in relationships

 

[Ashbiez]

oh ultimatums... aren't they though?

in every picture i've ever seen of her, she looks like she is sitting on a nail. I don't think i've ever seen the girl smile the few times i've seen her in person either.

instead of congrats i should just say "good luck" to him. hehe

 

[WizardLarz]

Doesn't smile? Sounds like Kristen Stewart to me! That Not Hot actress. I swear I've never seen the girl ever smile in a single red carpet Picture!

She sounds like a total BrideZilla, wait untill you're no the Cruise before you start trouble! What can see do then throw you overboard?

 

[Ashbiez]

Doesn't smile? Sounds like Kristen Stewart to me! That Not Hot actress. I swear I've never seen the girl ever smile in a single red carpet Picture!

She sounds like a total BrideZilla, wait untill you're no the Cruise before you start trouble! What can see do then throw you overboard?

oh man, this made me crack up!!! The only diff is kristen stewart pouts all the time. This chick just looks like she's pissed off and in pain. what an AWESOME way to live!

I like the idea of starting trouble on the cruise... hehe. Although BF might get mad at me for that and I'm stuck with him longer than just the cruise

hehe, thanks for the giggles, tho!

 

[disney_girl2010]

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[Ashbiez]

Okay, she's getting married on a Cruise? How can she expect people to not think it's like a vacation!!?? Those are called "destination/vacation" type weddings! She seems like the type to want all the attention on her and since you are not her friend and she doesn't allow you to be friends with her DH to be, then I would say who cares what she thinks! RIGHT? You go girl! Have fun on YOUR Vacation and just wish your BF's friend "good-luck" with this one because he IS gonna need it! Unless she snarls at you for even speaking to him!

Okay I have to say, this is all making me feel SO much better about the drama she's causing! I was worried that I would get flamed for not being considerate of it being her wedding day and blah blah blah...

ooh, she might snarl... in which case, i will take a picture and/or video to post here as proof of her craziness!

 

[disney_girl2010]

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[NedsTJ]

For my 2c, I would ignore the posts and don't sink down to that level of immaturity. She is probably reacting to the stress of getting married...now that it's sinking in that she actually is getting married!
I say just have fun...once the wedding is over you really don't need to think about it...they aren't expecting people to do "wedding things" with them the remaining days on the cruise, are they?

 

[Ashbiez]

For my 2c, I would ignore the posts and don't sink down to that level of immaturity. She is probably reacting to the stress of getting married...now that it's sinking in that she actually is getting married!
I say just have fun...once the wedding is over you really don't need to think about it...they aren't expecting people to do "wedding things" with them the remaining days on the cruise, are they?

I could see how it could be the stress of getting married and all, but pissing off half your guests who are traveling far and paying a lot of money to go to your wedding probably isn't the best way to handle that.

As far as the rest of the cruise - when we asked about shore excursions, etc and if we were all doing anything together they basically said that after the wedding they wanted to be left alone.
They booked their room on the opposite side of the ship & a different level from the block of rooms we're all in.

 

[dalmatian7]

see I would be glad the wedding is at the beginning of you VACATION. if they want nothing to do with anyone after than I say WHOOOO HOOOO. Have a great trip.

I have dealt with this type of bridezilla before, they are beyond reasoning with. Good luck and have a great trip

 

[Bob NC]

I've found that most people that use the word "Drama", like it and like to be IN it.

 

[Ashbiez]

I've found that most people that use the word "Drama", like it and like to be IN it.

Well that's weird, because I'm pretty sure its obvious that's not the case with me.

What word would you use for this behavior? Really, I'm curious to expand my vocabulary

 

[RabFlmom]

Well that's weird, because I'm pretty sure its obvious that's not the case with me.

What word would you use for this behavior? Really, I'm curious to expand my vocabulary

Immaturity on both your parts. Geesh give her a break.Wait till you plan a wedding and see how you react..... Getting married is hectic.....most brides cry as the day gets closer worried that it just isn't going the way they planned for the wedding. Even the littlest thing can upset the bride-remembering my sister being so upset when she saw the wedding cake for the first time---one of her colors was just not quite right.....the wedding started 15 minutes late because she had to calm down...LOL

As the bride someday you will not want to be out-staged or put on the back burner either. Whats the harm to you to just act like a friend and be excited with her about the wedding? You will still be going on your vacation. She might even decide that her husband's old friend is worth having as a friend, too.